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Do guys often tell girls that they are gorgeous even if they are not?

This is quite a silly question really but it's bugging me. I'm quite comfortable with how I look - sometimes I get a bit fed up about it but it's not as if I have any major insecurities or anything. The thing is I know what I am and I know I'm not really that pretty. I have small eyes, kinda widish nose with a small bump on it (not really that noticeable but it's there), little gap in my front teeth, I'm pale, not very defined cheeks or collar bones or anything like that. Sound hot to you? Nope I didn't think so!

BUT... I get complimented on my looks by guys pretty regularly. Pretty much every time I go out I get chatted up or told 'you're gorgeous/sexy/stunning/amazing' (bleugh gross I'm really not). Does this happen to all girls? Do guys just do this for fun? I do make the most of what I've got - dress nicely, do my hair and wear nice (subtle) make-up etc but I'm not actually very good looking. Theres a lot of pretty girls on my course and they are always getting told by the other girls 'you're stunning' etc but I never get told this hardly at all by girls. (except my friends but thats what friends do lol) So girls tend not to think I'm not very attractive either.

Then I was in the pub the other night and a lot of guys kept looking over at me (like if i past they would turn their heads or keeping looking over - haha maybe i had something stuck to my back or something) and then 7 different men came up to me that night and started chatting me up. So I got quite paranoid about it. I just started thinking there was some kind of joke on or something. I do seem to get quite a lot of male interest for some reason (i get asked out a lot, quite a few guys text me, i've been told of guys that fancy me etc - no idea why though - the weirdos!) and I just don't understand why and it really makes me feel uncomfortable.

So can anyone explain this phenomenon? Guys why do you do this? Do you think it's a piss take?? And why doesn't it make me feel good about myself? I seem completely to be unable to take compliments on board - sometimes i wish i did beleive it just so i would feel fantastic but deep down i know its just not true.

Oh and also do guys tend to approach less attractive woman because the attractive ones are intimidating? Or do you think they are trying to get to know me so they can get with my (pretty) friends? Or are guys just not as shallow as I thought they were?

Reply 1

El Scotto

15

beauty is in the eye of the beholder... although I only tell it to girls IF I mean it. I think you're over complicating us a a race :wink:

Reply 2

fundamentally

15

Anonymous

Pretty much every time I go out I get chatted up or told 'you're gorgeous/sexy/stunning/amazing' (bleugh gross I'm really not). Does this happen to all girls? Do guys just do this for fun?

Standard male technique when they want to get laid. Works pretty well too... A lot of girls are stupid enough to fall for that line.

A male friend of mine used that line as his only pick-up line. He claimed that it worked well, on most women and that one time in every five lead to sex.

Reply 3

_jackofdiamonds

10

It's nice to compliment people, and often people are ACTUALLY attractive. Why would they come upto otherwise? The most anoying thig is whe you're like 'you look nice tonight' and the girl is like 'noooo', and you're like 'yea really', and they're 'nooo'.

Reply 4

Anonymous

Pretty much every time I go out I get chatted up or told 'you're gorgeous/sexy/stunning/amazing' (bleugh gross I'm really not). Does this happen to all girls? Do guys just do this for fun?

Standard male technique when they want to get laid. Works pretty well too... A lot of us are stupid enough to fall for that line. :frown:

A male friend of mine used that as his only pick-up line. He claimed that it worked well on most women and that one time in every five led to sex. :rolleyes:

Reply 5

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

Standard male technique when they want to get laid. Works pretty well too... A lot of us are stupid enough to fall for that line. :frown:

A male friend of mine used that as his only pick-up line. He claimed that it worked well on most women and that one time in every five led to sex. :rolleyes:

why did you just delete repost that with your username gone... lol
Ashamed that you might be letting the side down? :rolleyes:

Reply 6

El Scotto

15

Anonymous

Standard male technique when they want to get laid. Works pretty well too... A lot of us are stupid enough to fall for that line. :frown:

A male friend of mine used that as his only pick-up line. He claimed that it worked well on most women and that one time in every five led to sex. :rolleyes:

you posted that under a guys user name a minute ago before the delete/anon repost!

Reply 7

Phonicsdude

19

no. if a guy says that to you that you are attractive then they would hit it.

Although having said that, Im not in the habit of giving out cheap complements based on someone's looks.

Reply 8

fundamentally

15

El Scotto

you posted that under a guys user name a minute ago before the delete/anon repost!

Really ?
Look again at the gender icon

Reply 9

It's nice to compliment people, and often people are ACTUALLY attractive. Why would they come upto otherwise? The most anoying thig is whe you're like 'you look nice tonight' and the girl is like 'noooo', and you're like 'yea really', and they're 'nooo'.

I know what you mean when people are like 'noooo Im not' after being complimented. I used to do that but then I realised it bugged people so now I just say 'thanks' and in my head think 'ya lier' lol

I suppose I don't like it because looks have never been that important to me. If people compliment me on my personality then its a completely different story. I LOVE when people do that! :smile:

Reply 10

PrOdiGy_

El Scotto

beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

i think you meant:

beauty is in the eye of the BEERholder.

Reply 11

Adam83

12

its a chat up line

but you probably are prettier thank you think

Reply 12

Saying "you're fit" with a catalyst of alcohol means they think you're sexually attractive (maybe with added beer goggles) and want to get laid.

I hardly ever get called 'fit'.

So basically all you guys want is sex. Haha well I'm glad to say that flattery will get you NOWHERE!!!

Reply 13

JaF

1

So let me get this straight - you don't think your attractive but yet you seem to get lots of male attention? Have you considered that actually you might be more attractive than you actually are?

Also, just because a bloke compliments a girl it doesn't mean he wants to have sex with her. When I was single I flirted with girls all the time. Usually when I flirted with a girl its because I find them attractive but that doesn't neccessarily mean I wanted to jump into bed with them.

Reply 14

mangomaz

14

_jackofdiamonds

It's nice to compliment people, and often people are ACTUALLY attractive. Why would they come upto otherwise? The most anoying thig is whe you're like 'you look nice tonight' and the girl is like 'noooo', and you're like 'yea really', and they're 'nooo'.

Lol this is indeed very annoying doesnt matter what gender you're complimenting. You just feel like saying 'shut up and take the compliment argh!!'

Reply 15

So let me get this straight - you don't think your attractive but yet you seem to get lots of male attention? Have you considered that actually you might be more attractive than you actually are?

I don't have any conventionally nice features though. I KNOW what pretty looks like and it's not me. I'm alright looking but I wouldn't think I was good looking enough for these compliments to be sincere.

Reply 16

AngelofnoColour

14

Yes I get it alot, they only want one thing. My ex bf used to say it to me all the time, and then when he dumped me he told me the REAL truth.

Reply 17

mangomaz

14

BlueAngel

Yes I get it alot, they only want one thing. My ex bf used to say it to me all the time, and then when he dumped me he told me the REAL truth.

Oh thats awful :frown:

But he probably was just saying it to be spiteful - dont let yourself think he told you the 'real' truth.

Reply 18

blissy

15

Compliments from girls mean so much more than compliments from boys (IMO anyway). If they say you're pretty, they mean it more often than not - especially if they say it out of the blue rather than in response to "I'm not pretty". So listen to the girls, boys are biased cause they either love you/infatuated with you (and therefore think you're the most perfect being on earth) or want to get into your pants by any means possible.

Reply 19

JaF

1

Anonymous

I don't have any conventionally nice features though. I KNOW what pretty looks like and it's not me.

Well I don't know what you look like so I can't really continue to argue that you are more attractive than you think.

Just because you don't think you are "conventionally nice" doesn't mean guys won't find you attractive. I know a lot of girls who have a rather twisted view of what guys actually go for loooks wise and if you dress nicely and have good hair & makeup then its even more likely these blokes actually think your quite hot.

blissy

boys are biased cause they either love you/infatuated with you (and therefore think you're the most perfect being on earth) or want to get into your pants by any means possible.

Well I disagree with that. I mean FFS not all blokes think with their penis all of the time.

Do guys often tell girls that they are gorgeous even if they are not?

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