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Love on the internet?

Hey I wonder if you can help me there is this girl i know who has gone to uni in Edinburgh, we only spoke a few times before she left so her leaving was not an issue. However since she left I started to realise I had feelings for her. A friend of mine had her email address and one night (fuelled by Dutch courage) we sent her an email. Surprisingly she answered me and since then we have emailed quite a lot and met up in chat rooms now and again.

I don't know what to do my friend who gave me her email reckons she likes me but i'm not sure wether he knows this to be true or is just 'trying' to be nice. I think I really like her and don't know what to do, do I tell her or wait to see what happens when she gets back??

Has anyone had similar experiences? If so what happened? I would be grateful for any advice................ :confused:

Thank you in advance, I'm going to bed to sleep on it! :sleep: :frown:

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Wait until you see her in person and see how you get on.
well its the same for me because i met this guy from australia and i seen him before as he has a webcam and i have send him my picture as well. and he says he loves me and all that and wishes he was with me and all the other stuff....... :wink:
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President_Ben
Wait until you see her in person and see how you get on.


Yeah, i agree. It can be a whole different story when you actually meet the person.
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lil-huni-buni
well its the same for me because i met this guy from australia and i seen him before as he has a webcam and i have send him my picture as well. and he says he loves me and all that and wishes he was with me and all the other stuff....... :wink:


um, not being funny but...there is a VAST different between someone's persona on the internet, and in real life.
i happen to believe you cannot fall in love on the internet - it's completely different in real life, you might not even get on.
Fleece
um, not being funny but...there is a VAST different between someone's persona on the internet, and in real life.
i happen to believe you cannot fall in love on the internet - it's completely different in real life, you might not even get on.


You haven't noticed, he said he'd met the girl and knew her before she went to Edinburgh.

Personally I'd just find an excuse to stop communicating with her as much and find someone else.
Reply 6
Fleece
um, not being funny but...there is a VAST different between someone's persona on the internet, and in real life.
i happen to believe you cannot fall in love on the internet - it's completely different in real life, you might not even get on.

Yup, that's true, I agree. I think it's possible to have feelings for someone over the net, but until you meet up you won't know if it's real of not. But if you do feel the same and get on really well in real life it's pretty damn great :biggrin:

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thefish_uk
You haven't noticed, he said he'd met the girl and knew her before she went to Edinburgh.

I think Fleece's post was aimed at huni buni rather than the OP
Reply 7
thefish_uk
You haven't noticed, he said he'd met the girl and knew her before she went to Edinburgh.


well i did notice, that's why i quoted lil_hunni_bunni and was talking to her.

(cheers sam)
Reply 8
Just talk normally to her over MSN or something similer. I always find it easier to talk to girls over the Internet then in real life because I don't scare them off :rolleyes:.
Reply 9
I even scare them off there. I love being socially retarded
Reply 10
p00p-
I even scare them off there. I love being socially retarded


I don't scare girls here because here I find girls that are just as werid as me :p:
Reply 11
lol poop.

I'd say forget it. This guy on the internet keeps telling me that he loves me, and I respond because I don't want to offend him. It actually really pi***s me off and I wish he'd just leave me alone. Even if she was interested in you, long distance relationships are tricky.
I think I'm in love with someone off the internet, but it wouldn't be love would it, just infatuation. :love:
Reply 13
BlueAngel
I think I'm in love with someone off the internet, but it wouldn't be love would it, just infatuation. :love:


You know when its love, even if no-one else does.
Reply 14
there's a fine line tho..

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samrawuk
lol poop.

I'd say forget it. This guy on the internet keeps telling me that he loves me, and I respond because I don't want to offend him. It actually really pi***s me off and I wish he'd just leave me alone. Even if she was interested in you, long distance relationships are tricky.


dude, if this guys pissing you off then why you being all nice and polite? block was invented for a reason...
Reply 15
I agree with Fleece, he will become more and more infatuated with you if you don't reject him. Just tell him how you really feel, he will get over it :P
Reply 16
We have mutual friends, if I don't come on he rings me (someone gave him my number) or bothers my friends, then they get pissed at me.

Edit : plus he does this guilt trip thing, saying he'd commit suicide if I didn't talk to him. AND I think he's got my address from somebody, which really scares me.
Reply 17
If he's p*****g you off I concurr with fleece just BLOCK HIM!!!

My mate met her boyfriend over the internet and she only met him normally afterwards; although you can generally change your personality over the internet because things get misunderstood easily

probably completely irrelevent, but hey! :smile:

OK hey has this guy not heard of STALKING CHARGES!!

that would freak me out
Reply 18
samrawuk
We have mutual friends, if I don't come on he rings me (someone gave him my number) or bothers my friends, then they get pissed at me.

Edit : plus he does this guilt trip thing, saying he'd commit suicide if I didn't talk to him. AND I think he's got my address from somebody, which really scares me.

Ok that's just really freaky and stalkerish. He's just trying to guilt-trip you into talking to him with all this suicide stuff, it's not fair of him to put that pressure on you
Reply 19
Tell him to **** off, and call the police if need be