Should I drop out? How long should I wait?

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(edited 5 months ago)

Reply 1

Aspiringlawstudent

If you haven't even been on it a week, you really ought to give it a bit more time.

Reply 2

crazylemon

Give it time for now. It hasn't been long yet. Also at some point you are going to leave home, this is easier to do at uni which is a sort of halfway house between school and the real world than being thrown in at the deep end

Reply 3

crazylemon

Original post by sph_allinson

Thanks guys, going to try and wait until the weekend I go back up home but it's so hard, never felt this depressed before :frown:

Is it just homesickness that is the problem? Because that should just pass

Reply 4

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Original post by sph_allinson

I've just started uni on Sunday and I'm sooo wanting to pack up and go move back home, I'd literally walk home if I could.

I've started a biology degree and even though I am a bit interested in it it just doesn't feel right at all for me. I'm not 100% sure on what career I want to have, but teaching is a possibility.

As well as the course not feeling right it's killing me to be away from home :frown:

, I've cried so much this week it's unreal.

Thing is I could move back home and do a teaching degree, at a uni down the road practically, which would enable me to do the job I think I want to do and obviously that would solve the homesickness issue.

I'm just so sad and depressed constantly, I can feel myself getting ill over it and that's really not what I want to happen.

If anyone has dropped out of uni or has felt similar, how long did you wait to see if things sorted themselves out? I'm going up home on the 11th Nov and even that seems too long to wait, I literally can't bear it :frown:

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Any advice at all would be handy, thanks so much :smile:

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Are you at york?? You're user name is like someone i'm fb friends with and I'm doing biology at york too and feeling the same...

Reply 5

k3ro

Original post by sph_allinson

No not just the homesickness I don't think, the course just doesn't feel right for me. I can't see myself coming out of uni after 3 years and actually getting a job biology related which worries me. It's either teaching or nursing (completely different I know) that I might want to do... and I don't need to be stuck here to do that.

...Then why did you choose to do Biology at uni?

Like everyone else has said, give it more time. You might start liking the course (since you've only been there a week, I doubt you've even scratched the surface by now). As for the homesickness... Eh. I can't really relate but I don't think it's worth crying over. Your parents aren't gonna just disppear or w/e. Talk to them on the phone or similar.

Reply 6

CharlotteM/

I feel the same. I'm not sure what I'm doing. There are a lot of people I met during my gap year working near home who I care a lot about. and if I'd known that I'd make friends there I wouldn't have left, I think, because I don't really know how to talk to other people. and I'm not sure why I'm doing this subject or what I'm going to do with it, although it seems to be/have been the only thing I enjoy/ed. So if you want to talk, you can message me. I would advise that you do wait for a bit, and that you talk to someone first, like your supervisor or something. or the open door people, like they tell you to. (and I'm at York too)

Reply 7

ECousins1

I dropped out of uni last week after being there for 2 and a half weeks. I pressured myself into going this year because of the fee rise next year when actually I wanted a gap year this year. I also got incredibly homesick as I was about 4 hours from home. I'd give it at least a week of your course being started before making your decision, but I don't regret coming home at all and I plan to apply to unis closer to home next year :smile:

(looking at winchester which is an hour away)
Good Luck!

Reply 8

j2s0n

Give it a month or two (or three). You may settle down.

Reply 9

winten

I honestly feel the same way, I believe that I chosen not entirely what i love, however I needed 1 year to realize, you should give at least few months. If you are given free tuition, this might need to be payed if you will leave too late.

Reply 10

The Owl of Minerva

All hostilites/boarders feel the same as you initially. It will only get better from now on. Life is learning through experiences. If you have lived in a bubble, than now its time to get out and embrace the world and learn how to live like a "stranger in a strange land". Relax and focus on making friends and learning from them.

Reply 11

GracefulRose

I'm at York too and feeling very homesick! It's much harder than I thought :frown:

I know what you mean about your course too- I got rejected from the subject I wanted to do but was offered an alternate. As all my other choices rejected me I had to take the alternate but as much as I try it doesn't interest me.

Reply 12

ScarletBeads

I also want to drop out.

I've been here 5 weeks and I've wanted to drop out since I got here but thought I should give it a while. However I still, 5-6 weeks later, feel miserable and unhappy and just really don't want to be here - so I think having given it a chance, I should drop out.

I've realised a few things since I've gotten here and I think they're my reasons for dropping out:

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I don't like intensive studying.

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I don't really want to do a general Arts degree, I'd either like to go straight into work or do something more vocational.

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I don't like having loads of classes a week, if I do want a degree I'd rather do something like Open Uni.

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I can't carry on trying to function fully with depression and CFS, I do get tired and demotivated a lot more easily than the average person (or more easily than I used to).

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I don't like being away from home.

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I'm not actually that keen on Psychology as an academic subject.

I'm going home next week anyway so I'm going to discuss it properly with the parents (have already discussed it at length on the phone, but in person) and see how I feel at home before beginning the drop-out process when I come back up.

I have no idea of the procedures though. Off the top of my head I know I'd need to sort out officially dropping out of uni, accommodation, student finance, unapplying for DSA, travelling back down...what else?

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Reply 13

lizlaz350

I'd really wait longer than a week - I felt really homesick for 5 days or so but once i settled in, everything improved so much.

If you want to do teaching, you can always do another qualification after your biology degree rather than doing a teaching degree so it'd still be a possibility if you stuck at it.

Reply 14

Ex-

I'm deciding whether to drop out too. The course just doesn't seem to be right for me, and despite trying to move to one which would be more suited, they said it was full.

It is possible for me to come back next year, with the fees staying at this year's rates, and change to a more suited course. Who knows?

Reply 15

wombat1346

Im in a similar position to you, Im doing Zoology at Swansea but the course isnt what I thought it was and I hate living in a city. A few things to note (dont know if these have already been said) :
1) Give it at least a month, I know it seems a long time but you need to make sure its the right decision, think if it a character building.
2) Dont jump to any conclusions to soon.
3) If you want to leave that is fine, its your choice but you MUST have a plan B sorted (Im sorting out doing a degree at a local uni so I can study from home), but im staying out until its sorted so that I dont end up with nothing.

At the end of the day we can just give are opinions on here, its totally your decision, just dont do anything stupid.

Hope that helps, btw if you want to chat IM me. :smile:

Reply 16

Beacon03

Hey,
I've been the exact same position. In my first week I cried everyday and re-considered all possible options in order to move back home. I've been here three weeks, and while it's still challenging, this is one of the biggest changes we experience at our age, so it's going to be challenging :smile:

When I look back now, I find that homesickness (for me) was bad because I knew that being back at home would be so much easier. It's common for people to knee jerk, but once you get into a routine of having lectures and seminars it gets better; but you at least give it till Christmas.
At the end of the day, always remember that you have alternatives, so throw yourself in (very cliche and i bet everyone says it) but you have nothing to lose if it all goes wrong, and so much to gain if it all goes right.
End of the day the decision is well and truly yours, but at least give it some time, you could live to regret not persevering.
Hope that helps :smile:

Reply 17

SaffronRose96

Hi, I know that this is a few years down the line from when you posted this, but I'm really feeling similarly - but like you said I have only been here for about two weeks - I was just wondering, now. A few years down the line if you think you made the right decision in leaving? I'm doing a lot of soul searching.