Feeling Restless in Relationship

Okay the reason I'm posting this anonymously is that there are peope that I know on this forum.

Me and my boyfriend have always had a brilliant relationship, we don't fight at all, we're best friends, and we have an amazing sex life :wink:

. I always assumed that we would be together forever and get married in a couple of years maybe. I'm 18 and in my first year at uni, and he is here too. In the first term it was great having him around all the time but now I'm starting to feel a bit claustrophobic. This is so unusual for me - at home, we lived in each others pockets, and we have a more individual social life here, but for some reason I'm starting to feel like this :confused:

I'm starting to wonder what it would be like with other guys, and if I'm really in love at all. I feel like I've lost an integral part of me which lets me feel things. I know that sounds stupid but its like.. in the past, if I thought about losing him, I'd get really upset, but now its not affecting me all :confused:

and i just dont understand why not.

We've been together for 2 years, but still have fun and things. I'm just not sure if things are starting to go stale. Does this happen to other people, things just randomly change for no reason? I just don't get it.

Any insight into the situation or comments on how to reawaken my sense of relationship would be appreciated :-) Thank you

Reply 1

Mark_UK

I suppose if your with someone for a long time things wont always be exciting and rosy. You need to decide what you want, I mean you probably do love this guy but maybe you found him too soon, maybe you want to live a little first and experience different guys but you cant have it both ways.

Reply 2

mellow-yellow

Yeh exactly, no relationship's going to be exciting all of the time, no matter what people say. But this is obviously a relationship which is worth keeping.. 2 years is a pretty long time, especially when you're 18 (or 16 when you first got together).

So maybe you have to just give it some time.. if you still feel like this in a few months time then think about it again. And even then there's no definite answer.

Reply 3

I feel exactly the same. I'm a year younger than you, in year 13. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years.
For the past 2 months I've been thinking about the relationship, whether I'm actually in love anymore and how it would be with other guys. I think what you're experiencing is totally normal. The problem with long term relationships is, as soon as a lot of time has passed things begin to become 'normal' and 'usual' between both people, it is no longer the new, exciting relationship it was even up to 6months or a year. However, things can simply go 'stale' and one or both people may change, start growing apart and wanting/feeling different things. I'm trying to work out if this has happened and whether I can adjust or whether I need to move on. But, no matter what happens I love and always will love the person I'm with, I'm simply not as 'in love' as I used to be.
Ultimately you've got to think about what you love in your relationship, how you would feel if it was suddenly stopped. You've been together for so long for a reason, you're good together. If you think it is worth saving, maybe try to change some things, do new and spontaneous things together.
It may be that you need a bit of time to work it out yourself. I think this really helps. If you decide you need to move on, make the decision before you really start pretending with your partner. This would be unfair on both of you.
Good luck x