girlfriend not giving blow jobs

hiya.. been going out with my gf for almost 2 years.. and she never gives me oral sex, says shes too tired or too busy or woteva. i understand that she mite not enjoy doing it but surely if she loved me she wud want to satisfy me?

Reply 1

random123

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Anonymous

hiya.. been going out with my gf for almost 2 years.. and she never gives me oral sex, says shes too tired or too busy or woteva. i understand that she mite not enjoy doing it but surely if she loved me she wud want to satisfy me?

Well would you/do you already 'reciprocate'? If so, yeah, she's a bit of a selfish bitch really. If you don't give her oral, then tough ****.

Reply 2

Chase Me

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If you loved your girlfriend you would respect her wishes and not be such a whiny ****. Use your hand for christ sake like normal men.

And they say girls are high maintenance.

Reply 3

xXMessedUpXx

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Anonymous

hiya.. been going out with my gf for almost 2 years.. and she never gives me oral sex, says shes too tired or too busy or woteva. i understand that she mite not enjoy doing it but surely if she loved me she wud want to satisfy me?

wow makes a change to see this from the other side

bah it must be revenge, or maybe she genuinely doesn't enjoy it? in which case find other ways she can pleasure you :wink:

Reply 4

jdre86

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i do pleasure her orally if she wants it, normally as foreplay :frown:

i have asked her and she just avoided it. she used to assure me she liked doing it, now i think the truth is that she doesnt like doing it, but its not as if i *love* licking her out. I DO sound selfish but i really want to be satisfied

Reply 5

clairey22

omg chase me seriously? he shudnt have to if shes normal n hes clean she shud

Reply 6

jdre86

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yeah, when she says no if i havent showered for a day i dont care, but when its just after one.. :frown:

Reply 7

Tyler Durden

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jdre86

yeah, when she says no if i havent showered for a day i dont care, but when its just after one.. :frown:

Well why don't you ask her? Not whilst you're at it, but some other time in a non-sexual context....

Reply 8

Poica

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Clairey, I will murder you if I have to struggle to decipher another message. It is clearly in the rules that you do not use text language. Speak correctly.

As far as oral goes - just take the line that if she refuses, you refuse. Meh.

Reply 9

ciara

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Hmm that doesn't seem so good.. I would normally say 'wait and don't put pressure on her', but 2 years is ages to be in a relationship so she should be comfortable enough with you do it. Assuming you have made it obvious that you'd rather like to receive oral sex, she must have some other issue with it. And since you're in a mature, long term relationship, I suggest you talk about it.

A lot of girls don't like blow jobs. They find it icky or uncomfortable or even insulting. I doubt it's many girls' favourite thing to do (though I have to say I love it). Or maybe she just isn't confident with doing it, and thinks she'll do it wrong. You really need to find out, but not make a huge deal about it, which could be tricky. I guess just mention it in a sensitive and vaguely subtle way, and definitely DON'T do it when you're being intimate, cos that'll put pressure on her and ruin the moment. If you are pleasing her then I'm sure she does want to please you, but is a bit insecure about it. Experiment and hopefully it'll just happen naturally, rather than you having to ask!

Reply 10

random123

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i do pleasure her orally if she wants it, normally as foreplay :frown:

i have asked her and she just avoided it. she used to assure me she liked doing it, now i think the truth is that she doesnt like doing it, but its not as if i *love* licking her out. I DO sound selfish but i really want to be satisfied

Umm, did you forget to be anon?

Well if you do 'pleasure her orally' then she's being totally selfish. Just blackmail her into doing it by not doing stuff she wants. Maybe withold sex from her completely for a while until she agrees to it. You can put up with your hand for a while, but she might not be so happy about it.

Reply 11

clairey22

jdre86

i do pleasure her orally if she wants it, normally as foreplay :frown:

i have asked her and she just avoided it. she used to assure me she liked doing it, now i think the truth is that she doesnt like doing it, but its not as if i *love* licking her out. I DO sound selfish but i really want to be satisfied

Honestly the way uve just expressed yourself I think is really good maybe if u sed it to her then u kno shell come round omg i have the best idea say to her is it coz i think im unclean or theres sumat rong with me :frown:

and shell feel so guilty she'll do it. I am a woman and i love it but I tihnk we all differ really

Reply 12

clairey22

Poica

Clairey, I will murder you if I have to struggle to decipher another message. It is clearly in the rules that you do not use text language. Speak correctly.

As far as oral goes - just take the line that if she refuses, you refuse. Meh.

Sorry poica murder me? seems a bit harsh would rather something a bit more creative :wink:

Reply 13

jdre86

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lol dont really care about being anon :smile:

ill delete it after. The rest of our sex life is healthy i guess. I have asked her about it and she just changes the subject always. it could be that she thinks she will do it wrong, but i reassure her and tell her it doesnt matter and why not just try.

Reply 14

SlyPie

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Anonymous

hiya.. been going out with my gf for almost 2 years.. and she never gives me oral sex, says shes too tired or too busy or woteva. i understand that she mite not enjoy doing it but surely if she loved me she wud want to satisfy me?

Some girls find it nasty. Try using a condom for oral.

And to answer your question, no, not necessarily.

Reply 15

l1ncs

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maybe your cock smells, try getting a proper wash maybe?

Reply 16

clairey22

LOL we are really dnt listen to her ...dnt use a condom they smell and taste vulgar if she prefers processed plastic to ur flesh then shes a lil odd

Reply 17

pumpkin7

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and use a condom for oral? it's even worse with a horrible rubbery taste in your mouth... eugh.

and yeah, she would want to satisfy you, but not in a way she doesn't find satisfying too..

Reply 18

Poica

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clairey22

Sorry poica murder me? seems a bit harsh would rather something a bit more creative :wink:

Creative? Okay, stop typing like that or I'll rape you to death, eat your flesh and sew your skin into my clothing. And if you're very very lucky, I'll do it in that order.

Today's rep points to whoever tells me where that's from first!

Reply 19

Helenia

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Keep it clean please folks - I don't want either lots of explicit suggestions, or insults at either him or the girl involved.

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