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I'm such a saddo!

I'm really quite unhappy at the moment romance-wise. I just broke up with my boyfriend, because I just really wasn't attracted to him. He was the first person that I've gone out with, and I did so because I was desperate to have somebody (I'm almost 19), but it really didn't work, he was too immature. Now I'm back to looking for someone else because I really need someone, emotionally and sexually too (even though I'm a virgin) but I just can't see why anyone would want to go out with me. I know I'm not unattractive- to be honest my looks are the only card I've got to play. I know I'm a decent person too, but I'm just not very interesting- not bubbly or vivacious, just 'nice'. I feel that I'll never be with someone whom I am truly attracted to.. :frown:

Now I've met somebody that I've really fallen for- but I don't know what to do next.Anyone in a similar position?

Reply 1

SilverWings

Not in a similar position but the main advice I can give to you is to really push the boat out with this new person, I mean show some serious interest and just give it your all :smile:

Reply 2

Yeah, but I don't want to look desperate! Thats what I always end up doing and I don't want t come across like that- why can't somebody chase me for a change dammit!

Reply 3

SilverWings

You won't seem desperate if you don't ask him out at every oppurtunity and drool all over him...

Play hard to get a bit, act sultry, flirt but in a way he has to work out... be sexy

Reply 4

Wineblood

I'm kind of in the same situation, not the going out with someone because I'm desperate (not that lucky), but the whole not being very interesting/bubbly/active. I just managed to live with it, it's not a big deal to me anyway.

Reply 5

CherryGarcia

I felt the same one day....it will pass...u will find a person just for urself, who will think that ur the most interesting person to be around...

Reply 6

Drunk_Kid_Catholic

Thanks for all the replies, they make me feel better. Nelionell, I'll PM you

:smile:

Reply 7

Peter North

i wouldnt worry

Reply 8

Thanks everyone for the replies- they do make me feel better! Nelionell, I'll PM you

Cheers :smile:

Reply 9

Introspecktive..

Anonymous

Yeah, but I don't want to look desperate! Thats what I always end up doing and I don't want t come across like that- why can't somebody chase me for a change dammit!

Seems like its because you're a fast runner... :p:

Reply 10

Cool Bananas

Anonymous

Yeah, but I don't want to look desperate! Thats what I always end up doing and I don't want t come across like that- why can't somebody chase me for a change dammit!

i thought i was boring i mean i dont drink, drugs, smoking, dont like parties, not a risk taker and really shy around new people but my bf loves me for who i am and iv come to love myself and just because you havnt got a bf doesnt mean ull never get one u havnt met the rite person peoples lives are different. i mean im not flirty so i went to a mates party and this guy told me i was gorgeous i then began to like him but couldnt bring myself to flirt.. i found out from a friend that he liked me too and if i hadnt have had tht friend who had his number i woudnt b with him now. you can flirt without appearing desperate. hav fun experiment!!

gd luck xxxxx