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Reasonably pretty but unattractive...

Seems to sort of sum me up...think i must be lacking a come-hither gene when it comes to the male of the species

I know i dont look like the back end of a bus or the elephant woman, and im confident, have lots of friends BUT i am a genetic freak :frown: Guys NEVER want me except if they cant get someone they really do want...

Just getting this off my mand cos its makin me feel depressed-i can see me ending up with the stereotypical houseful of cats :frown:
Reply 1
I agree, try relaxing, getting to know guys as friends...
and if not just become fat
Us guys are idiots , our IQ is inversly proportional to our proximaty to mammeries, you sound cool, just try talking to some guys, get them attracted to your mind, not your body.
Best of luck!
PS If your struggling, for pulling tips PM me :p:
Si
Reply 4
I have the same genes for girls, maybe we're related?? :p: But like me, you shouldn't put yourself out for anyone unless you're interested and they should go out with you, rather than wondering whether they like you - if you adopt this psychology things become less depressing...
Reply 5
Post a pic!

Joking (I'm only joking if you want me to be joking o.0)

I'm sure you're not as ugly as you think you are anyway. :smile:
Reply 6


hehe.

Well, as the lurpak ad says, beauty comes from within. So just believe you're beautiful and you will be :smile:
Reply 7
If what you say is true, then you simply have to learn how to play the cards you've been dealt.

In other words, play to your strengths.
Reply 8
Housefull of cats....could be worse..... :smile:
Reply 9
Cats rock!
Reply 10
i feel exactly like u do , im always just the guys friend, i feel horrible though .. ill not go down this road.. but basically ur not alone, i just think we need to realise how much we have to be grateful for and that really we have nothing to worry about..easier said than done i know but still xx chin up! :smile:
Reply 11
"Guys NEVER want me except if they cant get someone they really do want"

This is exactly what this girl on my MSN was talking to me about, you might be her :redface:

Anyway my advice to you is that when a guy is asking you to set him up with one of your friends you should ask him to do the same with one of his friends.

So then he will go up to his friend and say hey that girl over there (in this case you) is pretty hot, I think you should move in. That will cause the guy to think your pretty hot because his mate just told him that.

Well its only a theory and may not work, worth a try though!


On the other hand maybe all your friends are just incredibly attractive and they are pulling the incredibly attractive guys. And your caught in a dilemma because you can't pull guys that they can so you feel if you set your standards lower they might look down on you for it.
I mean I wouldn't hit on a perfect '10' girl just because my friend was also a perfect '10' guy because I know I am not as attractive. I know it sounds harsh but maybe you will just have to live with it that you are not as attractive as your friends. I don't mean anything nasty by it but it seems you could be setting your sights too high.
Reply 12
Sabre
I don't mean anything nasty by it but it seems you could be setting your sights too high.


If anything its probably the opposite! Anyone who thinks they're "above" someone else in that way is not the sort of person you'd want in a relationship.
I know its hard, but u just gotta remember that blokes arent as complicated as they seem (well thats what I seem to have realised anyway!) - if you act friendly around people and are happy in yourself then the people that are good enough for you (dont think oh they're too good for me) will be drawn to you... and then problem solved!!
Just doll yourself up and stop comparing yourself to other people, if certain guys u like approach other girls instead then they're not the guy for you anyway :biggrin:
Anonymous
Seems to sort of sum me up...think i must be lacking a come-hither gene when it comes to the male of the species

I know i dont look like the back end of a bus or the elephant woman, and im confident, have lots of friends BUT i am a genetic freak :frown: Guys NEVER want me except if they cant get someone they really do want...

Just getting this off my mand cos its makin me feel depressed-i can see me ending up with the stereotypical houseful of cats :frown:



Darling I feel soooooooooo much the same,guys won't notice me ....most of the times I take it easy and say 'it's okay it will come eventually' but other times I just feel so depressed...I don't know what's wrong I think we should become slightly more aggresive when we deal with boy-maters and eventually it will happen..don't you worry ok hun?If you feel like it msn me yeah??Good luck!
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Reply 14
Anonymous


Just getting this off my mand cos its makin me feel depressed-i can see me ending up with the stereotypical houseful of cats :frown:

And eaten by alsatians? Bridget Jones-esque melodrama springs to mind!

:hugs: Lol... don't worry about it, there's far more of us 'pretty but unattractive' types than the supermodel lookalikes, and we're generally the ones with brains! You'll find the right guy soon enough. I know how you feel though, I go to school with a whole load of models (eg the girl who does the Pringle clothing adverts is in the year below me!) and it sucks sometimes :rolleyes:
Reply 15
Are you sure you don't just mean that you're pretty but not supermodel material?

Cos pretty but unattractive seems like an oxymoron. I'm attracted to pretty girls. My girlfriend is in fact a pretty girl.
Reply 16
Some so called supermodels aren't beautiful. I look really similar to this model for Valentino I saw in some magazine the other day and I only consider myself ok looking.
Reply 17
I'm bare fit and all that jazz.
Reply 18
imported_Anonymous
Seems to sort of sum me up...think i must be lacking a come-hither gene when it comes to the male of the species

I know i dont look like the back end of a bus or the elephant woman, and im confident, have lots of friends BUT i am a genetic freak :frown: Guys NEVER want me except if they cant get someone they really do want...

Just getting this off my mand cos its makin me feel depressed-i can see me ending up with the stereotypical houseful of cats :frown:


Getting dates is hardly the meaning of life, is it? :rolleyes:
Reply 19
imported_Anonymous
Seems to sort of sum me up...think i must be lacking a come-hither gene when it comes to the male of the species

I know i dont look like the back end of a bus or the elephant woman, and im confident, have lots of friends BUT i am a genetic freak :frown: Guys NEVER want me except if they cant get someone they really do want...

Just getting this off my mand cos its makin me feel depressed-i can see me ending up with the stereotypical houseful of cats :frown:

Totally get what you mean. I'm not in anyway un-attractive - I'm possibly even pretty but I just don't stand out and never get any attention from guys.

Try and get involved in something where you can meet likeminded people and your personality can shine. For example join a sports club/painting/drama - anything.