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Clingy new Bf

Ok, so I got a new bf on friday, N he's really sweet n i quite like him, but since we've gone out he's not left me alone! he's texted me all the time even if i dont reply, my phone will go off 4/5 times during one lesson just 'cos he wants to check I'm ok. Yeah it's sweet but its driving me nuts, he also won't give me a little time to spend with my mates, I tried to give him a hint today saying i wanted some girly time at lunch, so 10 min into lunch he turns up to be with me... :mad:

He's in the year below me so I don't know if he's worried that I'm older and i guess more experienced but if he keeps going like this he's gonna get ditched which i will feel sooo mean about considering we haven't even been out a week yet! any help or suggestions?

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Reply 1

JadedHippy

Don't drop hints, tell him directly? Never had this problem so I am only musing though.

*Jaded

Reply 2

warranty-ideal

He just sounds very keen. Just be firm, roll up a newspaper, whack him on the nose and say "no! no!"

Reply 3

*starry_eyed_*

You have to talk to him. If you can't talk to him now, at the start of your relationship, I doubt how much longer you could go on. It does sound like he is insecure, for whatever reason. Maybe you just need to ressure him you like him, and that you don't need to be around him 24/7 to prove it!

Reply 4

Tyler Durden

If you want it to work out then you need to tell him now. Explain that you don't want him to give you more space because you don't like him but simply because you do other things and you'd rather have shorter amounts of quality time with him. I am sure he will understand!

Turn your phone off.

fragreaper

He just sounds very keen. Just be firm, roll up a newspaper, whack him on the nose and say "no! no!"

That is such a cute image :p:

*Jaded

Reply 7

evil groove

He'll get bored eventually!

Reply 8

warranty-ideal

JadedHippy

That is such a cute image :p:

*Jaded

Hehe, I've had it done to me once or twice :rolleyes:

but for being "too keen" of an entirely different type :biggrin:

Reply 9

blissy

Why do you have your phone on in lessons :eek:

Reply 10

pikaboo

Some people keep their phone on at night then complain when people wake them up by ringing. Crazy.

Reply 11

phantom

been there! just talk to him about it if he still doesnt leave you alone then do u really want the hassle?

Reply 12

warranty-ideal

pikaboo

Some people keep their phone on at night then complain when people wake them up by ringing. Crazy.

I've had friends ring me up at 3am really needing to talk.. I'd always be there for my good mates.

Reply 13

loser88

fragreaper

I've had friends ring me up at 3am really needing to talk.. I'd always be there for my good mates.

Same as- my phone is always on- night or day, lessons or not- I'm always here if my friend needs me.

Reply 14

Eien

Whatever you do DO NOT GIVE INDIRECT HINTS!!!! I used to be like this at about 15-16, and I turned every action into thinking someone liked me, or they didn't really mean what they said. Say directly how you feel e.g. "I know you're sweet, but the way you always have to keep making sure I'm ok, it's starting to annoy me, you don't have to take care of me every 10 seconds" or something like that, and he should back off. The main reason he would do this is most likely because he does not have much confidence and he is insecure about himself lasting in the relationship, so he does all he can to hold onto you, which ironically pushes you further away.

Reply 15

cinnamon_lips

that would drive me crazy, ditch him! clingy is a total turn off, i like a little hard to get but not too much a happy medium!

just a thought

Reply 16

MNBStyle

Just tell him you like to spend time with just your mates sometimes, because it makes you happy :p:

As for the texts just tell him theres no need for him tokeep checking if your ok, as you would text him if anything was wrong.

Reply 17

Profesh

fragreaper

I've had friends ring me up at 3am really needing to talk.. I'd always be there for my good mates.

Same.

Well, 4 a.m.; but the principle stands.

Reply 18

Exoskeletal

I hate clingy people, especially BFs.

dump him. and enjoy the newly reclaimed space. :biggrin:

Reply 19

MNBStyle

Exoskeletal

I hate clingy people, especially BFs.

dump him. and enjoy the newly reclaimed space. :biggrin:

That would be abit of a harsh thing to do, before shes even spoke to him about it.
This is why some girls always end up with guys who treat them like ****, because there always so quick to dump the ones who take a interest in them (even if it is over the top at first.) rather than talking about it