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    I'm 20 and I've been single for a couple of weeks now, I've just moved to a new town on placement and have been really enjoying it, made a new friendship group etc.

    I slept with a guy off my course in 'freshers week' , but him and his female flatmate are now proper good friends with my house. I thought he was totally not my type, but after being paired up together for a task I've found I really quite like him. Last night we went on a night out and I had plans to make a move, but I got quite drunk and he said something which lead me to believe that he didn't like me. I figured hey I'm single now, don't get hung up, so I pulled another guy instead. This other guy was very much my 'type', professional, slightly older, a 'nice' guy and ginger :P but this morning I just felt a bit weird and when I saw guy number one in a lecture later I felt some regret, and thought even though he isn't what I'd normally go for, I like him.

    Then my housemate showed guy number one a message I'd sent when drunk saying I wanted him but thought he was repulsed by me. Oh dear.

    I have no idea if my stupid antics last night will have changed his feelings toward me, not that I knew if he liked me anyway. He sits close to me and teases me and when we're on nights out sometimes he holds my hand.

    I could text ginger, and see if that could be a goer, though I was very drunk and keep getting cringey flashbacks. I could go after my coursemate. Or shall I just let it all lie and have some fun?

    I don't have great self esteem and I'm not very confident unless I've had a drink though.

    (Incidentally I know I'm going to have some '****' comments. I've not been single since my GCSE's and my coursemate was my first ever one night stand, so bog off judging me)

    It just seems that you're a bit blinded by the lights and the choice at the moment I know (I KNOW) it's hard to do, but I'd just let it lie for a few days, even though that might seem like the longest time in the world. That way you'll seem like a really laid-back person and won't seem clingy, worrying or attention seeking; and most importantly, you'll be on the right side of the fine line between '****' and 'player'.

    How to do it? I always try and think of the 'bigger picture'. try and get perspective. Just think that in the year there are 365 days; that's a HELL of a lot, and when you look back on this, you want to make sure that a few impulsive actions didn't get you a reputation that lasted for a few years.

    mistakes happen. be honest and open with guy number one. basically thats all you can do. Dont play guys it never works out.
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