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Most pathetic life?

Hi im trying not to make it into a sympathy thread but is any one elses life as pathetic as mine? Since I quit uni a few months ago constantly I slept all day and was just walking round the house listening to music, TV etc all night, my sleeping patten was from about 9am - 6pm and I hardly left the house, my parents were going mad lol my patterns normal now but I still dont go out clubbing etc I just seem like and probably am just a sad loser at the moment my parents are saying its not right for a 20 year old, then again ive always been really quiet and not gone out. I do have friends but odd ones they don't know each other lol. According to my parents I wind them up all the time cause they keep questioning me and it turns into an argument most nights about my 'behaviour' then they say Ive wound them up again and am totally selfish, I know I shouldnt be living at home at 20 but I am. They keep telling me to get a job but I have this anxiety thing so am trying to avoid commitment as much as it sounds like it its not an excuse im just a wimp and worrying about panicking or going dizzy is constantly on my mind! My aunty is constantly telling them to cancel the internet which I don't even pay for (I know I should im really spoilt) but shes trying to make things even worse.

Is there only me like this? I just wanna know what you all think realisticly (sp) I know im pathetic but im actually satisfied cause im planning to go back to uni (if the anxiety goes) just what do you think of it all honestly?

Reply 1

good mermington

get a job

Reply 2

good mermington

get a job

Should I just try and ignore the panic then? Its like if I felt dizzy or something during the work I wouldn't be able to say anything without it being embarrasing.

Reply 3

alej18

5

see a psychiatrist. you can probably get some pills to help you with your anxiety if that fails.

Reply 4

Refused

Get back into Uni or get a job. Atleast do something with your life.

Reply 5

alio~

9

superalex16

see a psychiatrist. you can probably get some pills to help you with your anxiety if that fails.

I will its just I don't wanna be like this all my life depending on pills/councelling etc.

Reply 6

JustJam2006

9

Anonymous

Is there only me like this? I just wanna know what you all think realisticly (sp) I know im pathetic but im actually satisfied cause im planning to go back to uni (if the anxiety goes) just what do you think of it all honestly?

Firstly, you are NOT pathetic and NO you are not the only one so stop telling yourself that you are. It's easy to get into a rut or slightly depressed and not feel like doing a thing. I know because I have felt like that and i think my life is pretty pathetic too...not everyone's life is as exciting as they would have you believe... :smile:

. Best thing is to try and sort things out slowly but surely but in YOUR own time. Also have you got a hobby? Sometimes that helps. I got myself in the habit of not leaving the house for days and its a very dangerous habit to entertain. You sound like things are looking up though so best of luck with returning to uni :biggrin:

Hopefully that'll give you something to keep you entertained for a while :rolleyes:

Good luck...

Reply 7

hanadeka2002

Anonymous

Hi im trying not to make it into a sympathy thread but is any one elses life as pathetic as mine? Since I quit uni a few months ago constantly I slept all day and was just walking round the house listening to music, TV etc all night, my sleeping patten was from about 9am - 6pm and I hardly left the house, my parents were going mad lol my patterns normal now but I still dont go out clubbing etc I just seem like and probably am just a sad loser at the moment my parents are saying its not right for a 20 year old, then again ive always been really quiet and not gone out. I do have friends but odd ones they don't know each other lol. According to my parents I wind them up all the time cause they keep questioning me and it turns into an argument most nights about my 'behaviour' then they say Ive wound them up again and am totally selfish, I know I shouldnt be living at home at 20 but I am. They keep telling me to get a job but I have this anxiety thing so am trying to avoid commitment as much as it sounds like it its not an excuse im just a wimp and worrying about panicking or going dizzy is constantly on my mind! My aunty is constantly telling them to cancel the internet which I don't even pay for (I know I should im really spoilt) but shes trying to make things even worse.

Is there only me like this? I just wanna know what you all think realisticly (sp) I know im pathetic but im actually satisfied cause im planning to go back to uni (if the anxiety goes) just what do you think of it all honestly?

I don't think you're pathetic.In fact I was feeling similar to you a few weeks ago when I dropped out of uni.

Get a job,it makes things sooo much better.I'm only working weekends at the moment but it means that at least I'm not sitting around ALL the time...(just a temporary thing while I arrange a full time job....)....

Think about what you want to do with your life,whether it be going back to uni or getting a job and then act upon it.

Reply 8

mousey

2

You're going to have to get a job sometime, you can't go through life just sponging off your parents. Yes it may be embarassing, but get a job and let your employer know about your anxiety. At the same time go to a counsellor/doctor. You need to do something with your life, for your sake and your parents. xx

Reply 9

l1ncs

8

Hi im trying not to make it into a sympathy thread but is any one elses life as pathetic as mine? Since I quit uni a few months ago constantly I slept all day and was just walking round the house listening to music, TV etc all night, my sleeping patten was from about 9am - 6pm and I hardly left the house, my parents were going mad lol my patterns normal now but I still dont go out clubbing etc I just seem like and probably am just a sad loser at the moment my parents are saying its not right for a 20 year old, then again ive always been really quiet and not gone out. I do have friends but odd ones they don't know each other lol. According to my parents I wind them up all the time cause they keep questioning me and it turns into an argument most nights about my 'behaviour' then they say Ive wound them up again and am totally selfish, I know I shouldnt be living at home at 20 but I am. They keep telling me to get a job but I have this anxiety thing so am trying to avoid commitment as much as it sounds like it its not an excuse im just a wimp and worrying about panicking or going dizzy is constantly on my mind! My aunty is constantly telling them to cancel the internet which I don't even pay for (I know I should im really spoilt) but shes trying to make things even worse.

man this is almost the identical situation i am in. Good to hear there are more pathetic ppl like me around :smile:

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l1ncs

man this is almost the identical situation i am in. Good to hear there are more pathetic ppl like me around :smile:

except the dizzy bit, but i really should get a job also.

Reply 10

Keybolasosa

3

l1ncs

man this is almost the identical situation i am in. Good to hear there are more pathetic ppl like me around :smile:

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except the dizzy bit, but i really should get a job also.

Don't call him pathetic! :rolleyes:

Reply 11

l1ncs

8

Don't call him pathetic!

His words, not mine.

Reply 12

fuglyduckling

2

Work for a bit... do something just to make time pass... see a doctor... go back to uni next year :smile:

Reply 13

Wineblood

I was like that when I dropped out of uni. I was about to turn 18 at the time so it's not exactly the same. Yeh, you feel like **** for ages and it's normal. Try to think of it as an opportunity to go back and try again.
PS:Your lifestyle is not pathetic, I still live like that.

Reply 14

Road trip?

Get out more, have an adventure.

Reply 15

emilyemily

I've been in a very similar situation... PM me if you want to talk. :smile:

Reply 16

MNBStyle

9

Your in a similar situation to what i was in, it seems to me you suffer from Social phobia, and if your anxiety due to this social phobia is so bad to the point its effecting you earning a living then i suggest you get some counselling or perhaps CBT.
Go and see your doctor and discuss it with her/him theres not much else you can say apart from that because at the end of the day its all down to you, because nobody here can make you go get a job.

P.S your under anon i know, but if you ever fancy chatting more feel free to PM me :wink:

Reply 17

derf

Is any one elses life as pathetic as mine?

I suspect there are countless people out there in a worse off situation than you. Yet there seems to be many in a better one too.

I just seem like and probably am just a sad loser at the moment my parents are saying its not right for a 20 year old

The reasons for your unhapiness are far more complex than just being a 'sad loser'. It would be premature to conclude that your behavious is abnormal for a 20 year old. Your problem is most probably a cultural one which many more suffer from.

then again ive always been really quiet and not gone out. I do have friends but odd ones they don't know each other lol.

So youre not as socially active as some people. Thats not necessarily a big problem.

According to my parents I wind them up all the time cause they keep questioning me and it turns into an argument most nights about my 'behaviour' then they say Ive wound them up again and am totally selfish, I know I shouldnt be living at home at 20 but I am.

A good discussion doesn't end in argument. The reason you are arguing is probably because neither you or your parents understand the situation (the problem). First, you have to take some time to think about the problem and where its coming from, then you have to tell your parent what you think. If you are not honest with yourself you can never be honest to you parents.

Out of the house by 20?!?! Are you mad? Nowadays its a nightmare to find a place with these high prices. Get that idea out of your head. Most Italians arent out of their house at 30. Theres nothing wrong with that either.

They keep telling me to get a job

If youre not in education, then you should be working and making a little money.

but I have this anxiety thing so am trying to avoid commitment as much as it sounds like it its not an excuse im just a wimp and worrying about panicking or going dizzy is constantly on my mind!

This is understandable. You're probably feeling this because you seem to be intimidated by the world around you. Intimidation can be overcome by understanding. If you sit back and look at how things work, you understand them and are no longer afraid of them. If you 'think too much', this means you might need to do some relaxing things. Jogging, going to the local pub.

Is there only me like this? I just wanna know what you all think realisticly (sp) I know im pathetic but im actually satisfied cause im planning to go back to uni (if the anxiety goes) just what do you think of it all honestly?

I suspect there are many other. You are not pathetic, there is a reason.

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