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My Boyfriend Thinks My Best Friend is Hott!

Should I be upset? He keeps talking about her. He'll see a person on TV and be like..shes almost as hot as... and then say hes just joking. What also makes me made is he calls her pretty...hes never called me that...just "sexy" or "cute"...I want to dump him lol ok no I don't...but this really makes me made and I knew when he first met her he would think she was cute because she is but he doesnt need to remind me. How can i get him to stop...and maybe even say those things to me...because just asking him to do so isnt working

Reply 1

ApeXaviour

7

Just thinking it is fine, it's natural. Nothing for him to be ashamed of. He sounds like he's being very insensitive to you however.

Just asking him doesn't do the trick cos he obviously cannot empathise with how you feel. Best way to make him stop is to do the exact same as he's doing. It will make him realise and hopefully. Taste of his own medicine etc. NOT for revenge purposes but to enlighten him as to how he's making you feel.

Oh that pizza delivery guy was soo hot, did you see him? Oooch come to Mama!

Reply 2

Catski

You should probably let him know just how uncomfortable this makes you. Everyone finds other people attractive but its particularly unnecessary - and insensitive - to mention it to you so frequently, especially as she's your mate. You really need to get the point across that it hurts you, because it isn't fair of him to do this.

Reply 3

Fleece

15

yeah..but just saying the pizza delivery guy isnt quite the same as your best mate.
that is hurtful and tactless.
can i ask how old you/he is? because it sounds quite an immature thing to do :-\

Reply 4

erk

14

The TV thing sounds like suttn i'd do, idiotic, but i like to wind people up, i dont mean to be mean im just immature. But yeh, talk to him about it.. although it's natural for him to find girls attractive! Maybe he's tryna play the jealousy cards, god knows why.

Reply 5

Yeah, see thats the thing. He'll talk about how she is "pretty" or "beautiful" and expect me to laugh about it but then if I say I'm hanging out with one of my guy friends he goes all cold on me and does the pity thing "well if u dont want to be with me thats fine..." He can be such a girl in that respect lol...what bugs me now too is that recently my best friend was like "ur like...is really cute...i want a b/f"--well she cant have him!! I've always resented her anyway because she's petit and blonde and im bi-racial and...not blonde :smile:

Reply 6

erk

14

Firebird

I used to get so wound up when my boyfriend would see Angelina Jolie in a film and be like "phwoar". My best friend is hot as well, so that was another worry. I had a big go at him and said if he really loved me he wouldn't even look at other women (well, obviously he will, but now he doesn't do it when I'm there and never says anything about it!). Alternatively, do what he does. He won't be so happy when you're going on about how his best friend is the fittest guy ever! Or you could just give him a slap for being so rude! I'd be tempted to say "well f off and go date her then if you think she's so gorgeous!". Good luck!

Holy ****, the imagination is just that, the imagination. If i'm watching a movie and Sienna Miller is in it, ill comment on how attractive she is - it's my opinion. I'm not going to go out with her, it's fantasy. I go out with someone because im attracted to them on lots of levels, i won't go on and on about finding an actor attractive, but i'm not going to hide a fantasy, most girls i've been with are secure enough to realise this. I agree on the best friend thing, but totally disagree on random fantasies everyone has.

Reply 7

-TMG-

9

Anonymous

Should I be upset? He keeps talking about her. He'll see a person on TV and be like..shes almost as hot as... and then say hes just joking. What also makes me made is he calls her pretty...hes never called me that...just "sexy" or "cute"...I want to dump him lol ok no I don't...but this really makes me made and I knew when he first met her he would think she was cute because she is but he doesnt need to remind me. How can i get him to stop...and maybe even say those things to me...because just asking him to do so isnt working

Why is he saying that in front of you? I dont say that in front of my girlfriend...Your bf sounds either immature, or insecure or something. Maybe just plain weird. You would be better off dumping him and moving on.

Reply 8

Angel Interceptor

11

He's being honest with you though, which has to count for something. For example, if you ever asked him whether he thought that your friend was hot (when you know she is) and he said know would be worse than him being honest about it. One of my ex girlfriends and me had a good relationship as we were honest about these things - I told her if I found one of her friends attractive (although I'd never have done anything about it as I loved my girlfriend) and she told me if she found any of my friends attractive. I think it's a good way to be, and honesty is vital in a relationship, so I don't think you should be worried. Hope that this advice helps. :smile:

Reply 9

Hes my first bf...and I thought since he was 25 he would be more mature..guess not ...thats why i always avoided guys my age (im 17)

Reply 10

erk

14

It could be that he's insecure thus he wants to make you jealous to confirm that you like him and so he'll receive more attention. :/

Reply 11

WaW™

3

oh wot a biggie? i just think your insecure! after all he is with you. and he feels confident in the fact that he can talk you bout other women without you being wound up. he is jus thinking it not acting on it he is just having an opinion on it. i am sure it means nothing :biggrin:

Reply 12

keenya2006

Well its confirmed...Im jealous and I love him!!! :smile:

Should I just say that to him then lol

Reply 13

Well its confirmed im jealous and I love him!!!! should I tell him that then lol

Reply 14

ApeXaviour

7

Anonymous

Hes my first bf...and I thought since he was 25 he would be more mature..guess not ...thats why i always avoided guys my age (im 17)

Well there's your problem. IMHO any 25 year old man who goes out with a 17 y/o girl is going to be inherently immature.

You're better off finding a young mature chap. They are out there, in similar quantities to young mature women.

Reply 15

erk

14

Mortimer

oh wot a biggie? i just think your insecure! after all he is with you. and he feels confident in the fact that he can talk you bout other women without you being wound up. he is jus thinking it not acting on it he is just having an opinion on it. i am sure it means nothing :biggrin:

Personally i think this guy has got it nailed.

Reply 16

Omg!!! Im so not insecure!!! I just like to hear that im pretty and loved and that hes happy with me....ok maybe I just totally made your point :biggrin:

Thanx!

Reply 17

-TMG-

9

Anonymous

Well its confirmed im jealous and I love him!!!! should I tell him that then lol

Why do you love him?

And its not that he trusts her, its that he's complimenting his girlfriend's friend rather than the girl he's going out with! He sounds like a ham shanker.

Reply 18

Well I love his personality and hes my first boyfriend and we've been going together for 6 months and he doesnt rush me with the sex thing...which kind of makes me question him because hes 25 and ok with no sex..is he getting it from somewhere else? :eek:

like MY BEST FRIEND!!!

Reply 19

erk

14

-TMG-

Why do you love him?

And its not that he trusts her, its that he's complimenting his girlfriend's friend rather than the girl he's going out with! He sounds like a ham shanker.

Why is the dude going out with her? for many reasons, unless he just wants a shag but we'll assume the former. The reasons are good, usually. If he wanted her mate, he'd end his current rship. I'm not being funny, but if a girl is good looking she's good looking, no need to be jealous, you can't change someones feeling about another ones looks. Granted, this guy seems to be saying it a little bit too much to the wrong chick. I used to compliment my girlfriend's friends, not to their face, but they were good looking, as was my girlfriend. Look above, i'll say it again, you go out with someone because of so many otehr things than looks. :smile:

My Boyfriend Thinks My Best Friend is Hott!

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