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    Most of my friends have gone of to Uni now leaving me and around 2 other people in my town. I don't really do things with those 2 people so there's not really anyone around. Also, I'm 18 but have never had a girlfriend and it's starting to get to me. I seem to be rebuffed at every opportunity.

    With my friends at Uni they're likely to get with someone and I feel like I'll be the one left out and all alone. I'm also worried about being replaced as a friend whilst I don't see them and that they'll forget me whilst I'm gone. This, along with the lack of a girlfriend for so long has gotten me down.

    Any help?
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    Try and visit your friends when possible, and they will visit home as well, you can still remain friends.

    However, as well in your hometown, maybe you should try meeting new people, see what clubs exist, etc?
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    online dating ?
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    Got to be a pretty damn small town if there's only two other people left once your mates have gone!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Most of my friends have gone of to Uni now leaving me and around 2 other people in my town. I don't really do things with those 2 people so there's not really anyone around. Also, I'm 18 but have never had a girlfriend and it's starting to get to me. I seem to be rebuffed at every opportunity.

    With my friends at Uni they're likely to get with someone and I feel like I'll be the one left out and all alone. I'm also worried about being replaced as a friend whilst I don't see them and that they'll forget me whilst I'm gone. This, along with the lack of a girlfriend for so long has gotten me down.

    Any help?

    Can I ask where you live?
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    I live in Essex. It's not really a small town per se. Just that I don't really know anyone else. I'm doing a course on Saturday's at college, maybe I'll meet people there.
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    Hi,

    I know this thread was lasted posted on six days ago now but when I saw where your from, I thought I'd offer some advice

    I'm from Essex too and know exactly how you feel. I'm 19 and most of my friends are in their second year of uni now and I'm in my A2 year of A-Levels hoping to go to uni in September and I feel so lonely at times due to only having a few friends of my own age at college and most of those who I know from school who aren't at uni are working full time now. It is a difficult situation but making friends through college really does help. I'm sure there are tons of people there who will be in a similar situation to you and they will know people too so by socialising with them, you should be able to extend your circle of friends. I'm always around if you want to PM me and chat - hope this helped!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Most of my friends have gone of to Uni now leaving me and around 2 other people in my town. I don't really do things with those 2 people so there's not really anyone around. Also, I'm 18 but have never had a girlfriend and it's starting to get to me. I seem to be rebuffed at every opportunity.

    With my friends at Uni they're likely to get with someone and I feel like I'll be the one left out and all alone. I'm also worried about being replaced as a friend whilst I don't see them and that they'll forget me whilst I'm gone. This, along with the lack of a girlfriend for so long has gotten me down.

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    Dont worry I know exactly how you feel i'm 19 and i've never been kissed let alone being in a relationship I do worry about it alot to but I guess these things happen when there meant to happen you know :rolleyes:
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    Whenever you go through a lifestyle change, your are going to feel stressed and feeling 'down' is a natural way of coping with this. That doesnt change how you crappy you must feel but i'd like to think that aleast it gives you a bit of perspective that you are not alone in your emotions. The issues with your friends is a tough one, i was in the exactly the same situation this time last year and tbh i just occasionally talked to them on skype or fb and went out loads when they came back. I planned to visit them but i cant remember why i didnt go in the end. But i hope that gives you a few avenues you can explore. As for another person moving on to your friendship 'turf' (for no better way to explain it ), let them- i find its alot less stressful to accept things you cant control, if the friendship is worth its salt, your mates will find time for you and their uni friends.
    I would advise getting yourself out there a bit more, joining a sports club or alike, volunteering, getting a part-time job(if you can)- love yourself before anyone else will love you, hope that doesnt sound very harsh! It isnt meant like that. My dad told me a few years back that love strikes when you least expect it, leaves nothing untouched and he was completely right- it hits when everything seems to be going perfectly. Just have hope and carrying on being the person you are and a lovely lass (or lad if your that way inclined) will come along.
    Hope this helps, good luck. Hope that didnt sound too cheesy.... i dont like cheese.
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    Seeing so many singles on TSR should give us some idea of how many single people there are(including me) in real life...
 
 
 
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