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Asking out a smartarse

There's this girl in my English class who I've had a crush on for quite a long time.

The one problem is that she's an arrogant intellectual who's been accepted at Magdelen College Oxford. Frankly, I'm quite intimidated of her. At times, I get the feeling that she's also attracted to me (I'm not deluded, my friends agree) but I'm too scared to speak to her in case I make an arse of myself. Don't get me wrong, I'm very intelligent - but I'm not the next James Joyce.

I am similar to her in quite a number of manners. I've just not been able to build up the confidence to ask her out for a drink. Any advice for dealing with a genius?

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do you really want to ask her out if you personally think shes arrogant
Anonymous
Any advice for dealing with a genius?


Treat her as you'd treat any other girl.
Reply 3
I can identify with arrogance.
The fact that she's clever shouldn't put you off, it wouldn't affect her feelings for you! Have you spoken to her before? If not, start making light conversation with her, then ask her out for a drink or something. Good luck :smile:
Reply 5
Are you going to Oxford too? :smile:
Reply 6
michellehall
do you really want to ask her out if you personally think shes arrogant

Maybe she also has a nice arse?
Reply 7
This rings all-too familiar.
Reply 8
sarforaz
Maybe she also has a nice arse?


Indeed.

No, I'm taking a gap year, but I wouldn't be able to get into Oxford due to my apathy towards school. I'm looking at Edinburgh, Durham, St Andrews or Glasgow for English Lit.
Reply 9
Write her a letter.
Reply 10
For starters, referring to her as a "smartarse" might not be the smartest idea in the world.
Reply 11
She sounds like the type of girl who wants a long term "career" relationship - she probably already thinks she's looking for a husband.

So she might see your potential "prospects" as limited, seeing as she's often to uni soon.

Apart from that, don't let her intellectual nature intimidate you, it means nothing.
Reply 12
maybe you're intimidated by her because you don't really know anything about her. the fact that you're seeing her just as a clever person kinda implies u can't see anything past that. my advice: ask her out.. im sure she has a nicer name than Smartarse!
Reply 13
Anonymous
Don't get me wrong, I'm very intelligent

Are you sure it's her who's the arrogant one?
Reply 14
Get her mildly drunk. I'm generally regarded as a genius, but with a few drinks in me I'm as intellectually incompetent as the next man (or woman) although I'd kill you if you told me that at the time. :biggrin:
Reply 15
You shouldn't be bothered asking her out if you find her arrogant + you will hardly ever see her. If you do ask her out and she is really nice and all it IS worth having a long distance relationship, but get to know her first (and then ask her on a date - seriously, even smart girls don't get hints sometimes. We're all human afterall.).
Reply 16
Pineappolis
Get her mildly drunk. I'm generally regarded as a genius, but with a few drinks in me I'm as intellectually incompetent as the next man (or woman) although I'd kill you if you told me that at the time. :biggrin:


Do I even need to say how bad this piece of advice is ?
Reply 17
Jonatan
Do I even need to say how bad this piece of advice is ?


Not really :smile:. I think its general uselessness speaks for itself. Still, it'd work on me.
Anonymous


The one problem is that she's an arrogant intellectual who's been accepted at Magdelen College Oxford.


Spelling Magdalen right might be a good start.
Get accepted at Oxford.