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is this wrong?

Basically at uni (1st year) and am currently involved in a weird funk buddy thing with my block mate. we don't want to be a couple, but i am starting to feel like i'm missing out in meeting new girls that i could become involved with as i tied down in this funk buddy thing that isn't going anywhere. Thing is i know she would get jealous, even tho we aren't a couple and she doesn't want to be in one, which could damage our future friendship.

Help please!

Reply 1

Zebrastripes

13

If you want something more with someone, and she wont give it to you, then stop what you are doing and just be friends with her. Otherwise, you'll be with her partly and looking out for other girls, which could hurt her. If you are asking such a question, there must be some doubt in your mind as to whether you want to do what you are doing. Good luck though. =)

Reply 2

Sydney

1

This girl is a bit of a bitch if you ask me... She doesn't want you but at the same time she doesn't want anyone else to have you.... You can't be **** buddies and expect fidelity. You need to sit down with her and ascertain exactly what you are, and if you can't both be happy it's best to move on, don't waste your first year at uni feeling tied down in a relationship that isn't a relationship! :smile:

Reply 3

Leigh

15

Definitely a "talk it out" case. She's being unfair; either she wants a relationship, or you see other people, there's no middle ground; you can't be faithful to someone you aren't in a relationship with.

Sit her down and give her the ultimatum, it's not fair on either of you.

Reply 4

Bohemianthinker

1

Anonymous

Basically at uni (1st year) and am currently involved in a weird funk buddy thing with my block mate. we don't want to be a couple, but i am starting to feel like i'm missing out in meeting new girls that i could become involved with as i tied down in this funk buddy thing that isn't going anywhere. Thing is i know she would get jealous, even tho we aren't a couple and she doesn't want to be in one, which could damage our future friendship.

Help please!

I wish I had a funk buddy. All the girls I meet are into rock :frown:

Seriously though, anyone complains about having too much funk is like someone complaining about having diamond slippers. Just keep on funkin' till you meet someone who wants to funk and talk occasionally also. Then leave the sl*g you're with. Everyone wins.

Reply 5

Sydney

1

Apart from the "sl*g", who although I don't agree with her behaviour, doesn't deserve to be hurt, and clearly he's not very happy with the status quo otherwise he would not be posting.

Reply 6

Bohemianthinker

1

Sydney

Apart from the "sl*g", who although I don't agree with her behaviour, doesn't deserve to be hurt, and clearly he's not very happy with the status quo otherwise he would not be posting.

Sorry I meant slug. Though fair play on her y'know. Nothing wrong with enjoying yourself. But anyway, if he is interested in another girl he should just go for her. If he isn't dating the current girl, there's nothing tying him down. As long as both understand it's just fun between them. If she doesn't understand this, she should be told.

Reply 7

G4ry

1

Anonymous

Basically at uni (1st year) and am currently involved in a weird funk buddy thing with my block mate.!

Do you go out dancing to James Brown and all sorts together?

Reply 8

Jayjayjay

1

Would you mind if it developed into something more. If neither of you want anything more from your 'relationship' then you probably should move on if you are seeking an actual relationship. Maybe she does feel something more for you if she does not want to let go and would become as you say, jealous.

Reply 9

Bohemianthinker

1

G4ry

Do you go out dancing to James Brown and all sorts together?

I've already made that joke mate. Don't you dare encrouch on my territories. Joke intruders will be prostituted. Or something.

Reply 10

Sydney

1

Bohemianthinker

Sorry I meant slug. Though fair play on her y'know. Nothing wrong with enjoying yourself. But anyway, if he is interested in another girl he should just go for her. If he isn't dating the current girl, there's nothing tying him down. As long as both understand it's just fun between them. If she doesn't understand this, she should be told.

I agree, personally I don't have anything against casual sex and have had good experiences with so called funk buddies, but if neither are happy the set up is clearly not working....some blatant honesty is needed here, she'll thank you for it in the long run... :wink:

Reply 11

G4ry

1

Bohemianthinker

I've already made that joke mate. Don't you dare encrouch on my territories. Joke intruders will be prostituted. Or something.

Ah...sorry my friend. I didn't read it - great minds think alike though. Anyway, back to funk - i'm going to do some jiving.

Reply 12

Bohemianthinker

1

G4ry

Ah...sorry my friend. I didn't read it - great minds think alike though. Anyway, back to funk - i'm going to do some jiving.

I agree. I am personally going to funk so hard my flatmates will complain about the noise.

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