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What to say when someone's been dumped?

A friend of mine (not very close at all - he does the same subject as my bf, who isn't really that close to him either. They chat about their course and stuff but nothing that deep)
Anyway, he's just been dumped by his gf of 18 months. She says she doesn't see enough of him or st... But he's coming round to eat with us tonight, and so he and my bf can discuss coursework etc.
So... what do i say? Do i not mention it? Do I say, sorry to hear about you and x? erk...

Reply 1

Né Stig

15

Mention it. That will be quite nice. Its not about you, but more about him. So do the decent thing and make sure he's cool.

Reply 2

username30638

13

scarlet ibis

A friend of mine (not very close at all - he does the same subject as my bf, who isn't really that close to him either. They chat about their course and stuff but nothing that deep)
Anyway, he's just been dumped by his gf of 18 months. She says she doesn't see enough of him or st... But he's coming round to eat with us tonight, and so he and my bf can discuss coursework etc.
So... what do i say? Do i not mention it? Do I say, sorry to hear about you and x? erk...

Don't say anything unless he brings it up or looks as if he's gonna burst into tears at any second.

Reply 3

Scott Storch

1

Random, you going out for a meal with your boyfriend and someone you don't know well.

Id worry about making conversation full stop, rather than whether to discuss sexual issues or not.

Reply 4

Helenia

20

Take it from him. Don't act as if nothing's happened, but if he doesn't mention anything, I wouldn't bring it up. Guys are generally not good with emotions and he may not want to get all upset with someone he doesn't really know. On the other hand, if he is looking really down, then be supportive.

And obviously be tactful with your bf and don't be really lovey dovey with him while the other guy is there :smile:

Reply 5

Everdawn

13

scarlet ibis

A friend of mine (not very close at all - he does the same subject as my bf, who isn't really that close to him either. They chat about their course and stuff but nothing that deep)
Anyway, he's just been dumped by his gf of 18 months. She says she doesn't see enough of him or st... But he's coming round to eat with us tonight, and so he and my bf can discuss coursework etc.
So... what do i say? Do i not mention it? Do I say, sorry to hear about you and x? erk...

ooh this is a good thread for me as well! Im not very good at being sympathetic and Im afraid i come off rather carefree and sharp when these things happen. :biggrin:

Reply 6

The Albatross

OP

12

Helenia

Take it from him. Don't act as if nothing's happened, but if he doesn't mention anything, I wouldn't bring it up. Guys are generally not good with emotions and he may not want to get all upset with someone he doesn't really know. On the other hand, if he is looking really down, then be supportive.

And obviously be tactful with your bf and don't be really lovey dovey with him while the other guy is there :smile:

thanks.

and to whover it was who said it was random, i do know the guy quite well, we've just never discussed relationships etc.

Reply 7

blissy

15

He's probably worrying about making you uncomfortable this evening!
If you're willing to have all the tears and stories, ask. If not, avoid at all costs.

Reply 8

TKR

15

gutted

What to say when someone's been dumped?

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