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Do you think that you ever really stop loving your first love

Reply 20

Well nice to know I'm not the only one then, I hadnt thought about her for ages then for some reason she popped to the front of my mind and theres still fondness there.

Reply 21

The Mudman

10

I know exactly how you feel 'Anon'. But what's in the past remains there, and always should... It ended for a reason.

Reply 22

Drogue

19

The Mudman

I know exactly how you feel 'Anon'. But what's in the past remains there, and always should... It ended for a reason.

But often it's a temporary reason - distance, practicalities, experience, etc. Some relationships should remain in the past, others may resurface for a variety of good reasons.

Reply 23

MagicNMedicine

20

No I will never forget my "first love".
She wasn't my "first girlfriend". I didn't meet her till I was 24.

Reply 24

The Mudman

10

Drogue

But often it's a temporary reason - distance, practicalities, experience, etc. Some relationships should remain in the past, others may resurface for a variety of good reasons.

True. But I'd say in the majority of cases, it has ended, and inevitably, what ever the problem was the first time round will remain second time round.

Reply 25

I think that you will never forget your first love and you will always think back to it, but you eventually move on with your life. its normal.
even if he's an asshole and things ended ugly you will always think back on it with a smile...i think...i hope...

Reply 26

I've got over mine but thats probably because I never seen him for like years and then suddenly on the last day of 2005 i saw him and I just thought OH MY GOD!!! and then all the feelings have come back again but most of all i feel annoyed that he left withut any message :frown:

Reply 27

TKR

15

not really

theyre so special

theres always a part of you that wants them back in a way

Reply 28

I don't think you do..for example...tonight putting on a certain perfume that i used 2 wear when i was with them reminded me of them. wasn't really love but was my first proper boyfriend and little things like that remind me of him..

Reply 29

blissy

15

Oh yes. But maybe he wasn't my first love? I never look back on it misty-eyed.

Reply 30

Anonymous

I don't think you do..for example...tonight putting on a certain perfume that i used 2 wear when i was with them reminded me of them. wasn't really love but was my first proper boyfriend and little things like that remind me of him..

OMG! i got that through the smell of a lipgloss i used to use then...now i just cannot use it...I think that smell is the sense most closeley linked to memory.

Reply 31

lil_sweetie

1

I don't think so...i think your first love takes up such an important place in your heart even if you don't realise it at the time, so when they leave (for whatever reason) they take a lil piece of your heart with them.......oh man that sounds SO cheesy.

Ignore me everyone! :p:

Reply 32

Daveo

16

To be hoenst I think if you truly love your first love then no you won't ever stop loving them, you certainly won't ever forget them. If something happens that gets inbetween you then I don't think i'd define it as true love. Love is forever at least I certainly think so in my case.

Reply 33

Anonymous

OMG! i got that through the smell of a lipgloss i used to use then...now i just cannot use it...I think that smell is the sense most closeley linked to memory.

glad it isnt just me then!!! i still use it because i totally love the smell..but it just brings back mems!

Reply 34

grace

15

i think it depends...my first 'love' and i ended on really bad terms and i can't even think about him without being angry, to be honest i think i'm closer to hating him than to loving him. even though i've been with others since, he still occasionally pops into my mind though i still get a sick feeling when i remember him.

whereas if, say, someone marries their first love and then they die or something, even though the person may remarry they'll probably always still love their first love.
which also goes against whoever said you can't love more than once....

Reply 35

ciara

13

I've stopped loving mine, but I still feel strongly for him...that he's nasty. There's a part of me that has this urge to resolve things though, no idea why that is, but it's not love I can tell you!

Reply 36

Apricot Fairy

16

I definitely won't. But then, my first love is the only person I went to school with who I still talk to on a regular basis, and even though we split up 18 months ago we are still incredibly close. I'll always love him a little bit.

Reply 37

bananas1234

13

Nearly a year now - and I'm still not over her! :frown:

Reply 38

grace

15

susiemakemeblue

I definitely won't. But then, my first love is the only person I went to school with who I still talk to on a regular basis, and even though we split up 18 months ago we are still incredibly close. I'll always love him a little bit.

weren't you still kind of seeing him recently though? the kind of stuff you were saying made it sound as though the two of you hadn't quite 'ended' completely, so maybe that makes it easier for you to still love him?

Reply 39

shauniemac

Nearly a year now - and I'm still not over her! :frown:

Was together for just over 4 years with my first and only love to date. Split up during the first year of uni so it's been a year now.

We wanting different things in life - tried to do the whole friendship thing straight away and it failed. Started speaking to her again the semester just gone.

With regards to the question. I can't say for sure that i'm over her. It's not at the front of my mind all the time but seeing her reminds me of all that i miss.

I honestly don't think that i will ever stop loving her in a small way and i know for sure that i'll always care for her.

Your first love tends to be during a time when you're growing up and finding your way in life. If you share that experience with somebody then there will always be a very deep attachment. They ultimately help and support you through the growing up process (usually the teenage years) and i think that is the time you're most impressionable. Everyone is a product of their surroundings and experiences but if you've been that close to a person then i think they help to mould you and it's almost as if you grow together. Therefore a part of you will always be linked to them and that is why i believe you can never stop loving your first love to some extent. There will always be those shared experiences that have contributed to who you are today and parts of you and your personality, or even just your outlook on life that you can attribute directly to them.

That view on it could just be me though.

Do you think that you ever really stop loving your first love

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