Join in on our 'Guess the Rep' Competition! >>

This discussion is now closed.

Check out other Related discussions

Put downs all the time....!

I'm an a level student studying english lang, psychology and english lit, but my psychology tutor is more or less bullying me.

She asks me questions in class that no ones but decides to ask me to embarrass me! She makes personal remarks about my home life too.
She also keeps referring me to assistant principles for the silliest things...the other day I got one for bein upset...becaues of her lesson surprise surprise.
She makes me go to 1to1 support sessions with her every week, but whilst I'm there she continously calls me, telling me I won't pass the exams because I don't have the brains to do it. Sh said I will never ge into university and said college must have felt sorry for me thats why they accepted me!

It's starting to really get to me, I don't know what to do...If I tell another tutor they not going to believe me, because tutors stick up for one another!

Any advice would be grateful...I'm getting really down and all my college work is really suffering because of it.
Thankyou.

Reply 1

rahmed

woah tough tutor!

hide a tape recorder under your jacket, then when someone says they dont believe u... :wink:

Reply 2

Eien

Is there anyone else you can talk to? This sounds quite demeaning, and you should tell anyone you know will support your point of view - are there any teachers you know in other departments? What about your parents? Don't let this tutor ruin your aspirations! I saw this very talented woman feel she couldn't do anything worthwhile because of one person who constantly belittled her, make sure it doesn't happen to you. :wink:

Reply 3

anjimcflanji

Make sure you document this. I had a similar tho thankfully not quite so bad experience. It's against apart from morals OfSTED regualations to humiliate or embarrass pupils in their care. SO I would suggest you get a tape recorder and record these one on one sessions, if you don't have one call a friend (that you've told beforehand!) and leave it as a message on their answering machine. Make transcripts of these too just in case. Get anyone who's heard these comments to write them down and sign and date them. Then take these to the head. Don't bother with tutors and that cra p just deal with it asap. It is also advisable to tell you LEA and or OfSTED as this woman deserves to have a complaint on her file. Once you've made these complaints see what happens but the important thing is your work. Try as hard as you can, because you are better than her, intelligence doesn't matter as she may well be a genius but she's a bi t ch. I'd send copies of any letters you send/receive from the school to the exam board so they know what is going on.

Phew that was a bit long winded but I know how you feel, so hang in there and just do your best!! Need to chat pm me , hope this all works out i know it sounds a bit official but it's the only way i faffed around with all the see your tutor course director head of 6th form and they were all useless if only i could name that school here but i'd get done for slander even tho everyone know's what a loser that teacher is!!
good luck!!

Reply 4

Harv616

Talk to your education and welfare officer at your college/6th form

Reply 5

Love_Hearts

awhh god that sounds awful! teachers are supposed to be supportive not making you feel useless. theres one way to shut the bitch up and thats to go and prove her wrong in your exams! thats what i did when my head of year said i would struggle to achieve 5 good alevel grade......silly cows eating her words now!try if you can to shrug her comments off, and invest in a punch bag and vent your frustrations out on that. if that fails you could report her to someone higher up or your local coucil. if you write a formal letter they have no option but to investigate.

Reply 6

MNBStyle

You could either

1: Talk to your education/welfare officer like someone said
2: Talk to a councillor about it

Somebody did say try recording when shes nasty to you, and actually that might not be such a bad idea. It gives you good evidence then if people dont beleive you.
Also im sure you got friends there who could back you up to.
For a psychology teacher she dont seem very smart in the head :p:

Because a college would never accept someone because they felt sorry for them,
Also keep ya chin up and you try your best and go and pass them psychology exams, imagine what your tutors reaction would be like then :p:

Feel free to PM me anytime if you need to talk about it.

Reply 7

Angel Interceptor

The thing is though that I've had really tough, almost mean tutors that said I didn't have an aptitude for something, etc, etc, but I just worked harder to prove them wrong. One of my English tutors said I would never do well in the subject, etc and put me down, but I did extraordinarily well in her exams to prove the point and have enjoyed English ever since. I went back to visit my old school a year or two back and bumped into the same teacher and asked her why she was always harsh to me - she said that she always knew that I had the potential to do very well, but that I was never motivated to do it (which was a fair point) and hence she put me down a bit to piss me off and make me try harder to prove myself and apply myself when I need to. Looking back on it, I can see why she did it, and am undoubtedly grateful as she made me realise what I was capable of.

I know it seems a little harsh to say this, but maybe your teacher really is doing it for your own good, so you apply yourself and do better.

However, maybe he/she is just a meanie. I just wanted to give you my experience as there's sometimes good reasons why teachers are apparently 'mean' to pupils. Anyhows, I hope you manage to get it sorted/deal with it, and just remember, chin up mate. :smile:

Reply 8

LeeC

Yeh my french teacher is a bit like that, as she knows I could try a lot harder and do so much better. I got a A at GCSE and a B at A/S level with less than average work rates, but I don't bother because I need Maths and Physics for uni and I find them harder. She occasionally makes comments such as "oh you did manage to do your homework this week" (I usually do it) and "you're the only boy in the class so you can translate this for everyone" etc. However you're teacher is putting the pressure on too much and you should take action against her and get this stopped ASAP.

Reply 9

Mangaroo

make them feel the same way you felt, otherwise they will do it to others.
1)devise a really clever scheme to humiliate them without it tracing back to you, but make sure they know it was you.
2)speak to the head.

Reply 10

samyantha_88

thanks everybody! Think I'm going get my exam ou tof the way then see if it continues...if it does....well she is having it! lol

I'll definitely keep my chin up!
Sam

Reply 11

venom07

give the bitch tutor a good hiding

Reply 12

twiga

Hey, I've been in this situation with my form tutor and I totally understand how you feel. What I did was to go my head of year and ask for advice on what to do if you feel you're being treated badly by a teacher. Take a list of evidence with you, with specific incidents on, when they happened, and how they made you feel. Hopefully your year-head will look at the evidence and take matters into their own hands, and it'll stop. Good luck :smile:

Reply 13

Emma

She is completely out of line. Get help, but be careful how you go about it, make sure that the situation works to your advantage, there must be a teahcer, or someone in the school you can trust. And don't let it get you down, this is her problem, certainly not yours.
Hope you feel better
xx

Reply 14

Poica

Talk to another teacher - they're really not all on one side. In general, if most students think she's a bitch, the chances are that she actually is a bitch and other teachers hate her too...

Reply 15

Mark_UK

That sounds really bad. I kinda know how you feel its really imbarrasing to be put on the spot which some teachers do and others dont but if you feel this is directed at you and never at anyone else then it is totaly wrong & the only thing you can do is talk to someone etc like suggested above.

Main thing dont let it put you off attending lessons and doing well for yourself. Just think one day you will be above all these pricks.

Reply 16

Sabre

What is it with psychology teachers? I had this young lady psychology teacher bully me too. Although I could see the funny side of it, being that a) She thought she was funny and b) most of the time she just looked like an idiot with her silly remarks.

Although saying that it is still wrong, my teacher seemed to be the posh superior bitch type.

I never did anything about it because I figured that it was only 2 years. If you do decide to make a formal complaint go straight to the head teacher. If theres anything I have learnt from being at school it was that teachers tend to stick up for eachother so you will get nowhere unless you talk to the head.

My teacher never sent me to 1on1 support sessions, although she did do all that other stuff like tell me I'm going to fail and make personal insults.

If you do decide to make a formal complaint (which I recommend you doing) please keep us updated.

Reply 17

bob_54321

perhaps she's playing some weird psychological tricks on you to make you feel better. or doing an experiment about how you react. or you could follow other people's advice and tell someone about it, maybe that would be best. and yeah, doing well will prove her wrong!

Reply 18

MNBStyle

bob_54321

perhaps she's playing some weird psychological tricks on you to make you feel better. or doing an experiment about how you react.

What kind of experiment could that possibly be?? A experiment into how much 1 person can take from verbal bullying.
If she treats her pupils this bad, then she clearly knows nothing about psychology.