Not very close to parents - anyone else feel the same?

I was talking to friends who are at uni and they said they meet with their parents on a one-to-one to catch up, and I just couldn't ever imagine doing that with my parents. I'd have to meet with them separately and because we're not that close, I can just imagine there being lots of awkward silences. I know I may just be worrying about nothing, but is it normal to not feel comfortable talking to them when not with my brother and sister? I remember when my dad went away for 2 weeks last year and we spioke 3 times on the phone, but I couldn't hold a conversation with him for longer than1 minute. :/

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Anonymous #1

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No-one..?

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student1234567891

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Original post by Anonymous

I was talking to friends who are at uni and they said they meet with their parents on a one-to-one to catch up, and I just couldn't ever imagine doing that with my parents. I'd have to meet with them separately and because we're not that close, I can just imagine there being lots of awkward silences. I know I may just be worrying about nothing, but is it normal to not feel comfortable talking to them when not with my brother and sister? I remember when my dad went away for 2 weeks last year and we spioke 3 times on the phone, but I couldn't hold a conversation with him for longer than1 minute. :/

hey, i'm in the same boat as you. Don't get me wrong, i love my parents so much but when its comes to communicating with them i find it awkward and difficult. I can't tell them anything personal in the fear that they'll think its stupid, i dread the day when i get a boyfriend and i have to tell them! It's all those questions they ask that makes me squirm but then i realise they love me and i really should talk to them more :/ im sure its just a phase and will wear off soon but don't worry, you're not alone. just remember that they love you no matter what :console:

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screenager2004

14

I don't understand how you can be shy or have nothing in common with someone you've lived with for 16+ years. I can understand if there was some family drama that has estranged you, a betrayal, a massive clash of interests, etc. But just to be a normal intact family unit, but just don't talk to each other.. I don't understand how that happens.

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Grand Pepito

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Try and find a common interest that can spark up a good conversation and can later lead on to bonding time with your parents (EG football, cooking etc etc).

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Besakt

3

My mum only talks to me if she wants me to do something. My dad only talks to me about school and occasionally football.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by screenager2004

I don't understand how you can be shy or have nothing in common with someone you've lived with for 16+ years. I can understand if there was some family drama that has estranged you, a betrayal, a massive clash of interests, etc. But just to be a normal intact family unit, but just don't talk to each other.. I don't understand how that happens.

My parents separated when I was young but live together. My dad tries to be out of the house as much as he can when my mum is around. He tends to go swimming every day after work and does a quick tour of Sainsburys so when he gets back home he just about has time to eat dinner and drop my siblings off to any extra curric activities. Even when he is at home and not socialising / avoiding being at home, I don't know why, I feel kind of uncomfortable with him there. If we talk it's usually small talk, and I sometimes leave the room if he comes in because I feel awkward.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by Besakt

My mum only talks to me if she wants me to do something. My dad only talks to me about school and occasionally football.

This is pretty much what my parents are like. Apart from with my dad it's the x factor instead of football (I'm a girl). :tongue:

Another reason I think I don't talk much with my parents (especially with my dad) is because he doesn't really respect others' opinions at times. This might sound petty but if I'm watching How I met your mother or 8 out of 10 cats he'll go on about how it's stupid and not funny and complain about why I'm watching it, when it's not like he has something he really wants to watch.

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TheBritishBloke

13

I'm not close with my Mum at all, mine and her personalities just don't mix, but I still live with her. My Father on the other hand (divorced), I get along with completely.

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SwingOnTheSpiral88

I know what you mean man, it sounds weird but I can't be myself around my parents. they are friendly enough people and I do love them, but they are quite conservative/old fashioned and I know if they were to listen in on conversations I have with my mates they'd be appalled. We've got nothing in common basically. I dread phonecalls from them too.

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Anonymous #1

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Original post by SwingOnTheSpiral88

I know what you mean man, it sounds weird but I can't be myself around my parents. they are friendly enough people and I do love them, but they are quite conservative/old fashioned and I know if they were to listen in on conversations I have with my mates they'd be appalled. We've got nothing in common basically. I dread phonecalls from them too.

My parents are pretty conservative and old fashioned. I don't feel I can really talk to them about anything.

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Anonymous #2

I dont fit in with my family either. I was always close to my Dad as a child before he changed and eventually abandoned us, but since then nothing. He hasn't bothered to contact me in 6 years and my mum rarely speaks to me. The fact I'm leaving for uni next week and its barely been mentioned says it all really. I've tried to improve things without success, she's a nice person but we have little in common. I don't feel able to talk to her about anything personal.

I can't tell you how bad it feels returning to my broken home after staying round someone's house and seeing what a loving family is like. After visiting my girlfriend for example i felt so awful coming home as she was so close to her parents. All you people with stable families don't know how lucky you are.

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animalnitrate

10

No, I'm the same. I'm just so glad that I've finally moved away to uni so they can stop bothering me.

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Rebecca.N67

Thought i was the only one ,not close to my mum at all we dont talk she talks to her druggie boyfriend but she dosent talk to me only shouts at me cant have ine normal conversation with out her shouting and ferl uncomfrtable to ask her for basic things as money is short and id rather stay in my room all than go out my bedroom door cause it just feels sadness and lonleyness of how unclose we are...we were close at ine point but were starngers now...and my dads a abusive ****..so im like fuk it im of to africa bitches haha

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Maryooma

9

I have the same problem with you but it's with my dad a lot. my dad has been away for about 6 months on business and I contacted him 3 times while he never contacted me. I was kind of devastated to release my father didn't even tried to even contact me. He contacts my mum throu Skype while am at school. I know this because my mum tells me. But however when he was at home, He wasn't communicating a lot with me, so I kind of feel hurt. The only time my father wants to speak with me is when am late to school and he shouts at me. My mum on the other hand is ok we do argue sometimes but most of the time we get along. I tell her how I feel about my dad and my mum doesn't know what to do anymore because I tried to talk to my dad about how I feel but he just brush me off like am nothing. Am glad my dad is now gone abroad for awhile. I just hate when he treats me and my brother and sister harshly!!

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