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Why do lovers kiss?

We all may have seen those hot scenarios on TV, films, etc. and perhaps a considerable number of us TSR members have experienced the taste of your gf/bfs' lips, me included.

It's a bit of odd I know but minutes ago I was reading a novel and when I came across this sentence 'I felt in my heart a wicked, burning desire that they may would kiss me with those red lips.' an odd idea popped into my mind: why do a man and a woman kiss with their lips?

Call me a weirdo but sometimes I just don't get it. I mean why do lovers(not necessarilly 'lovers' though) put their mouths together, sucking each others' lips or tongues, as a way of expressing love? Has any of you ever had the same questions? What kind of weird species human has evolved into should kissing become part of human instinct! :confused: :rolleyes:

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Reply 1
FoodBuff
put their mouths together, sucking each others' lips or tongues,




Maybe if you started pulling people who didnt suck your lip and your tongue you'd think differently.

I'd rather have a teeth clang than have my lip and tongue sucked.

Theres only one part of the body that should be sucked... lol
Reply 2
El Scotto

Maybe if you started pulling people who didnt suck your lip and your tongue you'd think differently.

I'd rather have a teeth clang than have my lip and tongue sucked.


I'd do lip and tongue first and then have a teeth clang. :wink:

El Scotto
Theres only one part of the body that should be sucked... lol


:biggrin:

But kissing sometimes looks really odd.
Reply 3
Hehe. My gf sometimes asks this. It is true. It is a fairly arbitrary thing to do. It's like asking "why do we smile when we're happy". What is it about being happy that causes those muscles in the face to pull our mouth into that shape? We just associate it with happiness. But what if it'd been the other way around and when we frown we're happy and when we smile we're sad.
Reply 4
SsEe
Hehe. My gf sometimes asks this. It is true. It is a fairly arbitrary thing to do. It's like asking "why do we smile when we're happy". What is it about being happy that causes those muscles in the face to pull our mouth into that shape? We just associate it with happiness. But what if it'd been the other way around and when we frown we're happy and when we smile we're sad.


Yeah, that's the point.

And on second thought I found myself really stupid. :biggrin:
Reply 5
because they aint got anything else to do!
human nature, innit.
Reply 7
Your faces have to get very close (allowing someone to reay invade your space)
You have lots of nerves in your mouth so it feels really stimulating
You get to give and receive pleasure at the same time
You can get all hot and carried away and let it lead to something else
It shows that you want each other and so it feels nice to be together

I really think kissing is underrated (or perhaps just devalued?) by people just pulling anyone and kissing stood up, shoving their tongues into each other's mouths. Kissing is brilliant, as long as you have the right partner and right technique. :love: mmmmm kissing
Reply 8
blissy
Your faces have to get very close (allowing someone to reay invade your space)
You have lots of nerves in your mouth so it feels really stimulating
You get to give and receive pleasure at the same time
You can get all hot and carried away and let it lead to something else
It shows that you want each other and so it feels nice to be together


And yet, Inuits kiss with the nose. 'Kissing' denotes an activity, held by convention to infer a generic state of mind which is receptive to further intimacy: it is a mere placeholder, if you will; a social construct, and one that could, similarly by way of convention, be substituted with another whose ostensible manifestation was entirely different (albeit stigmatised to like effect). The pleasure which I, personally, have tended to derive is invariably emotional and psychological in nature; having more to do with the 'fact' of the kiss, than with any biological stimulus. It is, in essence, a social practice; albeit one highly evolved, and with relatively distinct connotations.

I really think kissing is underrated (or perhaps just devalued?) by people just pulling anyone and kissing stood up, shoving their tongues into each other's mouths. Kissing is brilliant, as long as you have the right partner and right technique. :love: mmmmm kissing


'Mmmmm', indeed.
Profesh
And yet, Inuits kiss with the nose. 'Kissing' denotes an activity, held by convention to infer a generic state of mind which is receptive to further intimacy: it is a mere placeholder, if you will; a social construct, and one that could, similarly by way of convention, be substituted with another whose ostensible manifestation was entirely different (albeit stigmatised to like effect). The pleasure which I, personally, have tended to derive is invariably emotional and psychological in nature; having more to do with the 'fact' of the kiss, than with any biological stimulus. It is, in essence, a social practice; albeit one highly evolved, and with relatively distinct connotations.


Star prize to the first person to successfully de-jargonize this statement.
Reply 10
Profesh
And yet, Inuits kiss with the nose. 'Kissing' denotes an activity, held by convention to infer a generic state of mind which is receptive to further intimacy: it is a mere placeholder, if you will; a social construct, and one that could, similarly by way of convention, be substituted with another whose ostensible manifestation was entirely different (albeit stigmatised to like effect). The pleasure which I, personally, have tended to derive is invariably emotional and psychological in nature; having more to do with the 'fact' of the kiss, than with any biological stimulus. It is, in essence, a social practice; albeit one highly evolved, and with relatively distinct connotations.


Is there any possibility that you make such a typical Profesh-y statement before approaching to your gf's mouth ... :wink:
Reply 11
Profesh
And yet, Inuits kiss with the nose. 'Kissing' denotes an activity, held by convention to infer a generic state of mind which is receptive to further intimacy: it is a mere placeholder, if you will; a social construct, and one that could, similarly by way of convention, be substituted with another whose ostensible manifestation was entirely different (albeit stigmatised to like effect). The pleasure which I, personally, have tended to derive is invariably emotional and psychological in nature; having more to do with the 'fact' of the kiss, than with any biological stimulus. It is, in essence, a social practice; albeit one highly evolved, and with relatively distinct connotations.


Is there any possibility that you make such a typical Profesh-y statement before approaching your gf's mouth ... :wink:

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ChemistBoy
Star prize to the first person to successfully de-jargonize this statement.


Are you calling for the Anti-Profesh Society members? :eek: :biggrin:
FoodBuff
I mean why do lovers(not necessarilly 'lovers' though) put their mouths together, sucking each others' lips or tongues, as a way of expressing love? Has any of you ever had the same questions? What kind of weird species human has evolved into should kissing become part of human instinct! :confused: :rolleyes:
It's a cultural thing. Many if not most parts of africa kissing is simply not done. No evolution really involved, apart from it being an extension of face to face coitus. We initially did it doggy style all the time, as we became more social beings we began to have intercourse face to face. This is the reason why women's breasts swelled and the reason why a bust/cleavage is attractive, because it resembles an ass. Millions of years of evolution to find an ass attractive, men needed some incentive to turn face to face :wink:
LOL :biggrin: That has made me laugh.

Kissing is great, does anyone get that when you're talking about kissing you really want to kiss someone?
aw, kissing is so great, and is taken for granted! but just any touch from my bf would be nice right now!! (we away for the holidays... :frown: )
xxxx
Reply 15
FoodBuff
Is there any possibility that you make such a typical Profesh-y statement before approaching your gf's mouth ... :wink:


Not really, no; unless, of course, one were solicited. :wink:

My prior experience recollects words to the effect of, 'go on then'. Whoever said that romance is dead?
Reply 16
As far as I know, the lips are an erogenous zone.
Reply 17
the inner instinct of cannibalism, yet this unknown and mistaken for something supposedly lustful, being toyed with by individuals is what one might call kissing.
Kissing's lovely, so long as you've got someone that knows what they're doing. There is nothing less attractive in my opinion than a guy that just sticks his tongue in your mouth and then tries to eat your face. Na-ah.

Slow and soft... hell, it's just a damn sexy thing to do! lol.

Hell I wanna kiss someone now lol.
Reply 19
red665
Kissing's lovely, so long as you've got someone that knows what they're doing. There is nothing less attractive in my opinion than a guy that just sticks his tongue in your mouth and then tries to eat your face. Na-ah.

Slow and soft... hell, it's just a damn sexy thing to do! lol.

Hell I wanna kiss someone now lol.


Well, I'm what you might call 'starved' in that regard.