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I'm so confused and depressed

Ok, I would really appreciate some advice here.... i'm so confused and upset i cant sleep and i can hardly eat cos i cant stop thinking about it.

Been with my boyfriend about 1 year now, we are the best of friends truly we are, and i love him more than any boy i ever been with an all that jazz. When i got with him last year i was having a rubbish time at uni, and he meant so much to me, and made my time at uni so much better etc etc.

He recently finished uni and is now back at home and i dont get to see him all that much - he lives in manchester - which is quite far from where i am.

So i'm at uni on my own with my own mates etc, but now I think I am falling for one of my housemates. I think about him all the time, cant stop it, dream about him saying he likes me, and us being together etc.

Now I have no idea if he does like me in that way or not, I think he may, but I could be wrong. I keep wanting to have him as opposed to my boyfriend, but I dont know what to do.

Is it worth throwing things away with my current boyf for him? We have a lot together (me and my boyf) but he's not the kind of guy i ever imagined myself ending up with.

But it could be that i'm confusing everything, do i just miss my boyfriend and the closeness we have, if he was here would it be different?

Its really depressing me, I hate being alone, and I feel alone now.. but I dont want to hurt anyone or throw away what I have for nothing...

argh :frown:

any advice guys - i'm sure its something other ppl have been through before

thanks a lot xx

Reply 1

Lil' Miss Smiley

Do you think you are just using this new guy as someone to lean on and help you thru uni?
Much in the same way your current bf has done?
Maybe you are just looking for someone to be your rock. You really need to stand on your own two feet ad stop relying on somebady else. Sorry if you dont like this answer but thats how it looks to me.

Reply 2

I think i was using my ex as an emotional crutch to help me through college (we were together two years) and i had a very similar crisis to you ie fancying a couple of mates - it took me months fo figure out that this is what i was possibly doing and i still don't really know absolutely for sure, but I figured i love him, even if its just as my best friend, and split with him because I didn't want to leave him hanging because of my issues. I needed some time to get my thoughts in order and get me emotional independance back and I couldn't do that with the safety net of him always being there for me.

Since then one of the guys i liked has turned out to be a really really great pal.

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