is he leading me on?

ok, theres a guy at my college who i really like, and i think he likes me back, but only when we are on our own. At college he hardly talks to me, but when i am out with him and my mates he is really nice, and he flirts with me a lot. I just dont know if he is leading me on, and doesnt really like me, or if he is embarassed to be nice to me in front of his friends? he also seems to think that he isnt good enough for me - he is always telling me that i am too clever / sophisticated for him.

any ideas what i should do? cos i dont want to ruin our friendship, but i am wondering if it could be even better?

Reply 1

Tw!stEd

Maybe he does actually think ya are too good for him, and get's embarrassed in front of his mates...
Maybe go clubbin with him or something, and ask him to dance ect, or do something that allows yo to flirt alot.
Or get someone to know, to subtley talk to him about it.

Reply 2

Bottekrank

Yeh the same thing has happened to me. This guy in a couple of my classes ignored me at college then when we went abroad for a week on a school trip he was really into me and we started "going out". But when we got back to England he completely ignored me again and started seeing another girl! I'm not saying the same will happen to you - this guy could be completely different - but just be careful. Get to know him a bit better and see what happens... if he keeps ignoring you at college, maybe you should corner him and ask him why he's acting like this.

Reply 3

Now the situation has changed - he spent the whole of last week at college talking to me whenever i saw him, and being the person he is when its just me and him. Then i went out with him and some other friends during the week and he paid me loads of attentionwhile my friends were there, but then when we were on our own he acted totally different. Usually when we are alone he compliments me and flirts with me loads, but this week he didnt seem to be in that mood.

A few of the friends who were there tell me that he seemed to be acting differently and now im worried that ive scared him off by showing i like him? I think maybe he has realised that i like him too and he doesnt want to lead me on anymore because he didnt realise that is what he is doing. (if that makes sense?)
what does anyone else think? thanks in advance

P.S. sorry-didnt mean to click the anonymous user bit

Reply 4

mrs fnerg

Maybe he is just playing hard to get? and trying to work out if you like him?

Reply 5

Sithius

He just wants one thing.

Reply 6

tutu25

what is that supposed to mean?
i saw him the day after and he was back to his usual self-i really dont get him! i thought girls were meant to be complicated?!