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Do you think that you ever really stop loving your first love
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This really worries me tbh.
Current bf and I have been together 3 years, we split up for 6 months over the summer etc. I missed him so, so, so much. More than I'd let on to anyone. Now we're back together it's still weird. I mean, how can you have a relationship with someone 200 miles away? Gah.
Anyway; the amount we've been through individually and so together as a couple is really quite great. He's helped me through things I'd never wish on anyone, he's held my hand, given me a hug when just a hug was needed, given harsh words when I wouldn't listen to anyone else. I'll always, always look back on my time with him with great fondness and affection.
We have such a turbulant and very 'hard' relationship at the moment. I never seem to see him, it's amazing when we are together, but when we're not it's just difficult in a way I can't describe. Even when we were 'on a break' we weren't, I still slept with and saw him. It was just messy and horrible and that'll alllllways be the case, I think.
Anyway, I don't think I'll ever stop loving him. Perhaps we'll move on, perhaps when I'm at uni we'll make a go of it on a shorter distance basis. Whether or not, we've still been through more than most married couples and I'll always love him, I'll always be friends with him and as someone else said, perhaps I'll go to his wedding, whoever it'll be to.
Current bf and I have been together 3 years, we split up for 6 months over the summer etc. I missed him so, so, so much. More than I'd let on to anyone. Now we're back together it's still weird. I mean, how can you have a relationship with someone 200 miles away? Gah.
Anyway; the amount we've been through individually and so together as a couple is really quite great. He's helped me through things I'd never wish on anyone, he's held my hand, given me a hug when just a hug was needed, given harsh words when I wouldn't listen to anyone else. I'll always, always look back on my time with him with great fondness and affection.
We have such a turbulant and very 'hard' relationship at the moment. I never seem to see him, it's amazing when we are together, but when we're not it's just difficult in a way I can't describe. Even when we were 'on a break' we weren't, I still slept with and saw him. It was just messy and horrible and that'll alllllways be the case, I think.
Anyway, I don't think I'll ever stop loving him. Perhaps we'll move on, perhaps when I'm at uni we'll make a go of it on a shorter distance basis. Whether or not, we've still been through more than most married couples and I'll always love him, I'll always be friends with him and as someone else said, perhaps I'll go to his wedding, whoever it'll be to.
Reply 62
my first love will never leave me. I know that something inciting such a change in me, for what feels like, such a profound period of my life: I could never forget that. And as such an incredibly close friend, mentor and grounding force, I will always love him.
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Reply 63
why you post this as an anonymous?
Reply 65
I am sure you can stop loving yuor first love, but you will always have good warm memories about it (unless he/she was a real bastard) and every time you will remember about him or her yuor heart will warm up
Reply 66
I personally still haven't gotten over my 'first love' we still do talk and are good mates now but something inside just wants me to be able to say again 'I still love you so much and I want you to know that' but I can't 
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I'm not really sure. In a way I hope you don't stop loving them. I split with my ex because of distance. We still love each other very much and speak every day and have both said we are prepared to wait for each other until the circumstances are right for us to be together again because at the moment it just isn't practical. I don't ever want to stop loving him because then it will feel as though what I had with him wasn't real, if that makes sense?
I know for definite though that I will always remember him fondly, whatever happens and that he will always have a special place in my heart.
I know for definite though that I will always remember him fondly, whatever happens and that he will always have a special place in my heart.
Reply 68
i was 17 when i split up with my first love. it took me a year to move on, but i got back into the dating game. me and him stayed good friends - the best thing about our relationship was that we were best friends first and foremost, and that carried on. he introduced me to his gf, whom he got with bout 1year after we split, and they were together for 2years. i had no significant loves, but several relationships between the ages of 17 and 21. then, when he split up with his gf when we began to get close again. a few moonths later he told me thta he stil had feelings for me, and asked me what i thought about giving us another go. i was wary - i'd been really hurt when we split up, but i knew that i was still in love with him. we have now been together 18months (thias time, about3years in total!) and have never been happier.
some may well get over their first love. we thought we had. turned out we hadnt. and we are plannign our future together now. the time apart was brilliant for us, we learnt so much more about ourselves and each other, that we wouldnt have learned if we were together.
some may well get over their first love. we thought we had. turned out we hadnt. and we are plannign our future together now. the time apart was brilliant for us, we learnt so much more about ourselves and each other, that we wouldnt have learned if we were together.
Reply 70
I still get a twinge for mine a fair bit of the time, even though it's been two and a half years and he is now gay!
I dunno, I guess it just leaves you with a soft spot for them, even if, on reflection, the relationship was pretty rubbish.
I dunno, I guess it just leaves you with a soft spot for them, even if, on reflection, the relationship was pretty rubbish.
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