Is being married mid-20s rough?

sr4470

Just thought I'd gather some opinions on this, because some people seem to think you "should only be married at 30+".

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Reply 1

JackieS

sr4470

Just thought I'd gather some opinions on this, because some people seem to think you "should only be married at 30+".

in what way would being married in your mid 20's be "rough" when compared to being married at 30+?

Reply 2

sr4470

JackieS

in what way would being married in your mid 20's be "rough" when compared to being married at 30+?

Its viewed as a brash\rushed decision.

Reply 3

minimo

Of course not, virtually everyone I know wants to marry at 25-27 ish.

Reply 4

JackieS

sr4470

Its viewed as a brash\rushed decision.

well if you've only known each other a exceedingly short period of time then I can see how it might be thought of as rushed, but at the same time marriages at 30 can also be rushed.....................in my opinion there is no right/wrong time to settle down. It'd all about finding the person yu want to spend the rest of your life with. If thats when you're 23/39 then so be it........

Reply 5

sr4470

minimo

Of course not, virtually everyone I know wants to marry at 25-27 ish.

Well, I know several people in their early 20s who have settled and have children.

Reply 6

JackieS

sr4470

Well, I know several people in their early 20s who have settled and have children.

i know quite a few people who are 30+ and settled down with kids - at the end of the day when you get married is an indivual experience and therefore cannot be compared to different people especially of those of different ages. I know quite a few people who are in their 30's and aren't settled down with ids because they can't find that one person they want to be with forever

Reply 7

sr4470

People do put it off though...they view a career as higher priority, or think having a partner is bad\stressful, or they just think 20s is too early.

Reply 8

jonnyofthedead

Well, if you want a minuscule and completely unrepresentative sample, my wife and I are both 23, and have yet to encounter any roughness as far as I'm aware...

Reply 9

JackieS

sr4470

People do put it off though...they view a career as higher priority, or think having a partner is bad\stressful, or they just think 20s is too early.

people put it off for plenty of reasons not just because they think it is "rough"..................sure there will be difficult times in a marriage - financial worries etc but these will more than likely occur if you're any age

Reply 10

pumpkin7

who cares what other people think.

some people get married when they are like 16.. 25 / 26 is much better.. plus if you wait unitil you are 30+, you have less chance of having babies :biggrin:

Reply 11

sr4470

JackieS

people put it off for plenty of reasons not just because they think it is "rough"...

Thats true.

JackieS

sure there will be difficult times in a marriage - financial worries etc but these will more than likely occur if you're any age

Thats what I'd like people who place a stigma on marriage in their 20s to recognise.

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pumpkin7

if you wait unitil you are 30+, you have less chance of having babies :biggrin:

Thats another reason I dont like "late" marriages.

Reply 12

JackieS

sr4470

Thats true.

Thats what I'd like people who place a stigma on marriage in their 20s to recognise.

my fiancee and I are 23 and 24 and we've never encountered any sort of stigma...............quite a few of my mates are engaged/married and neither have they.............

Reply 13

tbm

I dont think age really matters when getting married, marriages of all ages can fail, but then again marriages of all ages can be very successful, depends on the couple. Im 22 and getting married next year (will be 23 by then, my boyfriend 25), people probably say we are too young but thats our decision, age isnt really a concern of ours.

Reply 14

sr4470

JackieS

my fiancee and I are 23 and 24 and we've never encountered any sort of stigma...............quite a few of my mates are engaged/married and neither have they.............

Maybe its just specific to my family and relatives then....

Reply 15

JackieS

sr4470

Maybe its just specific to my family and relatives then....

i take ityou're planning on ghetting married in your mid-20's? at the endof the day you're the one that has to get married and live with the person (generally) for the rest of your life...............as long as you're happy and feel old and mature enough to settle down then what does it matter what others think? My parents were engaged after 6 weeks, and then married with 2 kids all before my mum was 23 - and now they're about to celebrate their 25th wedding anniversary. If you're with the right person it doesn't matter how old you are

Reply 16

sr4470

I'd like to...although I'm single, slight problem there :rolleyes:

Reply 17

JackieS

sr4470

I'd like to...although I'm single, slight problem there :rolleyes:

lol

my parents say that being married young was the best thing they could have done. They had me and my brother early and 25 years on they are still young enough to go and do things (holidays etc) without having to worry about us as we're both now 23 and 21.................then again neither of my parents were career minded - they work to live rather than live to work and it may have been different if they had been.

Reply 18

Apricot Fairy

I'd like to be married within the next 10 years. (I'm 20 in a few weeks.) Of course, in five years' time I'll be nearly 25, and I know loads of people who are younger than that and married. It's a scary thought that I could be married within the next five years, but then I suppose if you meet the right person it shouldn't be scary at all.