Depression, uni and Ex bf

Hi as some of you know my bf broke up with me just before christmas which came as a shock. I was suffering from depression as I found it hard being at uni and settling in as I missed my bf and my family etc. When i broke up for uni I hoped things would get better with my depression but now I've been dumped I'm feeling so low. I've come back to uni and cant do anything, ive tried to go to lectures and even see my flatamtes but all i can do is lie in bed crying. I still talk to my ex on msn, weve said it might be best to block each other but he really is the only person who seems to care at the moment. im worried as I have a recent history of self harming and by being sat in my room all day im worried what i might do. i cant bring myself to go outside :frown:

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Ummmmmmm

Reply 2

brunswick

Monkey_Maiden

Hi as some of you know my bf broke up with me just before christmas which came as a shock. I was suffering from depression as I found it hard being at uni and settling in as I missed my bf and my family etc. When i broke up for uni I hoped things would get better with my depression but now I've been dumped I'm feeling so low. I've come back to uni and cant do anything, ive tried to go to lectures and even see my flatamtes but all i can do is lie in bed crying. I still talk to my ex on msn, weve said it might be best to block each other but he really is the only person who seems to care at the moment. im worried as I have a recent history of self harming and by being sat in my room all day im worried what i might do. i cant bring myself to go outside :frown:

*huge hugs* I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. As your depression has got to a point where you're thinking of self-harming (or, similarly, if you were having suicidal thoughts) you need to see a doctor immediately. If your uni has a counselling service, make an appointment with them, they could prove very helpful, as they have a lot of experience in matters such as this :smile:

Good luck, you will get through this *hugs*

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_poptart_

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I not its a cliche but by taking it a day at a time you will slowly get back on your feet. Just remember youre human and any other sane person would feel the same! You might think now that your ex is the only one who cares but maybe by making an effort to talk about it to your flatmates u can get the same care and support off them instead.

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Monkey_Maiden

OP

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brunswick

*huge hugs* I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. As your depression has got to a point where you're thinking of self-harming (or, similarly, if you were having suicidal thoughts) you need to see a doctor immediately. If your uni has a counselling service, make an appointment with them, they could prove very helpful, as they have a lot of experience in matters such as this :smile:

Good luck, you will get through this *hugs*

Thank you

I went to a counsellor last term a couple of times and I don't think it's for me to be honest. I'm thinkinbg of trying another one soon though. I'm just feeling so guilty, I'm here at uni with my parents paying me to go here but I can't even go to lectures because I'm so depressed. I can't even talk to them about it, they said coming back will do me god to sleep with loads of ppl to get over him but I don't want to, thats the thing thought, I don't wanna do anything! :frown:

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pixiepeep

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I honestly know how you're feeling. My ex dumped cause I was suffering with depression, which, frankly, didn't do much to help :p:

I tried all the councelling and stuff and it really didn't help. I went to see my GP cause I was terrified I'd end up doing something to hurt myself, and he suggested anti-depressents. I saw it as a last option, and didn't know where else to turn. But by gum did they work! I'm not on them anymore, and I think I was glad to have something, just so I knew that I was going to get out of hte spiral. I was on them for 3 months, and weened off them for one, and while the dr said he'd prefer me to be on them for 6 months, I refused. They got me back on my feet, and while I've had a few relapses into "darkness" in the past few months, they've been nothing like it.

I know once you get into the spiral it is nigh impossible to get out of without any help. No one around me really understood why I kept randomly crying and why I wanted to do nothing but sit in bed and hug my pillow!

What you have to remember is that depression is not entirely just a state of mind - it's a physical change in the body. When your brain stops producing enough seratonin (sp?) your mood decreases. There's theories at the moment that the cold weather stimulates a decrease, hence Seasonal Affective Disorder.
If you need someone to talk to, PM me. I honestly do know how crapy it feels.

*hugs* I hope you feel better soon

Reply 6

-TMG-

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Monkey_Maiden

Hi as some of you know my bf broke up with me just before christmas which came as a shock. I was suffering from depression as I found it hard being at uni and settling in as I missed my bf and my family etc. When i broke up for uni I hoped things would get better with my depression but now I've been dumped I'm feeling so low. I've come back to uni and cant do anything, ive tried to go to lectures and even see my flatamtes but all i can do is lie in bed crying. I still talk to my ex on msn, weve said it might be best to block each other but he really is the only person who seems to care at the moment. im worried as I have a recent history of self harming and by being sat in my room all day im worried what i might do. i cant bring myself to go outside :frown:

If you are broke up then its best to delete each other off MSN, I deleted my ex off MSN ages ago. And took her off my MySpace and didnt reply to any of her sad little 'Merry xmas' and 'Happy birthday' texts...

I mean its like my flatmate, she's broke up with her bf but he still comes her to see her most weekends...wtf is that all about.

As for your depression, get some counselling or something. And you can get lecture slides off the internet, just if you have seminars thats where you miss important work.

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