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What to do ??

Basically, theres this girl in my year who i've liked almost since year 7, im now in 6th form and i can't help it but i still really like her.
I've had girlfriends since then out of school, but all the time i still liked her but as i knew i couldn't do anything about it i just had to take it. (In lower school i didn't ever get to talk to her really, although we were in similar sets all the time, but tbh i was majorly too shy and quiet!!) Not to mention she found out i liked her at one point and then the rumours spread like wildfire, although she seems to have forgotten that nowadays, luckily :p:

. We get on quite well now in lessons, although still dont talk too much outside of them because we have different friends groups, and im pretty bad at making convo around lots of people i dont know that well. I really do feel more for her than other girls i went out with for aaaaaaaaages, were actually very similar but im not entirely sure she knows it. What do i do :frown:

, it really hurts feeling so strongly about her but not being able to do anything about it. I'd really need to talk to her alone if i ever told her, but if i did i don't think she'd like the idea after last time. But everyone knows im not that shy anymore so in that aspect its fine.

Reply 1

Reue

20

dont do what im sure some idiots will suggest and come out and tell her how you feel.

Instead just try and hang out with her in out of school situations, parties? 6th form events?

Reply 2

Angel Interceptor

11

Ask her to the cinema. Say that there's such and such film (perhaps Memoirs of a Geisha?) you want to see but have no one to go with, etc and ask her if she's like to come. There's no harm in asking. That way you'll get to spend time with her alone and become more confident around her, etc. Remember mate, if you never ask, then you'll never know. Hope everything works out. :smile:

Reply 3

I was thinking about asking her out at the end of term or something lol, so theres summer to forget about everything if it goes wrong :\. Or summer to see her lots if it goes as planned. But what i don't want to happen is that she stops talking to me :frown:

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Anonymous

I was thinking about asking her out at the end of term or something lol, so theres summer to forget about everything if it goes wrong :\. Or summer to see her lots if it goes as planned. But what i don't want to happen is that she stops talking to me :frown:

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Don't wait till then! Do it soon, as if you get on then you'll have innocent opportunities to speak to her all the time in school. Waiting till summer is a bad idea as asking her out to do something then seems like a quite heavy plan as opposed to just a light-hearted trip to the cinema.

Reply 6

Ah thats good, wish i could have such luck :P. Were in the same tutor group nowadays as well. When do you think would be the best time to ask though?

Reply 7

Angel Interceptor

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Anonymous

Ah thats good, wish i could have such luck :P. Were in the same tutor group nowadays as well. When do you think would be the best time to ask though?

Well, sometime fairly soon. Maybe after a lesson which she has with few other of her friends so you can catch her by herself, or ask her during a lesson as it'll seem quite informal.

Reply 8

jason01

2

Try to talk to her abit, see if shes interested...

Reply 9

LilyKM

1

You could even try and organise something with a few people and ask her to come along to make it more laid back and then ask her out again another time on her own. good luck btw

Reply 10

thanks im going to need it lol. Hmm not sure she would come though, because i'd have to know her friends more for that to happen. I know a few of them, but her best friend doesn't really like me :\. What would be a nice discrete way to ask her for her number btw, without her realising i like her still at that time? I think it might help to talk to her more in texts firsts, to get to know her more, should help the chances of her accepting some time lol (fingers crossed)

Jason talk to her about what, hows that going to tell me if shes interested lol, surely i can only find that out by asking her out?

Reply 11

Angel Interceptor

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Anonymous

thanks im going to need it lol. Hmm not sure she would come though, because i'd have to know her friends more for that to happen. I know a few of them, but her best friend doesn't really like me :\. What would be a nice discrete way to ask her for her number btw, without her realising i like her still at that time? I think it might help to talk to her more in texts firsts, to get to know her more, should help the chances of her accepting some time lol (fingers crossed)

Jason talk to her about what, hows that going to tell me if shes interested lol, surely i can only find that out by asking her out?

Ask her to the cinema, and if she accepts immediately then you'll undoubtedly get her number when you go and see a film together or if she says that she'll get back to you then give her your number so she can text you to let you know if she's free, etc.

Reply 12

Im actually scared of just asking her, as lame as it sounds but i can't help it, i can just imagine what will happen if she says no in a worst case scenario. All the questions from people (if she tells them, although im sure itl get around eventually). So would you say ask in a lesson ? (although theres other people around so its not that convenient lol) or walking to a lesson with just her, although that could be a little awkward if shes says no. Or she would just have to make excuses etc :\, but at least i'd know i guess... :frown:

. Or should i just wait until the end of term lol?

Reply 13

Angel Interceptor

11

Don't wait until the end of term for the reasons I posted earlier. Just find a convenient moment to approach her. I can't tell you exactly when and where - you need to find that out as you know your life better than I ever could. Good luck. :smile:

Reply 14

Ah sorry mis-read it earlier :smile:

, ok il try that sometime. I think if i got one of our only real 'shared' friends to 'organise' it lol, and then only invite 1 or 2 other people, one each of us knows well. Il try it over half term or something, thanks for the advice :smile:

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