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Who's being selfish?
I'm meant to be going to my boyfriend's tonight. He was supposed to see his friend last night but didn't. So he wants to see him tonight. I don't like this friend because he was rude to me and ignored me. Anyway, my boyfriend still wants to see me. I'll get to his house at about 6pm and have to go to sleep around 10:30pm because of work, which my bf knows. His friend will be there, and they're going to play ps2 football. My bf says I can join in, but they never let me. I said that his friend should leave at 8pm so we can have some time together.
Anyway he says his friend is going to be there till late in the evening. Basically, my boyfriend wants me to go round and watch them play ps2, and we can't be all cuddly because his friend will feel left out
. So I said that if his friend didn't leave at 8pm then I would leave and be incredibly pissed off. My boyfriend accused me of not compromising. I don't think making me sit there for five hours watching him play ps2 with someone I don't even like is compromise, when he agreed to see me first.
My boyfriend has had the entire holiday (6 weeks) to play ps2 with this friend, and I see him at weekends and occasionally during the week. He did this already - cancelling on me to see his friend - and now he's doing it again. Help!
Who do you think is being selfish? Obviously I think I'm in the right
But all opinions very welcome. Especially if they include the advice "punch your boyfriend in the head"!!!
Edit: it's over an hour's drive to his house, and I gotta get up at 6am as well. He's can't be bothered to drive to mine.
Anyway he says his friend is going to be there till late in the evening. Basically, my boyfriend wants me to go round and watch them play ps2, and we can't be all cuddly because his friend will feel left out
. So I said that if his friend didn't leave at 8pm then I would leave and be incredibly pissed off. My boyfriend accused me of not compromising. I don't think making me sit there for five hours watching him play ps2 with someone I don't even like is compromise, when he agreed to see me first.My boyfriend has had the entire holiday (6 weeks) to play ps2 with this friend, and I see him at weekends and occasionally during the week. He did this already - cancelling on me to see his friend - and now he's doing it again. Help!
Who do you think is being selfish? Obviously I think I'm in the right
But all opinions very welcome. Especially if they include the advice "punch your boyfriend in the head"!!!Edit: it's over an hour's drive to his house, and I gotta get up at 6am as well. He's can't be bothered to drive to mine.
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ok, your boyf is being a tool. However, why don't you just say that you're not going to hang about watching two people play PS2 (watching is HELL) and that you're going to do something with your mates. There's not much point in you going over there if he's not going to pay attention to you. If you only see him sporatically, then he should be aware that your time with him is precious. Punch him in the head!!
Turn up wearing some nice french lingerie 
see who gets the attention then... I think he might cancel on his friend for an 'emergency' 
see who gets the attention then... I think he might cancel on his friend for an 'emergency' 
Go to your bf's house, find some way of getting him and the friend out of the room for a few minutes, unplug & hide one of the vital PS2 wires... after a few minutes of frantic searching, the friend will (hopefully) get bored and go home... leaving you and your bf alone! Can't fail! (well, it probably will but even if it does, would still be good just to see the looks on their faces )
)Sithius
Yes because hiding things from him will make him happy.
My advice FireBird. Don't follow jeff's pathetic advice.
My advice FireBird. Don't follow jeff's pathetic advice.
Ouch! Calm down fella
I still say just take all your clothes off firebird and see which he'd rather play with... if he still picks up the controller, leave, he's in the closet...
Sithius
Yes because hiding things from him will make him happy.
My advice FireBird. Don't follow jeff's pathetic advice.
My advice FireBird. Don't follow jeff's pathetic advice.
Got a better suggestion?
Firebird
That would be hilarious.
......
Edit: the reason my bf won't let me play is because I beat him every time, and then he has a fit and gets in a really bad mood with me.
That would be hilarious.......
Edit: the reason my bf won't let me play is because I beat him every time, and then he has a fit and gets in a really bad mood with me.
A girlfriend who could beat me on Fifa...
I'd love it! It'd get me hot
mmmm
Firebird That would be hilarious.
Annoyingly he's already said that he's not sure if he wants me there now. He seems to want some quiet gf who does what he wants. He's already threatened to dump me if I don't agree to what he wants.
I love him, and it's normally great, except when it comes to this friend.
Whoever voted that I'm being selfish, can you explain please? My boyfriend couldn't/wouldn't!
Edit: the reason my bf won't let me play is because I beat him every time, and then he has a fit and gets in a really bad mood with me.
That would be hilarious.Annoyingly he's already said that he's not sure if he wants me there now. He seems to want some quiet gf who does what he wants. He's already threatened to dump me if I don't agree to what he wants.
I love him, and it's normally great, except when it comes to this friend.Whoever voted that I'm being selfish, can you explain please? My boyfriend couldn't/wouldn't!
Edit: the reason my bf won't let me play is because I beat him every time, and then he has a fit and gets in a really bad mood with me.
Threatened to dump you for that!?
Give me his address, I'll go give him a talking too.
i think hes gay...
Am I the only one who is going to defend your BF.
All he did was play on a game with his mate that he has properly known a lot longer then he has dated you. He didn't have to invite you over you know, but he did so surely that means he is making some effort. Also you have to understand that guys like playing games like that. I reckon its you that is the selfish one because you're trying to control who your BF is seeing and when. You shouldn't be so obessive over little things like that.
All he did was play on a game with his mate that he has properly known a lot longer then he has dated you. He didn't have to invite you over you know, but he did so surely that means he is making some effort. Also you have to understand that guys like playing games like that. I reckon its you that is the selfish one because you're trying to control who your BF is seeing and when. You shouldn't be so obessive over little things like that.
Tell him his priorities are all wrong and his should tell his friend he's spending the night with you. Then demand he takes you out as way of an apology to you!
I can feel for u, long distance relationships are hard, especially when its more thn a week or 2 u dnt see eachother. I think its pretty selfish of him to arrange to meet u, then dump u for his mate but at the same time, we know only ur side of the story. Not saying u are a liar, but there are 2 sides to every story like this.
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