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can i make it?
Ok so im 16 and i want to move out of my family home. I am thinking about droping out of college if i find a decent full time job, i don't want to move into my own flat or anything cos i know i won't be able to afford that but into a room in house share or something.
College isn't going well and i know i've already failed my course and i'm feeling pressure to do something with my life from family and not to fail like my sister.
Do you think this is a good idea? i know it doesnt sound like it, but i dont wanna live in this terrible house anymore. I can't actully drop out of college becasue i will have so many people on my back about it. I'm also scared im not going to have a social life any more, i know how sad that sounds but thats also one of the main reasons i havent droped out yet.
This is serious so i only want proper help because im really lost with what to do.
College isn't going well and i know i've already failed my course and i'm feeling pressure to do something with my life from family and not to fail like my sister.
Do you think this is a good idea? i know it doesnt sound like it, but i dont wanna live in this terrible house anymore. I can't actully drop out of college becasue i will have so many people on my back about it. I'm also scared im not going to have a social life any more, i know how sad that sounds but thats also one of the main reasons i havent droped out yet.
This is serious so i only want proper help because im really lost with what to do.
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Im confused. you say you're thinking about dropping out of college, but then say you cant actually do it?
Tbh it's not a great idea - you're 16 - the full time job prospects arent exactly great for 16 year olds with next to no qualifications..and the pay won't be great - i wouldnt have said enough to pay for rent/bills/food etc.
Tbh it's not a great idea - you're 16 - the full time job prospects arent exactly great for 16 year olds with next to no qualifications..and the pay won't be great - i wouldnt have said enough to pay for rent/bills/food etc.
Your to young to be moving out in my opinion, and you should never move out until you got a well payed job otherwise everything could backfire on you.
Plus moving out wont make these pressures go away you know, why not stick at college who knows it might bring up some good ideas or something for you.
Or perhaps have a chat with a carrears adviser??
Plus moving out wont make these pressures go away you know, why not stick at college who knows it might bring up some good ideas or something for you.
Or perhaps have a chat with a carrears adviser??
Well you haven't given us much to go on. Why do you want to leave your house other than because it is 'terrible'? And why do you think you've failed your course? Can't you re-take it or do a different course?
Trying to get a bedsit or something really isn't the way. Try to patch up or put up with the problems at home, at least until you're in a position to get a decent job.
Obviously there's the possibilty of dropping out of college and getting a job and your own place. If you get a job you'll be able to afford to rent a council flat. But you'd have to be put on a waiting list for months, so that's not going to be happening soon, and is that the kind of life you want anyway?
Find another college course that you think you can do, and stay at home.
Trying to get a bedsit or something really isn't the way. Try to patch up or put up with the problems at home, at least until you're in a position to get a decent job.
Obviously there's the possibilty of dropping out of college and getting a job and your own place. If you get a job you'll be able to afford to rent a council flat. But you'd have to be put on a waiting list for months, so that's not going to be happening soon, and is that the kind of life you want anyway?
Find another college course that you think you can do, and stay at home.
Reply 4
If you can make it in a big institution, RAF, Army, Police (18) or like me got offered a good job in IT at 16, go for it if you cant get any more quaifications.
But generally.... 16 is a **** age, you cant get any decent job (your min wage is £3 per hour!:P) You're better off getting even one more piece of paper on the free ride that is your next two years!
Army though would be good... theyd give you qualifications free free freeeeee! oh, but you get shot at sometimes... so y'know...
But generally.... 16 is a **** age, you cant get any decent job (your min wage is £3 per hour!:P) You're better off getting even one more piece of paper on the free ride that is your next two years!
Army though would be good... theyd give you qualifications free free freeeeee! oh, but you get shot at sometimes... so y'know...
Consider house prices and prices in general, you are better off (perhaps not the situation) staying where you are and working at your course - maybe you need to try a little harder or use different revision/learning techniques. At your age it is not only harder to find a job but you will be paid less and will have to make much more of an effort to find and stay in a job than someone with qualifications, whatever they might be.
Are you sure that the situation at home cannot be resolved. Levaing home may be the beginning of more troubles rather than a solution to the ones you already have. It does not appear to be a very good idea. You would probably be better off changing course or attempting to pass as well as you can. Think about what you would like to do with your life and not what other people hope or would like for you to do.
Are you sure that the situation at home cannot be resolved. Levaing home may be the beginning of more troubles rather than a solution to the ones you already have. It does not appear to be a very good idea. You would probably be better off changing course or attempting to pass as well as you can. Think about what you would like to do with your life and not what other people hope or would like for you to do.
u are not going to be able to do this its just to expensive. and the likely hood of u getting a well paid job at 16 is not gd
why not turn ur attitude towards ur course around and in go to university then u can have a well fun experience move out and hav a chance at getting a decent job
try to talk to ur teachers get them to motivate u, they arent gonna give u a hard time when ur going to them for help
trying to move out is a lot of work and responsibility!!! having a morgage at the age of 16 is so much presure on u and renting costs loadssss
plus u will get lonely on ur own
why not turn ur attitude towards ur course around and in go to university then u can have a well fun experience move out and hav a chance at getting a decent job
try to talk to ur teachers get them to motivate u, they arent gonna give u a hard time when ur going to them for help
trying to move out is a lot of work and responsibility!!! having a morgage at the age of 16 is so much presure on u and renting costs loadssss
plus u will get lonely on ur own
Reply 8
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If I remember correctly, Avril Lavigne was 16 when she moved out.. 
I don't recommend you do the same though, esp. not without a good job. Try a career counsellor at uni.
I don't recommend you do the same though, esp. not without a good job. Try a career counsellor at uni.To the OP: ditto with what everyone else has said really. Many employers are terribly unscrupulous and because they can pay you less they will pay you less. The real world is tough (pretty much the reason I went to uni - to put off entering it for another 3 years).
Reply 9
I think you should give it time...I dont know you personaly and cant say if you are mature enough or not to live your own life, but still moving from your family is a huge step...and you must think twice before doing it. And btw I doubt that you can find a good full time job at the age of 16 without degree...
I sympathise- I wanted to leave at 16 too and I'm still here at 19 (though managing to spend about 3/4 of the year at uni). One thing I discovered is that you're still technically a minor at 16 in terms of a home. I believe you can't legally sign a contract on your own at that age so if you were renting privately it would have to be under your parents' or a social worker's guidance. To get council accomodation your parents have to officially sign to say that there is no longer a home for you with them. I don't know if it's changed since I tried but I would say that your best chance is to weather it out for a couple more years. Good luck!
It's neither right nor wrong for someone to move out of home at 16, it's down to whether they're ready to live independently and every individual case is different.
I moved out at 17 and people said I was stupid and doing it too soon, but I knew I was capable of looking after myself and wanted to be independent. I've turned out alright, I've got a degree and a good job and a nice flat, so it's not the downward spiral into council houses and the dole that people make it out to be.
But I had a mate that moved out at 17 too, and he didn't do too well. He moved from crappy job to crappy job and kept getting evicted for not paying his rent. He left home on bad terms so he couldn't go back and he ended up staying with about 20 different people until he finally got himself sorted.
If you're really sure that college and home aren't for you, then you need to have a definite way of making it work on your own. It is expensive and bills do mount up more than you ever think they will, so you need to be sure you can do it first. You should also try to leave on good terms with your parents so you have the option of moving back if it doesn't work out.
But it sounds as though you may be considering moving out just because your parents would give you grief about leaving college. Firstly, I would never advise anyone to leave education. I think it's one of the most important things you'll ever do, and even though the academic route isn't for everyone, it gives you so many more options later in life and you could end up regretting it for a long time. If you're not happy with your subjects or college, you can always change them, but I'd strongly advise you to make sure you're qualified in something. It doesn't even have to be an academic qualification, vocational training will be valuable too, just get trained to do something that can lead you to a stable job and a good income. But anyway, if you are determined to leave college, I'm sure leaving home wouldn't be a necessity, you should be able to talk to your parents, explain why you're unhappy and what it is you want to do. Just have a plan, your parents probably won't mind what you're doing as long as you're actually doing something constructive.
I moved out at 17 and people said I was stupid and doing it too soon, but I knew I was capable of looking after myself and wanted to be independent. I've turned out alright, I've got a degree and a good job and a nice flat, so it's not the downward spiral into council houses and the dole that people make it out to be.
But I had a mate that moved out at 17 too, and he didn't do too well. He moved from crappy job to crappy job and kept getting evicted for not paying his rent. He left home on bad terms so he couldn't go back and he ended up staying with about 20 different people until he finally got himself sorted.
If you're really sure that college and home aren't for you, then you need to have a definite way of making it work on your own. It is expensive and bills do mount up more than you ever think they will, so you need to be sure you can do it first. You should also try to leave on good terms with your parents so you have the option of moving back if it doesn't work out.
But it sounds as though you may be considering moving out just because your parents would give you grief about leaving college. Firstly, I would never advise anyone to leave education. I think it's one of the most important things you'll ever do, and even though the academic route isn't for everyone, it gives you so many more options later in life and you could end up regretting it for a long time. If you're not happy with your subjects or college, you can always change them, but I'd strongly advise you to make sure you're qualified in something. It doesn't even have to be an academic qualification, vocational training will be valuable too, just get trained to do something that can lead you to a stable job and a good income. But anyway, if you are determined to leave college, I'm sure leaving home wouldn't be a necessity, you should be able to talk to your parents, explain why you're unhappy and what it is you want to do. Just have a plan, your parents probably won't mind what you're doing as long as you're actually doing something constructive.
Reply 12
I contemplated the same at your age. Now I am so, so glad I never went ahead with it.
Reply 14
My sister dropped out of school at 16 with 2 qualifications to her name, she's been unhappy in her job ever since and is now back at college, studying to go to uni. She's 34. It's not worth it to leave now, stick it out, get your A-levels and then you can contemplate your future. For 2 more years, that will fly by, it's so not worth it.
Also, a friend of mine left school at 16, he's been unhappy in his job but unable to move any higher in it, because he hasn't got the qualifications for promotion.
Also, a friend of mine left school at 16, he's been unhappy in his job but unable to move any higher in it, because he hasn't got the qualifications for promotion.
Reply 15
the thing is that what is the point of carrying on at college if only at the end of the year ive failed the course? my parents might be in the middle of a divorce by then and i dont want to have to be in the middle of all their crap, and i cant go to family everytime things get hard.
right now i just feel so lost about everything, home life, college and not having a job. it must sound so dumb but its all on top of me now and i dont know how to deal with it.
right now i just feel so lost about everything, home life, college and not having a job. it must sound so dumb but its all on top of me now and i dont know how to deal with it.
Reply 16
dude, if you really wanna do it make sure you sort EVERYTHING OUT FIRST but it doesnt sound like a good plan. If you're in college, just stick it out. It may suck but it probably for the best. My friend dropped out first year and bums about now for having not got a job...still lives withs his parents though I think. Probably should just stay at least till your eighteen and in a better position to look after yourself.
Reply 17
Don't do it. I was about to do it yesterday but my parents phoned up the school and stuff and it got all sorted out in the end, I just want to say that it's going to be a huge mistake if you do.
hey.. i don't particularly appreciate all this negativity from you. i just left college, i'm 17.. i was a term into my first year, and i hated every second of it. it made me miserable and i didn't want to stick around for another two years.
there are plenty of jobs out there for people like me who have left with no 'degree'.. i have 8 A-C gcse's - and there are plenty of employers out there looking for people to train up themselves, and i can start on £12k per annum, which personally i don't think is bad. you can always do qualifications in your own time with the open university, or somewhere else who do the 'over the internet' learning.
not everyone has to train up and get degrees to be happy, or get a good job. you just have to know where to look and you will be fine. if you are unhappy, there is no point staying there.
and btw, the minimum wage is worked out so that anyone in those specific age groups can live off the amount given. so screw you all. there is nothing wrong with leaving, and she isn't going to ruin her life by not spending thousands on uni.
there are plenty of jobs out there for people like me who have left with no 'degree'.. i have 8 A-C gcse's - and there are plenty of employers out there looking for people to train up themselves, and i can start on £12k per annum, which personally i don't think is bad. you can always do qualifications in your own time with the open university, or somewhere else who do the 'over the internet' learning.
not everyone has to train up and get degrees to be happy, or get a good job. you just have to know where to look and you will be fine. if you are unhappy, there is no point staying there.
and btw, the minimum wage is worked out so that anyone in those specific age groups can live off the amount given. so screw you all. there is nothing wrong with leaving, and she isn't going to ruin her life by not spending thousands on uni.
yes...but most people who fall within the bracket where you get 3 quid an hour as minimum wage would most likely still be living at home...
its not negativity pumpkin its called reality.
i had an absolute hellish time living at home..to the point where i didnt honestly know if i could hang on for the 2 years i had to wait till i moved out to uni. but i did...
and you knw what was even harder? moving back in after i quit and had a gap year until i reapplied..i thought id left. but i stuck through it. you cant run away all the time just because things are a little tough. id say things are gonna be a whole lot tougher if you leave.
its not negativity pumpkin its called reality.
i had an absolute hellish time living at home..to the point where i didnt honestly know if i could hang on for the 2 years i had to wait till i moved out to uni. but i did...
and you knw what was even harder? moving back in after i quit and had a gap year until i reapplied..i thought id left. but i stuck through it. you cant run away all the time just because things are a little tough. id say things are gonna be a whole lot tougher if you leave.
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