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is this out of order?

firstly, i have problems with certain housmates since i came to uni in september. the main thing they do is buzz my room at all hours (its like an intercom system). this has been goingon for months,tho i've stopped reacting cos i know thats what they want.

then during the time when i was suffering badly with depression, they furthed it by stealing stuff from my cupboards, then leaving post-it-notes with abusive messages on them all around the kitchen

and tonight i've just come home to find a used condom on my door handle

i'm so sick of this yet if i confront them they will just deny it. i don't know what to do but its like they want to make my life hell and its starting to really get to me. im not sure how much more i can take, or what they'll do next :mad:

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Reply 1

The_Shyster

Tell your mum to wip their asses

Reply 2

dede

Do they think they are just being funny and are playing with you? Or do they actually hate you and want to make your life miserable?

Reply 3

sexysax

It is totally out of order. It needs to be stopped hun :hugs:

Reply 4

xXMessedUpXx

dede

Do they think they are just being funny and are playing with you? Or do they actually hate you and want to make your life miserable?

i imagine they find it highly amusing

maybe it wouldnt be so bad if they hadn't done what they did tonight and it wasn't just me they did this stuff to

Reply 5

Fleece

hopefully it wasnt a used condom...hopefully it was a new one with some shampoo or something in it :-\

cant you report them?

Reply 6

Zerforax

just do some sick joke back... preferable destructive
and if they ask you - if they cant handle it, dont dish it *shrugs* only way they will stop.
They will def carry on if you react to it because they will find your reaction/outrage highly amusing being as mature as they are...

Reply 7

lostinfantasies

Are they the same/similar age as you?

If so...they're acting like pathetic, little ten year olds. You'd think they were in primary school, not university.

Reply 8

Snowfall

I would say report them, and ask to be moved to a different flat.

Reply 9

twiga

Yes it is out of order, you should either report them or do the same to them :hugs:

Reply 10

Chase Me

Either fight fire with fire, or stop crying.

Reply 11

strawberry

Chase Me

Either fight fire with fire, or stop crying.

I wouldn't blame him for crying though...I mean, he's the victim of unnecessary abuse...or rather, abuse for no reason at all. Report them to the police if you have to. this is unprovoked harassment

Reply 12

Angelil

I had similar troubles with flatmates last year, although not as bad as you describe. I was the only vegetarian in my flat and the other flatmates put up loads of pictures of meat and animals and torn out headlines from magazines such as 'love us' 'don't hurt us'. They also used to hide my food while I was cooking or putting away my food shopping, and take the piss out of me for liking classical music rather than clubbing.
That was annoying and immature and to some extent it hurt me - I was bullied while at school and I didn't expect the same behaviour from my peers at uni.
However this is obviously not the same suffering you describe. If I were you I would be reporting them and arranging to move flat. You're paying the same money as them to be there and you are equally entitled to have a happy experience. All best xxx

Reply 13

PieMaster

If your resident tutor knows about the problems and refuses to do anything, goto either the accomodation office and speak to thier superior, or go to your Dean of Students office (or equivalent) and speak to them about it.

Reply 14

naelse

something a lot of students in halls seem to forget is that living in halls is a priviledge, not a right. Do you have a hall rep? If you report them, the univerity is well within their powers to ask them to find their own accomodation.

Reply 15

Sabre

Completely out of order, a joke is normally only funny once anyway. Besides most of the 'jokes' they are pulling aren't funny at all.

Best thing to do is just as naelse said, report them to the accomodation office/ administration or hall rep. They will probably be given a formal warning and then any stunts pulled after that will mean their immediate dismissal from the accomodation.

Students really do disgust me sometimes, this is just scum behaviour.

Reply 16

blissy

Certainly, it's bullying and you should report them to the appropriate people (dean? accommodation officers?). I'm sure the university won't look kindly on this behaviour.

Reply 17

cleas001

erm...this may sound like a silly questionn...but why havent your reported it or asked to change flat?

Reply 18

lovelee-jublee

cleas001

erm...this may sound like a silly questionn...but why havent your reported it or asked to change flat?

Maybe she has and nothing's been done? If that's the case then keep pressuring whoever is in charge to do something, because it is not acceptable. Some one mentioned before to collect evidence, that sounds like a good idea.

If you haven't been to someone who could sort it out like the accomodations officer then do it now, before they go any further.