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Rite i dont fink i should be moanin bout this n i reali aint im just concerned! My bf gets eroused reallly easily but he takes ages to cum, is this a bad or good thing? I kno sometimes lads cum in few seconds n it is annoyin so i shouldnt b complainin but is it an insult to me that he takes a while??

Reply 1

Naoimh

Maybe he is just tryin to enjoy himself..and take his time!

Reply 2

President_Ben

15

Indeed... a lot of men hold back...

Reply 3

sim90

13

looooooolllllll
u must get really tired!!!!
by the time he cums u would be exhausted!!!
lol
oh sorry
erm....
maybe its natural....
u cant really say if its a gud or bad thing :smile:

Reply 4

Anonymous

Rite i dont fink i should be moanin bout this n i reali aint im just concerned! My bf gets eroused reallly easily but he takes ages to cum, is this a bad or good thing? I kno sometimes lads cum in few seconds n it is annoyin so i shouldnt b complainin but is it an insult to me that he takes a while??

I was with a guy the other week and we were at it for 45 minutes and he still didn't come!He said he was enjoying himself(and I was getting seriously bored) but I took it as a huge insult as no one has ever took that long in my experience.I'd prefer the guy to arrive at the party in like,20 seconds than to take that long!

I don't know if that reassures you that someone else experienced the same thing?

Reply 5

Angel Interceptor

11

Anonymous

Rite i dont fink i should be moanin bout this n i reali aint im just concerned! My bf gets eroused reallly easily but he takes ages to cum, is this a bad or good thing? I kno sometimes lads cum in few seconds n it is annoyin so i shouldnt b complainin but is it an insult to me that he takes a while??

Don't write in text language - it makes it much harder to read!

Anyhows, you shouldn't be insulted. Maybe he's trying to pleasure you, ie. putting your needs first to ensure you enjoy sex as much as he does.

Reply 6

Anonymous

Rite i dont fink i should be moanin bout this n i reali aint im just concerned! My bf gets eroused reallly easily but he takes ages to cum, is this a bad or good thing? I kno sometimes lads cum in few seconds n it is annoyin so i shouldnt b complainin but is it an insult to me that he takes a while??

To "cum" doing what? Masturbating himself? Having sex? Being stimulated by someone else?

That all makes a huge difference. Some guys can take ages in one situation and a few minutes in another... It can depend how you feel, if you're nervous, if you're "taking your time".

Plus "in a few seconds" even "a few minutes" is premature ejaculation that happens with younger boys and if it continues when you're older, you're in trouble.

Reply 7

Lol yeh it is reasurring me a bit! i dont mind it, but it does get knackering! I was just thinking maybe it was an insult to me but if it happens to others it might be quite common?

Reply 8

blissy

15

Perhaps you need to speak to your boyfriend. If you're just "lying back and thinking of England" maybe you should talk about what exactly is going on between you sexually. Sex should be enjoyable for both partners and if there's something not quite right you should talk about it.

Reply 9

Having sex, when being given oral sex he cums quicker !

Reply 10

Introspecktive..

... Its a lose-lose situation. Why would you get bored after 45 mins?! :confused:

. Its about the same mark I get to, but I think I could bust quite quickly but hold back as I'd want the girl to get as much pleasure from penetration as possible.

Its not an insult at all... :s-smilie:

Reply 11

Reue

20

Im able to have sex and not cum at all :P

I've heard people who never have sex cum very quickly, whilst those who do it quite often can control when they want to cum.

Reply 12

Anonymous

Having sex, when being given oral sex he cums quicker !

He's probably not used to it, not comfortable yet, if he's used to being stimulated otherwise. That's all. Just ask him what he wants to do, what he would find more exciting and that's it, problem solved. Give it time.

Plus to be honest, the idea that a guy will come in a few seconds if a girl is totally hot and won't be able to come if the girl is ugly is a ridiculous myth you see in movies. If a guy is a premature ejaculator, he'll come in a few seconds whether he's ****ing a hot girl or a goat. So if you don't want to compare yourself to an animal, don't bother looking at things that way...

Reply 13

Ohh so if you didnt cum at all it wouldnt be an insult to the girl?

Reply 14

Reue

20

nope, not at all. Just sometimes ya want it to last alot longer, or for some guys you gotta go real quick, and maybe he didnt wanna go at it full steam with ya? Would seem more caring tbh

Reply 15

Anonymous

Ohh so if you didnt cum at all it wouldnt be an insult to the girl?

Reasons why I guy won't come (by importance):
- He's nervous
- He's tired (a guy can come in 2 mins, then take an hour by the 3rd time if he hasn't had much "rest")
- He has trouble being stimulated "that way"
- He has ejaculation problems
- He finds the girl repulsive

You can only change things on the way he's stimulated, which is probably the issue at hand. He just needs to get used to it, that's all.

Reply 16

Ohh ok Sounds a bit more understanding now :smile:

He has cum before but it just takes a while so i was in doubt whether he was enjoying it, i did ask him and he said yes but i doubt it he would have said no!!

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