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Virgin lips: no kissing before marriage

i have heard of a couple of newlyweds who are devout christians/religious people and they waited until the 'you may kiss the bride' in the wedding befre they had their first kiss.

i can see that sex and sexual acts before marriage are wrong, and someone from church explained to me that kissing is ok as a form of communication of affection, but not as prolonged making out or foreplay. but no premaritial kissing??

many of us have answered the 'are you a virgin thread' but is anyone waiting for marriage for the first kiss? you can post anonymously

Reply 1

Walker

1

im not but how do you post anonymously

Reply 2

Hayley_2k4

12

that sounds a little odd

Reply 3

q1w2e3r4t5y

click the reply as an anonymous user box. Also no, kissing isn't the same as sex.

Reply 4

Walker

1

O yea lol, sorry (tard)

Reply 5

*~Emma~*

1

I can understand no sex before marriage, even though i don't believe in it myself. But no kissing before marriage? Can't really understand that, surely you have to have some physical closeness before marrying someone? It would seem like i was just marrying a friend.

Reply 6

34253

2

No sex before marriage atleast has a biblical basis, this is just pure bs.

Reply 7

I am doing this with my life partner we are very committed and also very happy but the church will still frown upon us as we both have willys.

Reply 8

pikaboo

13

How the heck would they maintain a relationship long enough to last til marriage? Unless of course they got married straightaway or had an arranged marriage or something.

Reply 9

Hayley_2k4

12

Anonymous

I am doing this with my life partner we are very committed and also very happy but the church will still frown upon us as we both have willys.

are you really?

Reply 10

_Jax_

1

yes really but we are having to move to San francisco though because over there people who have willys can get married legally so it is nice and there are lots of nice people over there or as they call it "in the big city called San francisco" and also trams.

Reply 11

Yes really but we are having to move to San francisco though because over there a couple who both have willys can get married legally so it is nice and there are lots of nice people over too who like this we do like cats there is a big scene for cats over there or as they call it "in the big city called San francisco" and also trams.

Reply 12

Zoecb

11

I think you'll find that was a satirical comment. And a very good one too.

Well what with all the abstinence and all maybe they're scared that kissing will turn them on too much and they'll get even more sexually frustrated...

Reply 13

KuinKra

1

It strikes me as all very silly and OTT. I recognise there are good reasons to wait (or not to wait) to have sex until married, but I can't think of a single good reason to delay kissing.

Reply 14

minimo

15

:wtf?: Just plain daft IMO (Something they invented in the Deep South probably).

kissing is ok as a form of communication of affection, but not as prolonged making out

Most of my friends who are Catholic (I'm a practicing Catholic too) don't bother to follow the emboldened part...although we're all perfectly happy with the no sex before marriage bit :smile:

By denying people the right to kiss, such a rule tries to suppress physical attraction - and if a relationship is to survive (which should be important from a Christian POV) you do need to be attracted to the person.

Reply 15

hahahaha
kissing is mint
better than sex

Reply 16

grace

15

eeeew, kissing. boys smell.

that is one of the stupidest things i've ever heard. i'm a christian and not only do i kiss but i, shock horror, have - and enjoy - sex, and have actually recieved very little criticism from church leaders (i'm don't keep my views a secret and enjoy a nice debate!).

in fact, most of the conversations i've had regarding sexual purity with even very high up church leaders (i am acquainted with the bishop of north africa, among others) seem to be in agreement that most of the 'sexual morality' guides we have in the bible are exactly that - guides. not laws. physical intimacy is not bad and even biblical examples of sex are highly sensual and celebratory (song of solomon, for example...do you think he was talking to his wife?! he wasn't. it was his lover. to whom he was not married)

i think God would be amused at people not kissing :smile:

Reply 17

mangomaz

14

My cousin once said to me 'the only person I'm going to let kiss me is my husband' and I was like :eek:

! Far too extreme but then she also does live in a muslim country so that probably plays a large part... (even though shes not religious)

Reply 18

dogtanian

16

It's quite a nice idea, but I wouldn't do it.

That's even if you take away that I'm not Christian and that it's a little bit late for me, like...

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Oh, and people forget just how intimate kissing can be..

There's a reason why most prostitutes will do most things but kissing, particularly if they have boyfriends/fiances/husbands waiting for them.

Reply 19

blissy

15

Sounds sweet, but it's just not for me.

I think it probably stems from the whole guarding against lust thing that some devout Christians believe in.

Virgin lips: no kissing before marriage

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