Carrying on when I'm really unhappy!

Sounds to me that it's just uni you don't like. Maybe a career in Mcdonalds would be good for you?

Such a messed up situation! I wasn't really happy in my first year for many reasons so applied for another uni. Was really happy when I got accepted and thought I could finally be happy.. but no stupid me thought I would miss my friends from uni too much and didn't want to be 'weak' so I came back for my second year but now I'm really unhappy.

There's nobody I can really talk to about it. If I say anything to my mum or dad they will probably just have a go at me and say I could have left when I had the chance and that I'm being stupid. And I can't talk to friends in uni because they wouldn't understand.

It was easy to drop out at the end of first year because I didn't have to face anyone, everybody was moving out anyway. But to drop out now would be really humiliating because I would have to move out a month in to uni and everybody would notice.. people would notice I wasn't in lectures and I would have to tell my friends all over again.

The friends that I thought I would miss if I left hardly speak to me now.. we just seem to have drifted. I feel like I've come back for things that aren't even here.

I know it's probably too late to transfer to the other uni I had an offer for as well. I could try phoning but if there was a chance I could transfer I would probably have to go straight away. Also so many reasons why I should stay here like I've got nice flatmates who I can develop friendships with and met new people on my course.

One day I think I can manage to stick it out, and the next I'm thinking 'Why have I done this to myself, I wasn't happy last year so what makes me think I'll be happy this year?'

But I feel that I have no choice but to carry on. I'm going to carry on and still be unhappy for the next two years when I had the chance to start fresh!

I want to study and get a degree I just want to be happy whilst doing it. No point in giving advice if it's just going to be sarcastic also there's a lot more you can do if you don't want to go to uni.

Sorry to hear that. BUT you should never make decisions based on others. Because others, no matter who, even your best friend come and go and only you will be left behind...I say just stick with it..will make you a stronger person by the time you finish uni.

Such a messed up situation! I wasn't really happy in my first year for many reasons so applied for another uni. Was really happy when I got accepted and thought I could finally be happy.. but no stupid me thought I would miss my friends from uni too much and didn't want to be 'weak' so I came back for my second year but now I'm really unhappy.

There's nobody I can really talk to about it. If I say anything to my mum or dad they will probably just have a go at me and say I could have left when I had the chance and that I'm being stupid. And I can't talk to friends in uni because they wouldn't understand.

It was easy to drop out at the end of first year because I didn't have to face anyone, everybody was moving out anyway. But to drop out now would be really humiliating because I would have to move out a month in to uni and everybody would notice.. people would notice I wasn't in lectures and I would have to tell my friends all over again.

The friends that I thought I would miss if I left hardly speak to me now.. we just seem to have drifted. I feel like I've come back for things that aren't even here.

I know it's probably too late to transfer to the other uni I had an offer for as well. I could try phoning but if there was a chance I could transfer I would probably have to go straight away. Also so many reasons why I should stay here like I've got nice flatmates who I can develop friendships with and met new people on my course.

One day I think I can manage to stick it out, and the next I'm thinking 'Why have I done this to myself, I wasn't happy last year so what makes me think I'll be happy this year?'

But I feel that I have no choice but to carry on. I'm going to carry on and still be unhappy for the next two years when I had the chance to start fresh!

I think I remember you... Did it also involve switching the course?

Yeah I'm doing the course I want to be doing but am just hating being back here..
Feel like there is nothing for me here and I just regret coming back. One minute I feel like I'll get through it and try and be happy and the next I just feel like I can't cope here and have done the stupidest thing ever by coming back!

Tbh I don't think it's that big a deal. I did a course I couldn't cope with, didn't make a single friend and regularly considered suicide for 3 years but in the end you're there for one reason only so you can probably suck it up and stick it out to get your degree if you put your mind to it.

I'm not suicidal. I just want to be happy where I am and I'm trying.. I thought it would be better in second year, been back a month and it's not much better than before. I am trying to make it better, but I feel like I will get to the end of uni and look back and realised it could have been so much better if I'd followed my head and moved unis.. not my heart to be with friends I'm not even friends with anymore.

Remember you don't have to stay even now.

What made you decide to go back?

I know you're not. I'm just sayin', it's 3 years, you're there for a degree so your happiness isn't the 100% most important thing in the world.

At least in my experience.

It was easy to drop out at the end of first year because I didn't have to face anyone, everybody was moving out anyway. But to drop out now would be really humiliating because I would have to move out a month in to uni and everybody would notice.. people would notice I wasn't in lectures and I would have to tell my friends all over again.

Aw thanks for the advice

I'm glad I'm back in a way because I can stick at my course and I've been meeting new people and joining things. I am determined to make my own friends and not only be friends of friends to people. But it turns out one of my friends from last year is no longer talking to me and is making really bitchy comments on facebook because I didn't sit with her in a lecture. I never got the impression she really cared about me before like she NEVER invited me out or to do anything so I don't see why she has taken offence so easily. All these stupid little things make me want to drop out again but I'm trying not to let it bother me! And yeah I do think I will be stronger because I can say I can stick it out, instead of being a drop out and I can actually get where I want to be!