Question

Okay, I've recently come out as gay (i'm male) and have been seeing someone for a couple of weeks and they want us to start sleeping together which i really want to do but i'm a bit afraid that it might hurt because men's arse's aren't designed to be penetrated by a penis. I just wondered if anyone could tell me if it does hurt and the best ways to stop it if it does.

Reply 1

Flair

Well......as I'm not gay, i really couldn't say!

Reply 2

Glow

Flair

Well......as I'm not gay, i really couldn't say!

Then why post? Oh, post count.

Not to be doing the same thing as the user above :wink:

I should have something to say. Well, since I'm not gay and not even male I can't speak out of own experience.

I've got two friends who are gay (males), this topic rarely comes up (or, at least not in detail) but as I've understood it wasnt very pleasant the first time. Though... I think it seems as though they do.. other things mostly.

Reply 3

wazza07

Ummmmmmm well to be blunt: YES it does . At first it just feels like hell (I'm not trying to put you off or anything). But once you get going it feels very very very nice to put it in a non dirty way. Just use plenty of lube and RELAX. For a first timer I would recommend the position where your legs are in the air resting on the guys shoulder and your sort of lying on your back. Tell your guy to go very very slowly at first and its recommended to go to the toilet before hand just to avoid any messy situations

Reply 4

pumpkin7

going up the ass of anyone or anything hurts... period.

this is going to be closed soon... they appose to ass stuff on here.

Reply 5

Tw!stEd

Use Popper's first...

Reply 6

chaoringmeister

All I can say is that if you e-mail your dilema to [email protected] you will get the advice you need. They have professional doctors to give advice and your case will be dealt with in absolute anonimity if you choose to do so.

Reply 7

La Trampa

there's something called lube.squirt a little,ease ur hole with ur fingers till it stretches and then let ur bf slowly insert his member into you,and slowly slide it in and out,the lube will make it less painful and when it's not that paniful and you feel comfortable,you can go at it like bunnies :biggrin:

oo rmemeber to wear a condom tho,you can get bugs from ur asshole despite popular belief u can't.and have fun :smile:

Reply 8

Peter North

Flair

Well......as I'm not gay, i really couldn't say!

experiment with ur fingers a little, maybe then a bottle.

Later, post ur reply.

Reply 9

bret

Tw!stEd

Use Popper's first...

i saw a couple of gays sniffing something out of a little gold bottle in newquay once. is that what they were probably trying to do, open their asses.

Reply 10

Simba

I have lots of gay friends, and being gay myself, I know quite a lot about this. It hurts VERY much if you don't use lube. With LOTS of lube, you should be ok though. Make sure your boyfriend allows you to adjust before he starts going in and out, and takes it SLOWLY. After a few times it starts to hurt a lot less, and you should just be experiencing very intense pleasure. The prostate in the rectum is often referred to as the "male G-spot", and if you're having anal sex, it's pretty much impossible for this area not to be stimulated. And, if the prostate is touched by your partner, you could easily ejaculate instantly (it's happened to some of my friends before!). It's apparently a hundred times better than using your hand to help you so to speak :p:

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Reply 11

mousey

I would recommend spooning for a first timer. It's comfortable and they can't go too deep.

It doesn't have to hurt, as others have said, relax, use lots of lube, prepare first with fingers and then it should all be fine. Have fun.

And if you're really worried about you could be the giver rather than the receiver until you're more comfortable. xx

Reply 12

Poica

Do use a condom though - the anus isn't designed for it and will have a lot more bacteria in there.

Reply 13

Simba

For the fingers, lube them up well first, and then insert one finger in. Once this feels comfortable, gently insert a second finger in, and then a third. There's no real need to go further than that; three fingers should be plenty. And, after a few times, don't worry, it will feel much better :smile:

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Reply 14

Peter North

Ok i myself am not gay, but have heard of a cool new drink out. It acctually exists, although their site is currently down. Check out my sig.