Vibrators in relationships

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I know there's more than just pleasure but pleasure is a part of it.

I'll just buy a fleshlight and give that up.

I'm not sure that's the smartest move. If you're serious with her, you should avoid resentment on either side (especially being in a LDR - I know, my girlfriend and I started out that way). It would be better if the two of you talked it over again and could meet half way.

Reply 21

-strawberry-

Original post by viriol

I get your argument, but your phrasing is flawed: she could sleep with somebody she didn't love and it would still be cheating.

No, because I said that the vibrator is a machine. God.

Original post by Anonymous

And i am not in love with this girl i just picked up, so everythings ok yes?

Are you being deliberately thick? You obviously have problems with your girlfriend using a vibrator so tell her and not us. Why make the thread if you aren't going to back down the way you feel? It's completely pointless.

Reply 22

gingerben

u gotta be joking? is it any different than u choking ur chicken? if u feel like its cheating invest in a flesh light

Reply 23

Tali_91

What exactly is your problem here? You feel she is cheating on you by using something other than her own hands to masturbate? But why?

She isn't with another person, so it isnt cheating? Or do you just feel hurt as you can't 'vibrate' for her during sexytimes?

I'm genuinely intrigued here.

Reply 24

viriol

Original post by -strawberry-

No, because I said that the vibrator is a machine. God.

The vibrator being a machine is a fact, not an argument per se. When you're arguing with someone whose moral differs from yours you should keep in mind that such facts might mean nothing to the person you're aguing with. If you're a Christian arguing with a hindu and say "it's true because Christ said so" you might as well be quiet.

Reply 25

-strawberry-

Original post by viriol

Which kind of backs up my point that what the hell is the point in this thread? No one agrees with the OP, but he won't stop going on about how he's right. I don't get it.

Reply 26

Anonymous #1

Original post by viriol

So in your opinion, is halfway her using a vibrator and me using my hand? or her using her hand and me using nothing? Because both of those i seem to be drawing the short straw.

Reply 27

Anonymous #1

Original post by gingerben

u gotta be joking? is it any different than u choking ur chicken? if u feel like its cheating invest in a flesh light

Maybe i dont want to feel like i'm cheating on her?

Reply 28

Anonymous #1

Original post by -strawberry-

Which kind of backs up my point that what the hell is the point in this thread? No one agrees with the OP, but he won't stop going on about how he's right. I don't get it.

Because that's how i feel and i'm annoyed that my gf can't even respect that this is how i feel and give up something that quite frankly isn't even nessessary. I guess i'm just complaining on here to take out some of the fustration that i have because she won't listen to me.

Reply 29

-strawberry-

Original post by Anonymous

Well fair enough, but I'd be annoyed too.

Reply 30

Anonymous #1

Original post by -strawberry-

Well fair enough, but I'd be annoyed too.

I never asked her to stop using it, you just assumed that. All i did was told her i felt iffy about they and she flipped out :frown:

im sorry i was being a dick but im just abit annoyed at the moment :frown:

Reply 31

-strawberry-

Original post by Anonymous

I never asked her to stop using it, you just assumed that. All i did was told her i felt iffy about they and she flipped out :frown:

im sorry i was being a dick but im just abit annoyed at the moment :frown:

That's fine, I can kind of understand.

Reply 32

Anonymous #1

Original post by -strawberry-

That's fine, I can kind of understand.

The thing is though i'm fine when i'm using them on/with her, it's just when we're apart and im sexually fustrated that it feels like she's cheating so its probably down to the fact that im fustrated, unfortunatly knowing this doesn't change how I feel :frown:

Reply 33

Mujeriego

OP, do you watch porn? If you do, you have no leg to stand on tbh. Have you talked to her about it properly?

Reply 34

Anonymous #1

Original post by Mujeriego

OP, do you watch porn? If you do, you have no leg to stand on tbh. Have you talked to her about it properly?

Yes i do but the difference is that im not having sex with the pornstars, plus she watches porn too.

I've tried but everytime i try to talk properly she just flips out at me about it :frown:

Reply 35

Hot Sauce

I can't believe how jealous you are of a piece of plastic. How can she cheat on you with an inanimate object? Grow up.

love mine <3

ask her if you can like use it with her? like you do it for her

Reply 38

Mujeriego

Original post by Anonymous

Yes i do but the difference is that im not having sex with the pornstars, plus she watches porn too.

I've tried but everytime i try to talk properly she just flips out at me about it :frown:

Your logic is absurd. Porn is a sexual aid. A vibrator is a sexual aid. Big difference.

Something else is bothering you imo. The funny thing is that if you were honest about it from the start with your girlfriend, she would have in all likelihood relented and tried to make it up to you somehow. But nope. You put her on the defensive by accusing her of cheating whilst being guilty of using side outlets yourself. Shot yourself in the foot here really because now she isn't going to back down out of pride. Anyway, why doesn't her use of pornography put you on edge too? Surely that's worse for you?