I am SUCH an IDIOT

As the title says i REALLY am TOTALLY thick with regards to some things. My best friend ovbiously means everything to me and we get on SO well, however due to my stupidity we occasionally have an ENORMOUS argument based on something IDIOTIC i have done- i will give an eg:

1. She had an important exam and i had a cold and she therefore did not want to catch my cold (was an awful one) and i took some of her water without asking- drinking it from the bottle and obviously getting germs in it (soryr if that's gross). Understandably she went mental saying it was selfish and it was i didn't think i juts went ahead and did it, on top of this i panicked when she got cross (because she means so much) and my panic came out as crossness (at me not her) which made it worse as she thought it was at her.

2. I also say things to other people that i cna't see any problem with but that she does and it reflects badly on her and the consequences eventually hurt her.

Has anyone got any ideas as to what i can to penetrate things into my THICK head and how i can make it up to her afterwards as she's getting pissed off. Thanks for your help......

Reply 1

Refused

loser88

Has anyone got any ideas as to what i can to penetrate things into my THICK head

use something sharp.

Reply 2

pumpkin7

buy her presents.

like to socks.

Reply 3

blondie_

use say ur thick yet ur predicted AAB at a level? hmmmmm i think not!

Reply 4

Bob123

littlemisssarah

use say ur thick yet ur predicted AAB at a level? hmmmmm i think not!

mate there is more than one type of thick.

Reply 5

Anne Auraque

Thick is when you read ABB as AAB!

Reply 6

Mangaroo

hahhahaah brilliant! love it when that happens :biggrin:

Reply 7

Adam83

Bob123

mate there is more than one type of thick.

just to be clear as it annoys me

Education - Plagiarism of other peoples ideas and facts to make yourself seem smart

Intelligence - natural smartness, the ability to work things out for yourself

social retardation - not aware of or care for accepted social customs, usualy caused by abuse, can result in the apperance of being 'thick'

now we are all clear.
n i dont think it is any of those

Reply 8

LizzyLizzy

To be fair i dont think she'll THAT likely to catch a cold off you just cos you drank some of her water , fair do's it can happen..but its hardly reasonable to go off on one about that. I mean perhaps it wasnt the ideal thing to do but seriously. My guess is she was more stressed about that exam than you realise. I know i lose my temper very quickly when im stressed. Furthermore i think your post makes it clear to me that your actions have no mal-intent , its just the way you are (i can be very similar in the information sharing -point 2- department).
Perhaps she's having a bad time about something your not aware off and should maybe be mindful of it. Or you could call her and perhaps explain how you feel and tell her that you dont mean to be hurtful , thats what i do with my pals.

Hope i helped.

Lizzy xx

Reply 9

Spiral Architect

Anne Auraque

Thick is when you read ABB as AAB!

I'd even question that judging by this thread.

Reply 10

cleas001

wow- mate she sounds like a psyco! lol- i mean taking a drink is no big deal- just tell her to chill out- atcually dont because shes likely to freak out more- though i think that if you unintentionally upset her like this then say you didnt mean it and if she still overreacts then you should walk away and let her apologise to you- i used to have a friend like that- everything was my fault even stupid lil things which dont matter...its difficult because you wanna be friends... i dunno dont blame yourself- tbh she sounds like a bit of a drama queen so i wouldnt worry too much about upsetting her- i doubt it cuts deep....
hope thats of use- if it even makes any sense!

Reply 11

bananas1234

You cannot be scared of losing someone. No matter how much you get on with her and how much she gets on with you...She will be able to tell you are scared of losing her and will use this to sometimes take advantage of you. This doesnt mean that she doesn't like you as much as you like her. It is just the way people are...You really mustn't be afraid of losing someone.

Also, if you do something by accident and are sorry for it...Just say! There is no need for you to get frustrated with anyone if you have done something wrong, prehaps, yourself...but certainly not your girlfriend. Explain that you did not mean to do it, you just didn't think...It is not selfish unless you thought about how she might get your cold at that very instant, and thought, "Oh well, nevermind" and proceeded to taking a swig from her bottle. Simply apologise and let her know you did it by accident...However don't let "I did it by accident" become a common excuse as then it will become obvious you are just using it to get out of a sticky situation and ultimately lying...