In a Western society arranged marriages should no longer be tolerated. Discuss.
Arranged marriages, while remaining typical of some eastern cultures, have become to be seen as morally wrong and outdated in Western societies. There is however a distinction to be made between forced, and arranged marriages, dismissed by many as meaning the same thing. While forced marriages, between two incompliant parties are unquestionably wrong, it remains that arranged marriages should be tolerated in society.
Arranged marriages were at one time typical of all societies, including western ones. Often marriages were arranged as a matter of increasing social standing or wealth, and not the choice of the bride or groom. The same can be said of marriages in some cultures today. This however does not mean that the parties are being married against their will. While the reasons for the marriage may not be founded in love, this does not mean that either party is against the marriage, or that they are not, or will not one day be, in love. It would therefore be wrong that they not be tolerated, because the marriage may be as successful and loving as any ‘conventional’ marriage.
Western societies boast of their philosophies of liberty, and allowing people to exercise free will. People of some cultures, notably those cultures in which arranged marriages remain a social norm, should be allowed to exercise their free will in continuing this practice. No longer tolerating arranged marriages would be more of an infringement on people’s basic liberties in this way than it would encourage them to be exercised.
Arranged marriages in modern times are more frequently considered to be a practice of Eastern cultures. When people choose to live in a Western society, they should arguably be expected to live by Western customs. This could be extended to include disapproval of arranged marriages. Many Western societies are however renowned as being cosmopolitan, and accepting of all cultures. To not tolerate arranged marriages would be a direct contradiction of this accepting attitude, in not permitting people to exercise a tradition of their culture. Therefore it would be unacceptable to not tolerate arranged marriages.
In some cases however, either the bride-or-groom to be may object to the arranged marriage. There may be sufficient familial pressure however so that the said party does not feel they can make state this objection openly. In this way, what may have otherwise been considered a forced marriage – and therefore be immoral and not to be tolerated - may be masked as an arranged marriage. Though this does not mean that the entire tradition of arranged marriages should not be tolerated; those still entering arranged marriages should instead be encouraged to be open about how they feel about the prospective marriage, and if either party is not happy with the arrangement, then it should not be allowed to continue.
While many may simply see the practice of arranged marriages as outdated in modern societies, notably in the West, those people who are of cultures which do still maintain this practice may instead see it as a long-standing tradition to be upheld and continued. In western societies, where foreign cultures are celebrated, and free will encouraged, it would therefore be wrong to not tolerate such a tradition, and so it follows that arranged marriages should still be tolerated in Western societies.
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