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ok so heres my problem sorry this is annoyingly long
basically since september my 2 out of my best m8's hav gone to uni and ive taken a year b4 i go to do an extra course. my best m8 who hasnt gone to uni is still around but since september i actually have not seen her that much, even though she's bin my best m8 for yonks about 15 years
the 4 of us used to go out all the time like every night and meet all our other mates (near enough) and i loved it, we were all really close practically lived together. i stayed on at my old six form and my m8 went to a uni in our town.
the reason why i dont see her anymore is cus she's decided to hang out with this other girl who basically used to bully me in college so u see why i dont really want to hang around with the bully and my mate (we used to be mates with the bully aswell but all my mates stopped being friends with her because she wus so horrible to me, also i add i didnt ask them to do that they jus said enuf was enuf). at the same time i txt my mate everyday and ring her once or twice a day. and she understands why i dont want to hang out with her new mate, but she never wants to hang out with me anymore even though all our mates have gone to uni now and im at college with people who live in completely different directions and although we go out occassionally its only like once every 3 weeks, so she knows that im bored out of my mind and frankly quite upset that after such a long time she jus doesnt bother nemore
me and my mate did go out nearer the beginning of the year (academic by btw) to the pub etc. but as soon as we got in there she b******d off somewhere and i ended up going home on my own, this happened many a time until i didnt bother going nemore.
i spoke to my other mate bout this at uni and she told me jus to txt her and say that although me and her have made new mates i still get bit lonely cu i dont know them that well, and miss her. and basically did she wana do something sat
so i did and she txt me back like yeah i feel the same sometimes but ill always be here. she didnt say nething bout sat even when i asked her again. i rang her this morning and she went out with her new mate (girl who used to bully me) so obv. i wasnt invited.
i did go out with her once with the bully because she asked me to and said it wus important to her, she didnt talk to me and i didnt to her until my mate went to the loo and left us to it so i decided to make an effort, and made small talk, with her but she jus started slagging off all my friends that had gone to uni so i wus like **** this and got extra pissed to numb down the evening.
so am i being pathetic shud i jus bite my lip and go out with them despite being ignored throughout the night
or shud i jus not bother so much with my friend, seems a really poo way of ending a 15 year friendship
the whole thing is to hectic grrrr. any advece opinions wud be great, so that its so long, thanks if u read it all lol
basically since september my 2 out of my best m8's hav gone to uni and ive taken a year b4 i go to do an extra course. my best m8 who hasnt gone to uni is still around but since september i actually have not seen her that much, even though she's bin my best m8 for yonks about 15 years
the 4 of us used to go out all the time like every night and meet all our other mates (near enough) and i loved it, we were all really close practically lived together. i stayed on at my old six form and my m8 went to a uni in our town.
the reason why i dont see her anymore is cus she's decided to hang out with this other girl who basically used to bully me in college so u see why i dont really want to hang around with the bully and my mate (we used to be mates with the bully aswell but all my mates stopped being friends with her because she wus so horrible to me, also i add i didnt ask them to do that they jus said enuf was enuf). at the same time i txt my mate everyday and ring her once or twice a day. and she understands why i dont want to hang out with her new mate, but she never wants to hang out with me anymore even though all our mates have gone to uni now and im at college with people who live in completely different directions and although we go out occassionally its only like once every 3 weeks, so she knows that im bored out of my mind and frankly quite upset that after such a long time she jus doesnt bother nemore
me and my mate did go out nearer the beginning of the year (academic by btw) to the pub etc. but as soon as we got in there she b******d off somewhere and i ended up going home on my own, this happened many a time until i didnt bother going nemore.
i spoke to my other mate bout this at uni and she told me jus to txt her and say that although me and her have made new mates i still get bit lonely cu i dont know them that well, and miss her. and basically did she wana do something sat
so i did and she txt me back like yeah i feel the same sometimes but ill always be here. she didnt say nething bout sat even when i asked her again. i rang her this morning and she went out with her new mate (girl who used to bully me) so obv. i wasnt invited.
i did go out with her once with the bully because she asked me to and said it wus important to her, she didnt talk to me and i didnt to her until my mate went to the loo and left us to it so i decided to make an effort, and made small talk, with her but she jus started slagging off all my friends that had gone to uni so i wus like **** this and got extra pissed to numb down the evening.
so am i being pathetic shud i jus bite my lip and go out with them despite being ignored throughout the night
or shud i jus not bother so much with my friend, seems a really poo way of ending a 15 year friendship
the whole thing is to hectic grrrr. any advece opinions wud be great, so that its so long, thanks if u read it all lol
Reply 1
12
Heya, I'm sorry to hear about your situation. I guess it's always difficult when friends get split up when you all go off to do different things, especially when you were really close like you were with your group.
It sounds like your old best friend has found new friends at her uni, and though she wants to stay in touch with you, it's obviously less of an effort and perhaps more practical to be friends with people she sees every day. It's nice of her to invite you out with her friends, but not the one that used to bully you. I wouldn't go out with them any more if you didn't enjoy it as it really doesn't sound worth it. It may seem harsh, but I think you should probably break with your friend from school, as you are doing different thing with your lives and will naturally have different circles of friends. I know it's tough, but unfortunately people grow apart sometimes.
I'm sorry to hear you don't have many close friends at college, or at least people that live near you. Are there any activities in your town you can go to and make more local friends? There may be a drama group, or sports club or something.
Best of luck, let me know how it goes.
It sounds like your old best friend has found new friends at her uni, and though she wants to stay in touch with you, it's obviously less of an effort and perhaps more practical to be friends with people she sees every day. It's nice of her to invite you out with her friends, but not the one that used to bully you. I wouldn't go out with them any more if you didn't enjoy it as it really doesn't sound worth it. It may seem harsh, but I think you should probably break with your friend from school, as you are doing different thing with your lives and will naturally have different circles of friends. I know it's tough, but unfortunately people grow apart sometimes.
I'm sorry to hear you don't have many close friends at college, or at least people that live near you. Are there any activities in your town you can go to and make more local friends? There may be a drama group, or sports club or something.
Best of luck, let me know how it goes.
Reply 2
14
Kill her. It is the only solution. Then realise how grammatically desolate your own life is, and turn the knife/gun/poison/misshapen baby-born doll on yourself.
Reply 3
thanks 4 ur advice (i dont reckon ill kill her or me though, especially over gramma?)
yeah i think ur right and im all 4 people expanding their friendships but seems a bit stupid she only lives 3 streets down so its lame that its come to this after 15years together.
guess i jus thought it'd be ok staying at home 4 another year cus she was going to aswell, and we've always had a laugh, things change though
yeah i think ur right and im all 4 people expanding their friendships but seems a bit stupid she only lives 3 streets down so its lame that its come to this after 15years together.
guess i jus thought it'd be ok staying at home 4 another year cus she was going to aswell, and we've always had a laugh, things change though
Reply 4
I would stay away from ur best mate as she knows that this girl she is friends with bullied u (i am assuming this). She obviously does not really care about your feelings. Also the girl that bullied u does not seem to want to move on and be your friend. I would stay away from the whole situation.
I know how u feel with your friends. I was in a really close group at college and now all of them have gone to university and we have all drifted apart. I met with my best friend in the holidays and it wasn't the same
Also my friend at uni is feeling exactly the same. People move on and things change. Life will get better
I suggest you get involved in some club or something where you can meet some new people. If you have any more problems just PM me!
I know how u feel with your friends. I was in a really close group at college and now all of them have gone to university and we have all drifted apart. I met with my best friend in the holidays and it wasn't the same
Also my friend at uni is feeling exactly the same. People move on and things change. Life will get better
I suggest you get involved in some club or something where you can meet some new people. If you have any more problems just PM me!
Reply 5
Sorry to hear about your **** friend. You've tried pretty hard and she doesnt really care. Even if she did care I would be quite pissed off if one of my best mates suddenly became good friends with someone that used to bully me. Get yourself a job or anything to keep busy and make new friends 
Reply 6
Anonymous
ok so heres my problem sorry this is annoyingly long
basically since september my 2 out of my best m8's hav gone to uni and ive taken a year b4 i go to do an extra course. my best m8 who hasnt gone to uni is still around but since september i actually have not seen her that much, even though she's bin my best m8 for yonks about 15 years
the 4 of us used to go out all the time like every night and meet all our other mates (near enough) and i loved it, we were all really close practically lived together. i stayed on at my old six form and my m8 went to a uni in our town.
the reason why i dont see her anymore is cus she's decided to hang out with this other girl who basically used to bully me in college so u see why i dont really want to hang around with the bully and my mate (we used to be mates with the bully aswell but all my mates stopped being friends with her because she wus so horrible to me, also i add i didnt ask them to do that they jus said enuf was enuf). at the same time i txt my mate everyday and ring her once or twice a day. and she understands why i dont want to hang out with her new mate, but she never wants to hang out with me anymore even though all our mates have gone to uni now and im at college with people who live in completely different directions and although we go out occassionally its only like once every 3 weeks, so she knows that im bored out of my mind and frankly quite upset that after such a long time she jus doesnt bother nemore
me and my mate did go out nearer the beginning of the year (academic by btw) to the pub etc. but as soon as we got in there she b******d off somewhere and i ended up going home on my own, this happened many a time until i didnt bother going nemore.
i spoke to my other mate bout this at uni and she told me jus to txt her and say that although me and her have made new mates i still get bit lonely cu i dont know them that well, and miss her. and basically did she wana do something sat
so i did and she txt me back like yeah i feel the same sometimes but ill always be here. she didnt say nething bout sat even when i asked her again. i rang her this morning and she went out with her new mate (girl who used to bully me) so obv. i wasnt invited.
i did go out with her once with the bully because she asked me to and said it wus important to her, she didnt talk to me and i didnt to her until my mate went to the loo and left us to it so i decided to make an effort, and made small talk, with her but she jus started slagging off all my friends that had gone to uni so i wus like **** this and got extra pissed to numb down the evening.
so am i being pathetic shud i jus bite my lip and go out with them despite being ignored throughout the night
or shud i jus not bother so much with my friend, seems a really poo way of ending a 15 year friendship
the whole thing is to hectic grrrr. any advece opinions wud be great, so that its so long, thanks if u read it all lol
basically since september my 2 out of my best m8's hav gone to uni and ive taken a year b4 i go to do an extra course. my best m8 who hasnt gone to uni is still around but since september i actually have not seen her that much, even though she's bin my best m8 for yonks about 15 years
the 4 of us used to go out all the time like every night and meet all our other mates (near enough) and i loved it, we were all really close practically lived together. i stayed on at my old six form and my m8 went to a uni in our town.
the reason why i dont see her anymore is cus she's decided to hang out with this other girl who basically used to bully me in college so u see why i dont really want to hang around with the bully and my mate (we used to be mates with the bully aswell but all my mates stopped being friends with her because she wus so horrible to me, also i add i didnt ask them to do that they jus said enuf was enuf). at the same time i txt my mate everyday and ring her once or twice a day. and she understands why i dont want to hang out with her new mate, but she never wants to hang out with me anymore even though all our mates have gone to uni now and im at college with people who live in completely different directions and although we go out occassionally its only like once every 3 weeks, so she knows that im bored out of my mind and frankly quite upset that after such a long time she jus doesnt bother nemore
me and my mate did go out nearer the beginning of the year (academic by btw) to the pub etc. but as soon as we got in there she b******d off somewhere and i ended up going home on my own, this happened many a time until i didnt bother going nemore.
i spoke to my other mate bout this at uni and she told me jus to txt her and say that although me and her have made new mates i still get bit lonely cu i dont know them that well, and miss her. and basically did she wana do something sat
so i did and she txt me back like yeah i feel the same sometimes but ill always be here. she didnt say nething bout sat even when i asked her again. i rang her this morning and she went out with her new mate (girl who used to bully me) so obv. i wasnt invited.
i did go out with her once with the bully because she asked me to and said it wus important to her, she didnt talk to me and i didnt to her until my mate went to the loo and left us to it so i decided to make an effort, and made small talk, with her but she jus started slagging off all my friends that had gone to uni so i wus like **** this and got extra pissed to numb down the evening.
so am i being pathetic shud i jus bite my lip and go out with them despite being ignored throughout the night
or shud i jus not bother so much with my friend, seems a really poo way of ending a 15 year friendship
the whole thing is to hectic grrrr. any advece opinions wud be great, so that its so long, thanks if u read it all lol
Is there such a thing as a bad friend?
Reply 7
I would stay away from ur best mate as she knows that this girl she is friends with bullied u (i am assuming this). She obviously does not really care about your feelings. Also the girl that bullied u does not seem to want to move on and be your friend. I would stay away from the whole situation.
I know how u feel with your friends. I was in a really close group at college and now all of them have gone to university and we have all drifted apart. I met with my best friend in the holidays and it wasn't the same
Also my friend at uni is feeling exactly the same. People move on and things change. Life will get better
I suggest you get involved in some club or something where you can meet some new people. If you have any more problems just PM me!
I know how u feel with your friends. I was in a really close group at college and now all of them have gone to university and we have all drifted apart. I met with my best friend in the holidays and it wasn't the same
Also my friend at uni is feeling exactly the same. People move on and things change. Life will get better
I suggest you get involved in some club or something where you can meet some new people. If you have any more problems just PM me!
yeah she does know, and i definately dont want to be friends with the bully girl. people like that dont change
Sorry to hear about your **** friend. You've tried pretty hard and she doesnt really care. Even if she did care I would be quite pissed off if one of my best mates suddenly became good friends with someone that used to bully me. Get yourself a job or anything to keep busy and make new friends
i already hav a job but am thinking of packing it in as its not very social so is not helping. i am quite pissed off to be honest though more lonely
thanks for all ur help am going to just leave her to it i think, the only problem is i tried this before and she gets angry with me for not calling or txting anymore so cant really win lol
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