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I know what you're probably thinking when you see this thread: another teenager bitching about his / her parents, well unfortunately it is a bit but in another way im asking for advice.
My mother is French , she came over from france to live with my dad in england. Now the story starts when I'm around 9/10 and my parents are constantly rowing. We were about to go on holiday to germany when my dad hits my mum in the hip with a chair. I've seen him push her once before that but thats all. Anyways as you've probably guessed by now he's not in love with her. Now normal people you'd think might get a divorce but no. They've been continually rowing since that time. Rows end with my mother bursting into tears crying and my dad saying nothing or locking himself in a room.
Anyway the reason im posting is because its all really come to a head now. My mum has cancer, and she desperately wants my dad to be in love with her and for them to be a "couple". So as a typical day today: work up parents fighting. Dad locks himself in room mum bangs on door crying in tears. I phone my aunty on mum's request, then drive mum up to aunty's. We stay there for about 3 hours come back. Everything is fine for half an hour. Then fighting again and right now even as im typing this i can hear my mum shouting at my dad and crying.
It's gotten to the point where i don't trust them to be alone and im constantly worried that the next banging noise i hear is one of them killing the other. I don't know what to do and would appreciate some advice if anyone has some sort of god-given powers to solve problems that would also be great. Thanks !

Reply 1

FireDeuce

14

Wow thats horrible for you, I don't know what to suggest. If you are unhappy at your house, maybe you could (tactfully) suggest that you and your mum go and stay with your aunty for a little bit?

Reply 2

FireDeuce

Wow thats horrible for you, I don't know what to suggest. If you are unhappy at your house, maybe you could (tactfully) suggest that you and your mum go and stay with your aunty for a little bit?

Tried it.. I often suggest that we go to a hotel / aunty / live in france. But each suggestion she turns down. I believe it is because she is either desperately in love with my dad or dosen't want to be lonely or as she shouted a few seconds ago "I don't want to die alone (in french )". She wants my dad to talk to her so very much and everytime i offer to talk to her to keep her company she says no i want your dad or an adult etc.

Reply 3

brunswick

I'd encourage either you or your mum to contact an organisation such as Refuge (0808 2000 247 or www.refuge.org.uk - there's a feature on their site where it hides your visit from the pc history if you don't want your dad to find out). They'll be in a much better position to help you all deal with the situation. If there's a time where you're genuinely concerned about the safety of either your or your parents, phone the police/get out of the house. Feel free to PM me, good luck *hugs* :smile:

Reply 4

moleo

brunswick

I'd encourage either you or your mum to contact an organisation such as Refuge (0808 2000 247 or www.refuge.org.uk - there's a feature on their site where it hides your visit from the pc history if you don't want your dad to find out). They'll be in a much better position to help you all deal with the situation. If there's a time where you're genuinely concerned about the safety of either your or your parents, phone the police/get out of the house. Feel free to PM me, good luck *hugs* :smile:

Thanks for the suggestion. I have often thought about contacting a charity but im not the opening up type and even posting the message on here was difficult. Not really concerned about the safety of me as everytime it looks close to getting physical I always make sure i have something handy close by. Today it was a wine bottle! How sad.

Reply 5

brunswick

I'd encourage either you or your mum to contact an organisation such as Refuge (0808 2000 247 or www.refuge.org.uk - there's a feature on their site where it hides your visit from the pc history if you don't want your dad to find out). They'll be in a much better position to help you all deal with the situation. If there's a time where you're genuinely concerned about the safety of either your or your parents, phone the police/get out of the house. Feel free to PM me, good luck *hugs* :smile:

Thanks for the suggestion. I have often thought about contacting a charity but im not the opening up type and even posting the message on here was difficult. Not really concerned about the safety of me as everytime it looks close to getting physical I always make sure i have something handy close by. Today it was a wine bottle! How sad

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