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Help...not major issue but some advice would be good nonetheless...

Hi Everyone, I'm new to all this so excuse any of my mistakes. I've got something that has been bugging me for a while now. So I'll start from the beginning.

I knew this guy ages ago...I think it's been about 6 years now, from school. We were classmates so got along naturally, but I never thought of us as close friends or anyting. After school, we lost contact but only till about college we found each others email addresses by chance and sent a hello email once in a blue moon. Nothing out of the ordinary you may say...

Since i started uni, I discovered the world of MSN messenger and have kept in contact with my friend this way...Still normal. Only thing is I noticed him starting to flirt with me and stuff and then one day when we were chatting he asked me if I wanted to be more than friends with him...Now i was shocked because I didn't think of him in this way. But since then i havent been able to stop thinking about it.

What do I do... Any advice would be good. Very confused about my feelings.... :confused:
Reply 1
have a go, what the hell, you are only young once. lol
Reply 2
Oh and I forgot to say that I'm not sure if he was joking with me or not and don't really know how to go about finding out...
Reply 3
well you speak to him in an ambiguous manner as well!!!
Thanks EverDawn ...But what was I saying...it IS a major issue (to me) and some advice would be EXCELLENT!! Would welcome repplies from some guys as well... :rolleyes:
Reply 5
Thanks EverDawn...

Just looked again at what I said and I'll just reiterate that i think...It IS becoming a major issue and some asvice would be excellent as I am at my wits end...

Thanks again :biggrin: :biggrin:
Reply 6
Go for it!!! If you get on well, and u cant stop thinking of him then its probably a good sign!!




Why the need to be anonymous though?
Reply 7
Just ask him outright if he was been serious. If you'd rather not say it to him on MSN, email it. A lot easier that way. Maybe even send him a link to this thread? You never know until you try.
Take a deep breath and go for it.
Reply 8
Anonymous
Hi Everyone, I'm new to all this so excuse any of my mistakes. I've got something that has been bugging me for a while now. So I'll start from the beginning.

I knew this guy ages ago...I think it's been about 6 years now, from school. We were classmates so got along naturally, but I never thought of us as close friends or anyting. After school, we lost contact but only till about college we found each others email addresses by chance and sent a hello email once in a blue moon. Nothing out of the ordinary you may say...

Since i started uni, I discovered the world of MSN messenger and have kept in contact with my friend this way...Still normal. Only thing is I noticed him starting to flirt with me and stuff and then one day when we were chatting he asked me if I wanted to be more than friends with him...Now i was shocked because I didn't think of him in this way. But since then i havent been able to stop thinking about it.

What do I do... Any advice would be good. Very confused about my feelings.... :confused:

that sounds a bit deja-vu :redface: try talking to one of your close freinds or something. don't let them make a decision for you or to do.
Reply 9
Say yes!
Reply 10
yeh say yes!
Reply 11
Erm I kinda didnt really respond at the time (due to the shock and palpitations...lol) but when I DID say that I might be interested as well (recently) he said he'd have to think about it...I'm guessing that means that he was joking???? :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

I mean what does "I have to think about it " MEAN??
Bit of a sadistic joke tbh...

I certainly hope it wasn't. That's the crappy thing about msn, email etc. You have no perception of tone or body language. If he was joking in this circumstance it would be quite easy to tell. I suggest you probe further and suss out his interest in more subtle ways..
Reply 13
ApeXaviour

I suggest you probe further and suss out his interest in more subtle ways..


Thanks dude but subtle how? Erm... :biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin: Any suggestions???
Anonymous
Thanks dude but subtle how? Erm... :biggrin: :biggrin: :biggrin: Any suggestions???

Myself and MagicNMedicine wrote some good ideas down here:
http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=189972&page=2

Once with a friend I also did some tests to see if she was interested.. Just playful suggestions. She gets me a drink and I ask "ah you're just trying to get me drunk :wink:". Suggest things to see if he wants to spend time with you. Make an observational guess rather than using blind hope..
Wow...you guys really know your stuff..Thanks Apexavior... :biggrin: Great advice...I'll definately give those things a go...Very good...You aren't a psychology student by any chance are you? :smile: :smile:
Reply 16
Wow you guys give great advice!...thanks Apexaviour :biggrin: I'll definately give those things a go...You're not a psychology student by any chance are you? :smile: :smile: (Kind of got a reverse psychology thing going on) :biggrin:
No, I'm a physics student. :smile:

It's only observation and experience.