No way?

I got a major dilema on hand.

There's this girl that I like a lot, but the problem is that she is the most attractive girl in her school (I go to an all boys school right next to her school) and I think that there is no chance in hell that it is possible for anything to happen, I'm not sure if she has a boyfriend or if she is inclined in the other way, and the likelyhood of her being avaliable if slim to none, and if she were avaliable that there would not be a hope in hell of me having any sort of relationship. Secondly it is difficult for me to put my feelings to her, as I have known her for 13 years, and over the last few years have had very little contact with her at all as we were in different schools, and don't want to break the friendship. However I'm running out of time as she and I are both in our last years of school, and if I don't act quickly I will never see her again and well I can't imagine that.

I can see only three options:

1) Do the unimaginable, just let it go (but my feelings for her are difficult to let that happen easily
2) Just go for it, and see, not considering consequences
3) Take it slowly, try to rekindle the friendship and work at it slowly, but I have limited time.

Finally another point to consider is that I have a leavers ball (prom) coming up and I currently have no partner, am single, and I am clueless who I'm going to take, and would rather sulk at home than go alone, and I don't want to go with the wrong person only to dissappoint them at the ball when I change my mind.

Sorry it has been so long winded, but its quite a complex situation and I feel that I have no hope. Any advice would be appreciated

Chao Cui

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Reply 1

LittleMinx

Is it just me or is the answer obvious?! Ask her to the prom! Don't make it sound like a date though. Just drop her a text (or whatever) and say how it's a shame you don't get to hang out together as much as you used to and would she fancy going along to the prom with you so that you can catch up. Then if anything happens, it happens. Good luck xx

Reply 2

SunburnedCactus

If you don't ask you'll never know. And could you live with that?

Reply 3

Segat1

Ask her to the prom! If she says no, so what - you'll prolly never see each other after school UNLESS YOU MAKE THE EFFORT - she is not a mind reader - get yo ass over there quicksmart and ask her out. Pref with flowers.

Reply 4

Jayjayjay

Do not pass over any opportunities. "What if?" is terrible to live with.

Reply 5

Mata

Seriously, grab your balls (metaphorically) and just go. Treat it like plunging into a freezing lake, just do it.

If you never see her again then you'll always wonder what could have been. If she rejects you then you are in the same position you are in now. What prevents you from doing it is the fear that you will lose the only thing you have with her - hope. But hope doesn't win you the girl.

Reply 6

sophieliz

segat1

yes, but please don't embarrass her.

Reply 7

chaoringmeister

Ok, thanks for all your advice, I think I will go for it soon, it might not be till thursday till I'm able to find some time, I got a C3 maths exam on monday so I won't be in till quite late, do you reckon its worth going in a bit earlier to try to catch her, but risking some revision time? Its probably a couple of hours.

Reply 8

Jayjayjay

You should wait until after the exam. Then you will not go into it worrying about her reply or what was said. =0)

Reply 9

so_this_is_sam

nothing to lose, something to gain. tell her. so what if its embarrassing...thats all it is :P and she'll be flattered even if she does have a bf.

Reply 10

Choad

going by the 48 hour rule i would say you've blown it. but hey, you'll get over it.

What is that?

First I think you should approach her for something like a date, but make it casual and don't approach her with everything first off - she'll probably be scared off (or maybe that's just what I do to people!) but like most other people I say you should go for it since it's not like there is something of great value that you risk losing.

Reply 13

chaoringmeister

Choad

going by the 48 hour rule i would say you've blown it. but hey, you'll get over it.

Can i ask wtf is the 48 hour rule?

Reply 14

xx-jess-xx

omg! you live in bucks, do you go to school in aylesbury? i have some mates that go 2 school right next to a boys school in aylesbury..

yeah choad what is the 48-hour rule?

xx-jess-xx

Reply 15

confuddled101

Definitely ask her, but make it sound more as a friend thing, and then take the opportunity at the prom to make your move

Reply 16

Madprof

xx-jess-xx

omg! you live in bucks, do you go to school in aylesbury? i have some mates that go 2 school right next to a boys school in aylesbury..

yeah choad what is the 48-hour rule?

xx-jess-xx

Oh, I might know your friends! I go to AHS - which year are your mates in?

Reply 17

phantom

just go for it, its better knowing how she feels than regretting it and wondering what she would have said. also dont automatically assume she wont want you because she is the best looking, girls arent always that shallow you know!
you may have to elaborate on the not much time as if you do get together then surely there wont be much time?

Reply 18

parsleythelion

The 48-hour rule:
to more effectively seize a new opportunity you should follow up or perform an action within 48 hours after interest has been established.

It's a business-y thing :smile: