I've never hated my parent though my sister hates my mum for some reson i do not know. Maybe its the same reason you hate your mum. The best thing i can think of is to find out way she treats you the way she does. I am sure there is no harm behind it. She must think you and your siblings needing different values because you have different values to them. Be brave and ask here way she says this to you and not to the rest. Or way she wants you to be more acadmic then you want to. You'll be surprised theres always a reason behind it.