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My father. Fifty years old, funny, kind, considerate... and desperately single. He's been a widower now for 13 years, with on and off girlfriends.

He hasn't had a relationship in a long time, and I know that he gets lonely. He's really busy with work at the moment (he works at home and doesn't meet many people). I'm really afraid of him being alone for the rest of his life. So I thought, in a moment of inspiration, why don't I post him a bio up on an Internet dating agency thing?

But I'm not sure. He's very proud (hence the reason I can't get him to go out and socialise in pubs etc), and I don't want to insult him. But I do want him to find someone that he can talk to and relax with, besides his three bratty children (myself, my brother, and my sister).

I'd be grateful if anyone had any ideas or suggestions on this, I'm really stumped. Should I just let nature's take its course, or try to play cupid (without the nappy, of course)?
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Watch that film the Olsen twins once did, should be pretty helpful in your quest.
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(Original post by The Nerdy One)
My father. Fifty years old, funny, kind, considerate... and desperately single. He's been a widower now for 13 years, with on and off girlfriends.

He hasn't had a relationship in a long time, and I know that he gets lonely. He's really busy with work at the moment (he works at home and doesn't meet many people). I'm really afraid of him being alone for the rest of his life. So I thought, in a moment of inspiration, why don't I post him a bio up on an Internet dating agency thing?

But I'm not sure. He's very proud (hence the reason I can't get him to go out and socialise in pubs etc), and I don't want to insult him. But I do want him to find someone that he can talk to and relax with, besides his three bratty children (myself, my brother, and my sister).

I'd be grateful if anyone had any ideas or suggestions on this, I'm really stumped. Should I just let nature's take its course, or try to play cupid (without the nappy, of course)?
He'll hate it if you try to do it for him. Tell him what you've just told us, and then suggest he does it for himself. But if he doesn't want to, leave him be. It's not up to you to tell him he shouldn't be single. Being single is fine for some people.
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(Original post by The Nerdy One)
My father. Fifty years old, funny, kind, considerate... and desperately single. He's been a widower now for 13 years, with on and off girlfriends.

He hasn't had a relationship in a long time, and I know that he gets lonely. He's really busy with work at the moment (he works at home and doesn't meet many people). I'm really afraid of him being alone for the rest of his life. So I thought, in a moment of inspiration, why don't I post him a bio up on an Internet dating agency thing?

But I'm not sure. He's very proud (hence the reason I can't get him to go out and socialise in pubs etc), and I don't want to insult him. But I do want him to find someone that he can talk to and relax with, besides his three bratty children (myself, my brother, and my sister).

I'd be grateful if anyone had any ideas or suggestions on this, I'm really stumped. Should I just let nature's take its course, or try to play cupid (without the nappy, of course)?
Have you tried mail order brides from Russia?
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Have you tried mail order brides from Russia?
Haaaa, I was going to pull that one but I'm not in an overly harsh mood.
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He'll hate it if you try to do it for him. Tell him what you've just told us, and then suggest he does it for himself. But if he doesn't want to, leave him be. It's not up to you to tell him he shouldn't be single. Being single is fine for some people.
If he wants to be single, then that's great, I'll leave it. But the things is, I -know- he gets lonely. Once he even put an ad in the paper, but I don't think he got a reply, and now he won't do anything about it. He's just too scared or proud to do anything.

Also, I'm know this is childish, but I can't talk to him about things like that. I don't want him to think I'm patronising him. All I want is for him to be happy.

But I will try to talk to him. Try. Really hard.
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Mail order brides. Hmm. Well, it's always an option, if I get desperate.
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If he wants to be single, then that's great, I'll leave it. But the things is, I -know- he gets lonely. Once he even put an ad in the paper, but I don't think he got a reply, and now he won't do anything about it. He's just too scared or proud to do anything.

Also, I'm know this is childish, but I can't talk to him about things like that. I don't want him to think I'm patronising him. All I want is for him to be happy.

But I will try to talk to him. Try. Really hard.
I know exactly what you mean. You just need to work out what to say before you say it. If he's all defensive about that kind of thing he might think you're being patronising, but you just need to tell him what you just said - that you just want him to be happy. It will probably bring you closer together.

Good luck!
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I'd be grateful if anyone had any ideas or suggestions on this, I'm really stumped. Should I just let nature's take its course, or try to play cupid (without the nappy, of course)?

internet dating agencies arnt a solution.

my dads single n lonely and last summer put an advert up, met a woman, then she made him more unhappy then he'd ever been when he was alone.

it was the worst thing that ever happend.

if you dad wants to join a dating agency he will, its not your place to do anything- however hard that is.

love Katy ***
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I know exactly what you mean. You just need to work out what to say before you say it. If he's all defensive about that kind of thing he might think you're being patronising, but you just need to tell him what you just said - that you just want him to be happy. It will probably bring you closer together.

Good luck!
Yup. That settles it. I'll just repeat that, and tell him I'll support him in whatever he wants to do, though I'll try to advise against mail order brides. Now I've got to just build up the courage. Blah. I'm a big, brave dog, I'm a big, brave dog, I'm a big, brave dog...

Thank you, anyway.
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internet dating agencies arnt a solution.

my dads single n lonely and last summer put an advert up, met a woman, then she made him more unhappy then he'd ever been when he was alone.

it was the worst thing that ever happend.

if you dad wants to join a dating agency he will, its not your place to do anything- however hard that is.

love Katy ***
Yeah, I think I have to just talk to him and see what he wants to do. I can't do anything because he might not want me to, or might be insulted. Blergh. Curses.

Thanks everyone.
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