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He is 6500 miles away
I guess this is what happens when you fall in love with someone from the other side of the world.
I've been apart from him before, and I've coped with it fine (I have missed him, but its been ok) but this is the first time time he's gone back home without me. It's only a week but somehow, it feels different.
Normally I deal with it by talking to him every day, but it won't be possible for the next week. I know it sounds pathetic, but there must be others who've felt this. how did you deal with it?
I've been apart from him before, and I've coped with it fine (I have missed him, but its been ok) but this is the first time time he's gone back home without me. It's only a week but somehow, it feels different.
Normally I deal with it by talking to him every day, but it won't be possible for the next week. I know it sounds pathetic, but there must be others who've felt this. how did you deal with it?
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No offence but with such distances I believe you're kidding yourselves
scarlet ibis
I guess this is what happens when you fall in love with someone from the other side of the world.
I've been apart from him before, and I've coped with it fine (I have missed him, but its been ok) but this is the first time time he's gone back home without me. It's only a week but somehow, it feels different.
Normally I deal with it by talking to him every day, but it won't be possible for the next week. I know it sounds pathetic, but there must be others who've felt this. how did you deal with it?
I've been apart from him before, and I've coped with it fine (I have missed him, but its been ok) but this is the first time time he's gone back home without me. It's only a week but somehow, it feels different.
Normally I deal with it by talking to him every day, but it won't be possible for the next week. I know it sounds pathetic, but there must be others who've felt this. how did you deal with it?
It is called growing up. Stop living in a teenage relationship and learn to act in a mature relationship. Taking to him everyday was your mistake, now you can't even go a few days... I frankly find it pathetic. The only was to cope is to go cold turkey and start being more mature about oyour relationship...
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He is only in Taiwan for a week! Normally we're students togther in Cambridge. So I don't think we're kidding ourselves!
And yes, you're right, Indus, although i find the tone of your post slightly rude, we should not need to to talk every day. But I think we only talk because we can. Obviously we enjoy talking to each other, but we've never been in a situation where we can't talk/msn each other.
So i'm just going to get lots of work done and keep my mind off him (if i can!) which i guess means get off TSR and work!!
edit: Becca, thanks for the kind reply!
And yes, you're right, Indus, although i find the tone of your post slightly rude, we should not need to to talk every day. But I think we only talk because we can. Obviously we enjoy talking to each other, but we've never been in a situation where we can't talk/msn each other.
So i'm just going to get lots of work done and keep my mind off him (if i can!) which i guess means get off TSR and work!!
edit: Becca, thanks for the kind reply!
scarlet ibis
He is only in Taiwan for a week! Normally we're students togther in Cambridge. So I don't think we're kidding ourselves!
And yes, you're right, Indus, although i find the tone of your post slightly rude, we should not need to to talk every day. But I think we only talk because we can. Obviously we enjoy talking to each other, but we've never been in a situation where we can't talk/msn each other.
So i'm just going to get lots of work done and keep my mind off him (if i can!) which i guess means get off TSR and work!!
edit: Becca, thanks for the kind reply!
And yes, you're right, Indus, although i find the tone of your post slightly rude, we should not need to to talk every day. But I think we only talk because we can. Obviously we enjoy talking to each other, but we've never been in a situation where we can't talk/msn each other.
So i'm just going to get lots of work done and keep my mind off him (if i can!) which i guess means get off TSR and work!!
edit: Becca, thanks for the kind reply!
You're welcome.....my boyfriend lives in Norway so I know a bit about long distances!
If you text each other it will be good, because it doesn't take up a lot of time, but you still feel some sort of connection....if you see what I mean.
I hope your week goes quickly!
thanks thats a good idea. texts are also a lot cheaper! aargh should work!
I've not seen my boyfriend for 3 weeks and won't see him until he comes back for the start of term - it's very hard! Am currently looking at my phone every 5mins because I've not spoken to him since Monday. It's a bit sad, but it shows you care. Texts and emails will still be there when he gets back so he'll know you've been thinking of him and appreciate the thought, and it might make you feel a bit closer to him. Then once you've written them you can get back to work!
All I can say is that the first few days are always the worst. I tend to practically live at my boyfriend's over the holidays, and then when I get back to uni I feel like I've had a limb ripped off 
We've got a 2 week separation coming up and I'm dreading it because I'm so used to seeing/hearing/hugging him anytime I want at the moment and there just seems to be a huge space when he's gone. Seriously though, be glad you'll get to be with him soon, keep busy this week and get as much done as you can so that you can enjoy being with him on his return. Try and even take advantage of him being away by catching up with your friends every night. I really do know how you feel but it's honestly not long to go xxx
We've got a 2 week separation coming up and I'm dreading it because I'm so used to seeing/hearing/hugging him anytime I want at the moment and there just seems to be a huge space when he's gone. Seriously though, be glad you'll get to be with him soon, keep busy this week and get as much done as you can so that you can enjoy being with him on his return. Try and even take advantage of him being away by catching up with your friends every night. I really do know how you feel but it's honestly not long to go xxxbewithoutyou
All I can say is that the first few days are always the worst. I tend to practically live at my boyfriend's over the holidays, and then when I get back to uni I feel like I've had a limb ripped off We've got a 2 week separation coming up and I'm dreading it because I'm so used to seeing/hearing/hugging him anytime I want at the moment and there just seems to be a huge space when he's gone. Seriously though, be glad you'll get to be with him soon, keep busy this week and get as much done as you can so that you can enjoy being with him on his return. Try and even take advantage of him being away by catching up with your friends every night. I really do know how you feel but it's honestly not long to go xxx
We've got a 2 week separation coming up and I'm dreading it because I'm so used to seeing/hearing/hugging him anytime I want at the moment and there just seems to be a huge space when he's gone. Seriously though, be glad you'll get to be with him soon, keep busy this week and get as much done as you can so that you can enjoy being with him on his return. Try and even take advantage of him being away by catching up with your friends every night. I really do know how you feel but it's honestly not long to go xxx
Couldn't have put it better! I'm just like you only I see my boyfriend at uni and not during the hols. Going to visit him tomorrow though after 3 weeks, can't WAIT!
I wonder is it purely coincidental or more than that, the fact that those who say "grow up" or that your situation is "pathetic" tend to be guys (at least on this occasion)?
I do know how you feel, I'm currently at college doing A-levels and my boyfriend is in his first year at university. Although he is not too far away (around 2 hours drive) I greatly miss him although we see each other as often as is possible.
The point is it tends to be girls who miss the most and I think that those people who are making nasty comments about you are being too harsh, as they probably havn't been in your position.
My advice would be like you said - to keep busy and also to think of the reunion to try and get you through it Good Luck!
I do know how you feel, I'm currently at college doing A-levels and my boyfriend is in his first year at university. Although he is not too far away (around 2 hours drive) I greatly miss him although we see each other as often as is possible.
The point is it tends to be girls who miss the most and I think that those people who are making nasty comments about you are being too harsh, as they probably havn't been in your position.
My advice would be like you said - to keep busy and also to think of the reunion to try and get you through it
Good Luck!yummyfudge7
I wonder is it purely coincidental or more than that, the fact that those who say "grow up" or that your situation is "pathetic" tend to be guys (at least on this occasion)?
I do know how you feel, I'm currently at college doing A-levels and my boyfriend is in his first year at university. Although he is not too far away (around 2 hours drive) I greatly miss him although we see each other as often as is possible.
The point is it tends to be girls who miss the most and I think that those people who are making nasty comments about you are being too harsh, as they probably havn't been in your position.
My advice would be like you said - to keep busy and also to think of the reunion to try and get you through it Good Luck!
I do know how you feel, I'm currently at college doing A-levels and my boyfriend is in his first year at university. Although he is not too far away (around 2 hours drive) I greatly miss him although we see each other as often as is possible.
The point is it tends to be girls who miss the most and I think that those people who are making nasty comments about you are being too harsh, as they probably havn't been in your position.
My advice would be like you said - to keep busy and also to think of the reunion to try and get you through it
Good Luck!Thise who make the "grow up" comments know what they are talking about. We have all been in the same position in some way as OP.
Hey, I can really identify with the 'missing him' thing. In the summer I went on a volunteer project to the rainforest in Central America which lasted a month and I had literally no contact with my boyfriend for that time- no mobiles/post/anything at all. We'd never been apart for longer than a weekend, but we managed it... coming home was amazing but being apart made our relationship stronger.
One thing which really helped us was: we went out together and bought a note book each before I went away, and then for that month we wrote to each other when we needed to talk and were missing the other one. We also just wrote about what we'd done that day we knew what the other had been doing. Granted, mine was fuller than his was as a) I'm the English student and b) I was the one in the rainforest with plenty of time on my hands. It was really great coming home and reading what he put. He wrote some amazing things that I didn't ever imagine he'd write and I cried when I read it. My book became 'him' while I was out there and it even became referred to in the group as my (insert boyfriend’s name). It sounds really soppy now, but at the time it was such a relief to have that book, it honestly did help.
One thing which really helped us was: we went out together and bought a note book each before I went away, and then for that month we wrote to each other when we needed to talk and were missing the other one. We also just wrote about what we'd done that day we knew what the other had been doing. Granted, mine was fuller than his was as a) I'm the English student and b) I was the one in the rainforest with plenty of time on my hands. It was really great coming home and reading what he put. He wrote some amazing things that I didn't ever imagine he'd write and I cried when I read it. My book became 'him' while I was out there and it even became referred to in the group as my (insert boyfriend’s name). It sounds really soppy now, but at the time it was such a relief to have that book, it honestly did help.
Aww beanie that's so sweet!
Thats amazing. If we ever have to be apart for a long time, I'll suggest it to him. thanks
edit: he just called from Taipei
edit: he just called from Taipei
Indus1986
Thise who make the "grow up" comments know what they are talking about. We have all been in the same position in some way as OP.
You could say that, or you could call them patronising, cold hearted gits.
Thanks to everyone who posted constructive comments - i feel much better now, from reading sympathetic posts and because he called me last night and I know he's arrived safely
thanks yeah i know he'll keep in contact if he can, cos its important to him and he knows its important to me. Although he'll be so busy seeing family and rushing around that he'll not have time to miss me as much as i miss him. also its a girl thing - we miss our guys more, in general. Not that they don't think about us, but they're better at just getting on with it i think.
yeah i know he'll keep in contact if he can, cos its important to him and he knows its important to me. Although he'll be so busy seeing family and rushing around that he'll not have time to miss me as much as i miss him. also its a girl thing - we miss our guys more, in general. Not that they don't think about us, but they're better at just getting on with it i think.
My previous girlfriend spent 7 months in Israel and then I spent 6 months in Switzerland and our relationship lasted 5 years. I can't say long periods apart are good for relationships though.
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