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Well do you like him? I guess that is the initial question you need to ask yourself! A disability shouldn't be a reason not to like someone in that way, but it sometimes is.
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Anonymous
Question for 6th form girls: If you knew a disabled guy -walks, but spacked-up legs, arms, slightly slow voice etc- and you found out he liked you, what would you do?

Be honest, l'm curious



Nothing like political correctness, is there?! Jesus.
It's more than enough a reason or better yet a factor on you liking someone. Personally.. I would be very very nice to her, but yet not be involved in 'that' kind of a relationship.
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YEAH I F***IN LOVE MYSELF LOLOLOL :biggrin: :biggrin:

I am him!
I think I would make an effort to be friends. I suppose I can't really comment though as I don't know what the guy is like personality-wise.
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Hmmm . . . is this based on a real life situation, or merely hypothetical?

Well, if i'm a girl, i would be judging him on his personality, his hobbies ... his drive and passion for life. If he's the type who could really overcome his setbacks and become a success in life, and of course, if u like him back, than who cares what others think? Go out with him! That's just my opinion ...
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Assuming I didn't 'like' him back, I'd be friendly and polite but wouldn't encourage anything. If he chose to bring the issue back then that would be his perogative and I'd be happy to talk about it.

Basically, the same thing I'd do with any guy I didn't fancy. Sure, the disability would probably be a factor in me not feeling the same way, but that doesn't mean the guy deserves to get a different reaction to others. After all, there are many reasons for not being attracted to someone. Everyone should be treated with respect as far as I'm concerned.
Anonymous
YEAH I F***IN LOVE MYSELF LOLOLOL :biggrin: :biggrin:

I am him!


Ahhh ok :wink:
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I don't think people are getting the point of the thread.

What I think is that it would be a bit awkward for the girl. I mean, she may be self conscious about going out with you?
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I've had this issue all my college years. I am in a situation where i live at a college for ppl with disabilities and study at a mainstream. Intriguingly, l am the only one that is really socially integrated at the mainstream. But that leads to lots of smiley wavey girls which can easily be taken the wrong way
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you could tell her that if she goes out with you she can park right up next to tescos.

ricky gervais said it first, BLAME HIM!!!




...no but seriously a lot of girls wouldnt go out with you simply because of what other people thought. try and find a girl that doesnt care about that sort of thing.
It would still make me flattered, I mean being disabled doesn't really change the fact that someone likes me:p: I don't know what I would do, depending on if I liked them back I'd just treat them how I normally do, and it all depends on if they wanted to go out with me or not. I probably would consider going out with someone with a disability if they had an interesting personality. I think in general (from what I've seen) disabled people tend to be a stronger person and are able to cope with things like discrimination and that could be attractive.
Did you have a particular girl in mind at your college? :wink:
Anonymous
Question for 6th form girls: If you knew a disabled guy -walks, but spacked-up legs, arms, slightly slow voice etc- and you found out he liked you, what would you do?

Be honest, l'm curious


spacked up legs? :biggrin:

brilliantly put :biggrin:
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Anonymous
you could tell her that if she goes out with you she can park right up next to tescos.

ricky gervais said it first, BLAME HIM!!!
Legendry :biggrin: I love Politics :biggrin: "He's a bit racial" lol

No, it's not that they care about it, its just hard to sometimes say that u like em, if you get the feeling they might be just being extra sweet to make u feel comfortable in an able-bodied environment
It depends. Really all you need to do is change your own way of looking at things. See, I just speak my mind about these things, and as far as I can tell girls like it. The trick is to make sure that they KNOW you're the sort of person who speaks their mind. And if you get turned down, don't seem too disappointed or make them feel guilty.

*afterthought*

and if you get turned down, ask if you can get a quick feel anyway, it's probably worth playing the sympathy card. You never know! It might work. And if not they'll just think you were joking, and say to all of their other friends "I know this guy who's really funny".

I should write books, I have great advice.
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serious narb
spacked up legs? :biggrin:

brilliantly put :biggrin:
Yeah, i love playing the 'i'm disabled therefore i can be as un-pc as i want- card. l know its wrong but WTF! Mb i should say 'fancy taking a poor disabled boy on the ride of his life?' :biggrin:
Depends how much I like him.
If i like him too id go out with him.
if i didnt like him too I'd tell him that I prefer being friends.

Wait. That's how I tell every guy.
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Well, I'm a sixth form girl, and if I'm being completely honest, the idea of going out with a lad with "spacked-up legs, arms, slightly slow voice etc" would be a bit weird, at first. however, I suppose if I knew the guy, and was friends with him, I would feel completely differently, and I love your whole non- pc thing :P its really nice to see someone who doesn't feel sorry for themselves. :smile: Most girls would be mature enough to like someone for their personality and sense of humour (and it sounds like you have a good one!) Good luck!

p.s. Fancy taking a poor disabled boy on the ride of his life? mght work, you never know, made me laugh :P
xxx
shinyhappy
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Well, I'm a sixth form girl, and if I'm being completely honest, the idea of going out with a lad with "spacked-up legs, arms, slightly slow voice etc" would be a bit weird, at first. however, I suppose if I knew the guy, and was friends with him, I would feel completely differently
xxx


Yea see thats exactly right, if you are friends with them anyway youve got past the whole "oo you're disabled" thing, so asking them out is just as awkard as asking a friend out. I went out with a disabled guy once. He was the yummest boy ever. Too bad he was a ********.