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what should I do? about this guy....

I have a guy friend living in another country. We've known each other for like 8 months but we haven't seen each other in like 6 months. We became really good friends in the last week we were there(we were exchange students in the same town). The thing is.. When we were there.. I just kinda liked him not really a lot but after he left I missed him A LOT and I felt I really did like him. We are still in touch and talk on he phone every month. I am back home too and i am confused whether I still like him or I just miss him? I have never had a bf and I don't even like anyone else I know.. Hes a really good friend and talking to him makes me so happy even though most of the times we talk about stupid things. I decided to think of him only as friends but its really hard and I don't even know if we'll meet again.. but there is something special there.. or its just me feeling that there is.. i don't even know if he likes me just as a friend or more.. so how do I know and what should I do?? please help???!!!! :confused:
Reply 1
On the phone every month? I'm willing to bet hes interested. To me it seems your obviously both interested in eachother.

Whether you want to pursue a relationship depends on how far away this other country is so you can decide if you can see him often enough to maintain intimacy.

Some people can do the super long distance relationship only seeing eachother once a year so you need to decide if you can do this. Although obviously if he lives in Europe or another close place then you can see eachother much more often.

Easy way to find out if he likes you is to flirt with him and see if he flirts back or you could just come out with it and ask him, although from recent personal experience the latter might not be a good way to go about it because it might scare him off.

Most importantly what are you doing phoning him when you can use MSN and skype?

..Wait let me guess he doesn't have a computer :p:
Reply 2
Sabre
On the phone every month? I'm willing to bet hes interested. To me it seems your obviously both interested in eachother.

Whether you want to pursue a relationship depends on how far away this other country is so you can decide if you can see him often enough to maintain intimacy.

Some people can do the super long distance relationship only seeing eachother once a year so you need to decide if you can do this. Although obviously if he lives in Europe or another close place then you can see eachother much more often.


umm well the reason I think he doesn't like me in that way is because I know he likes someone in his school... hmmm :frown: and he does live pretty far away...
Reply 3
Anonymous
umm well the reason I think he doesn't like me in that way is because I know he likes someone in his school... hmmm :frown: and he does live pretty far away...

By pretty far away I assume you mean other side of the world or ocean, in which case I wouldn't recommend it unless you have the finances to travel to see him.

Theres no reason why you can't like 2 girls at once, he probably just thinks you live too far away to make something of it. Although then again he could just be talking to you as a friend for advice on girls and other things.

Do the flirting thing and see if he reciprocates.

Also missing someone a lot and liking them are the same thing in my book.
Reply 4
Sabre
By pretty far away I assume you mean other side of the world or ocean, in which case I wouldn't recommend it unless you have the finances to travel to see him.

Theres no reason why you can't like 2 girls at once, he probably just thinks you live too far away to make something of it. Although then again he could just be talking to you as a friend for advice on girls and other things.

Do the flirting thing and see if he reciprocates.

Also missing someone a lot and liking them are the same thing in my book.

umm how do you know if he cares about you as a friend or something more? There are so many times when I feel that he likes me more than a friend but then I just think that he cares for me as a friend.. u know..
Reply 5
anyone??