Being a stripper...

I work as a stripper part time along side studying at university. I enjoy my work and the money is good but I'm worried about it now in case it poses problems in furture relationships. My last boyfriend was fine with it although he didn't want anyone else to know about it. I'm single now and on the lookout. Guys would it put you off if your girlfriend was a lapdancer and would you get jelous about it? I'm not sure whether to be open about it when I meet guys or to keep it secretive. Would it put you off a girl? Or what?

Reply 1

Ziggy Stardust

Yes. I could never go out with somebody in that line of work. Never!

Would be too jealous and would really resent the fact that my girlfriend would be dancing/stripping off for other guys.

Reply 2

Cirsium

19

To be honest I think most guys would have a jealousy problem with it. Maybe not the stripping but definitely the lapdancing

Reply 3

King For A Day

1

I think i would have a problem with it. I mean come on guys will getting off over ur girl while u sit at home making urself paranoid and trashing the spot at the same time. Yep i would definately have a problem with it.

Reply 4

username30638

13

Anonymous

Would it put you off a girl? Or what?

Absolutely. I know it sounds very shallow, but the sole purpose of that job is to sexually excite other men... any normal guy with a conscience would find this pretty difficult to live with IMO.

Reply 5

omg strippers sooo turn me on

Reply 6

omg strippers sooo turn me on

Reply 7

Slates

No way would I tolerate that.

Reply 8

Masta Killa

theres a girl at leeds met who does the same :smile:

Reply 9

ZigZag

11

Although I could rationalise that it was a job, it would bother me.

Reply 10

Everdawn

13

Anonymous

I work as a stripper part time along side studying at university. I enjoy my work and the money is good but I'm worried about it now in case it poses problems in furture relationships. My last boyfriend was fine with it although he didn't want anyone else to know about it. I'm single now and on the lookout. Guys would it put you off if your girlfriend was a lapdancer and would you get jelous about it? I'm not sure whether to be open about it when I meet guys or to keep it secretive. Would it put you off a girl? Or what?

my current boss was a stripper at her last job, her boyfriend during this time was a mai-tai fighter. The guys seem to have a certain type-cast. I dont htink it would put them off.

Hats off to you girls, I wouldnt want some 70 year old trench coat clad geezer getting his jollies from me dancing for him. But its hella good money, You go sista!

Reply 11

guys with no problems with it are those who are only using u anyway. If they want a serious relationship, they would dump u.

Reply 12

username30638

13

Anonymous

guys with no problems with it are those who are only using u anyway. If they want a serious relationship, they would dump u.

Any reason why that needed to be anonymous? :confused:

Reply 13

Leigh

15

Depends what sort of guy and relationship you're after. If it was a mostly physical, sexual relationship I don't think the guy would mind; he'd probably like the fact that he could tell his friends about it.

In a more intimate, emotional relationship, I think there would be jealousy issues and not wanting to share you etc.

Depends what you're looking for I guess, but I was stereotyping so there's obviously exceptions; if you talk it through with the guy there's no reason why you can't have a perfectly normal relationship.

Reply 14

mattyboi2k8

1

can you upload some pictures :wink:

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Reply 15

Drogue

19

Anonymous

I work as a stripper part time along side studying at university. I enjoy my work and the money is good but I'm worried about it now in case it poses problems in furture relationships. My last boyfriend was fine with it although he didn't want anyone else to know about it. I'm single now and on the lookout. Guys would it put you off if your girlfriend was a lapdancer and would you get jelous about it? I'm not sure whether to be open about it when I meet guys or to keep it secretive. Would it put you off a girl? Or what?

I wouldn't put me off in the slightest. I quite like the idea that a girl I'm dating is getting attention from other guys yet choosing to be with me. However I would advise against broadcasting it too much for many reasons - some friends may be a little prudish, the university may not like the idea and there's always a danger of parents finding out. Personally I'd find it quite a turn-on, and an ego boost, that someone who has that effect on men chose to be with me in a more intimate way.

Many guys will be put off, as they'd see the naked body of their girlfriend as something for their eyes only, at least in a sexual way. However I've never had a problem with people looking at a girlfriend, and I know the rules in strip clubs are very strict on anything else.

I have to add it's not the fact that it's "just a job" that makes it ok for me - prostitution would *not* be ok. It's the fact that I'd know you're safe, and that I don't see someone looking at you to be a problem, unless you're actively coming onto them. While stripping is coming onto them in some ways, anyone in their right mind knows a stripper is doing it for the money, not to sleep with men.

Reply 16

scutt

1

Drogue said pretty much everything i would have.

At the end of the night, you're still going back to your boyfriend. You've not cheated (imo, anyway), you've just turned a bunch of guys on. Trust is the key issue. Same as if you went to a party without your boyfriend, he *knows* there will be guys who want to get with you, but he trusts you to not do anything.

Reply 17

wednesburywench

2

if my guy was a stripper i think i would be ok with it, but i would get jelous but i know that like, he wud only be doing it for the money, tricky tho cus id probly beat myself up over worrying so i duno! im jelous of the money, but i cudnt do it because of my future career as a doctor, dont think it would go down well....but if i was single and didnt have the career as a doctor ahead of me id do it to fund uni. Its certainly not a boring job is it

Reply 18

would it be different if your gf was a 'chat operator'? is that not as bad as stripping from a relationship point of view?

Reply 19

Hats off to you girls, I wouldnt want some 70 year old trench coat clad geezer getting his jollies from me dancing for him. But its hella good money, You go sista!

Hehe, it's usually not that bad. Luckily we can pick and chose who we want to dance for too. Most the guys that come in are young guys just having a bit of a laugh. Thanks for the encouraging words. I love it when girls are open minded about the job because it's really not as bad as people think it it!

In a more intimate, emotional relationship, I think there would be jealousy issues and not wanting to share you etc.

The thing is it's not really me who they are sharing. At work I have to portray men's fantasy. It's not actually me they fancy, it's just an illusion. In the day I don't get dressed up or put make-up or anything like that. In the club I go full out. But it's not really 'me', whereas when I'm with my boyfriend that's when I'm me.

I only do topless and its no contact. Plus I can make £400 a night. So I wouldn't be ready to give it up for a guy I liked. The club is safe and upmarket, I'm not ever putting myself in danger or anything. But yeah...looks like I might be single for a while then! LoL

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