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Never going to kiss a guy
Ok, this will probably sound really wierd to most of you but her it goes anyways.
I'm definately Bi, yet I have never kissed a guy. In case you are about to ask how I know for sure if I have never kissed a guy, lets just say that that probably qualifies under the description "You don't want to know.". Just trust me on that one.
Anyways the problem ( actually blessing is more apropriate ) is that I really don't think the relationship I've been in for more than two years now will break. I love my girlfriend and I simply want it to last forever. Now I'm not the kind of person who would feel comfortable to kiss someone else when I'm in a relationship. Not even if I had the full support of my lovely girlfriend would I want to do so. It just wouldn't feel right. Thus the title sais it all. I'm either never going to know what its like to kiss a guy ( at least not in a way that I could be comfortable with ) or alternatively, my current relationship will not last. I just feel as if I lose either way. I suppose I'll be happy with my girl and she is the best thing that ever happened to me. Yet, if a first kiss with a boy would be anything like my first kiss witha girl, I'd simply hate to miss out on it.
So there you go, the probably most screwed up and unsolvable dilemma to crop up in a relationship. Stupid lose-lose situations
I don't know why I'm even posting this. Guss I just wanted to know if there is anyone arround with a similar problem.
I'm definately Bi, yet I have never kissed a guy. In case you are about to ask how I know for sure if I have never kissed a guy, lets just say that that probably qualifies under the description "You don't want to know.". Just trust me on that one.
Anyways the problem ( actually blessing is more apropriate ) is that I really don't think the relationship I've been in for more than two years now will break. I love my girlfriend and I simply want it to last forever. Now I'm not the kind of person who would feel comfortable to kiss someone else when I'm in a relationship. Not even if I had the full support of my lovely girlfriend would I want to do so. It just wouldn't feel right. Thus the title sais it all. I'm either never going to know what its like to kiss a guy ( at least not in a way that I could be comfortable with ) or alternatively, my current relationship will not last. I just feel as if I lose either way. I suppose I'll be happy with my girl and she is the best thing that ever happened to me. Yet, if a first kiss with a boy would be anything like my first kiss witha girl, I'd simply hate to miss out on it.
So there you go, the probably most screwed up and unsolvable dilemma to crop up in a relationship. Stupid lose-lose situations
I don't know why I'm even posting this. Guss I just wanted to know if there is anyone arround with a similar problem.
Hmm, well my problem is hardly that similar but I don't see my current relationship ever ending, nor would I want it to. It's amazing and I love him. But. I only slept with a few people before, and not that many times, I just feel like it would have been nice to have a gone a bit more crazy and have sampled a bit more of what was out there sex wise before settling down.
The way I see it - either my relationship lasts, which is great. Or it doesn't - and if it doesn't there must be a good reason for this, and it would be for the best, plus it would allow me to shag a few more hot guys!
The way I see it - either my relationship lasts, which is great. Or it doesn't - and if it doesn't there must be a good reason for this, and it would be for the best, plus it would allow me to shag a few more hot guys!
respect that u didnt post it as anonymous!!!!!!! well, I actully dont know what to adice you..I think u should give it time, you have all your life!!! and if you meet a boy that u will like you wont have any doubt that u have to break up with ur girl. but now, if u havent meet that guy, just be happy with ur girl, and dont think about this!!! it will come to you any way if you want it, sooner or later but will come...and anyway have u talked to ur GF about it?
evilheat
"Bi"s are funny.
Ok, so just for the sake of argument, lets assume you are right about what you are implying ( You are not, but lets just say you are, just for the sake of it). Answer me then, why, if you assume I were to be so insecure about myslelf as you were implying, would such an accusation help? Just think about it for a moment. Even if you were correct, how does that justify such behaviour. How would it possibly justify such an arrogant, self righteous and outright malicious response?
That you are in fact deeply mistaken does not make it any better. You are jumping to conclusions based on a simplified reality, that you wish to accept for no other reason than your own fears. What are you afraid off? Do you somehow fear that people will make assumptions about you? Are you perhaps simply one of the people who find it necessary to divide the world into "us" and "them" in order to maintain your rediculous preconceptions?
You know what, I don't care. Just don't post here if you have nothing helpful to say. Now be gone.
CherryGarcia
and anyway have u talked to ur GF about it?
Aye, I have. She outright gave me permission to experiment to find out, but I could never do so. Not even if I beleived that it would not hurt her. I would feel too bad about it. I know I would never leave her over something like this. Its just hard to get by some times.
At the moment I can't see myself having a relationship with anybody, if that makes you feel any better.
Onearmedbandit
At the moment I can't see myself having a relationship with anybody, if that makes you feel any better.
Can't say it does. I know I'm lucky to have someone. I would not want to have it any other way. Thats my problem, the onlyw ay I can see myself ever being able to know what its like to be with a man is if I were to get dumped, and I sure don't want that to happen. Stupid genders.
maybe you should take a break from each other? maybe not what you want to hear, beeing in a good relationship and all but sense you have been having thoughts about this it could be an idea to take a break and figure out how you feel. your girlfriend is very supportive but it isn't right to her or you to do this. i mean what you have with your girfriend is good, but if it will last i don't think it is fair to yourself to think about how things could be if you did so and so. i'm not bi but i've experienced a similar situation.
_EMMA_
maybe you should take a break from each other? maybe not what you want to hear, beeing in a good relationship and all but sense you have been having thoughts about this it could be an idea to take a break and figure out how you feel. your girlfriend is very supportive but it isn't right to her or you to do this. i mean what you have with your girfriend is good, but if it will last i don't think it is fair to yourself to think about how things could be if you did so and so. i'm not bi but i've experienced a similar situation.
She would be bound to take that the wrong way. Besides I think that would cause more harm than good. As I said before, I would not even considder to leave her or even kiss someone else while we are together. I guess I'm not as much asking for advice but rather just trying to make sense of it all this way. I know I want this to last and I really don't want to lose her. No, if we were to break up it will be she who ends it. Sometimes I wonder if I'm just scared that things are starting to move in the direction of something really long term. I feel like I'm wasting your time now. I know there is no easy solution to this and that it will be really hard no matter what happens. I don't really think it was such a good idea to make this thread in the end. Sorry to be so impossible. I know you are all just trying to help.
Are you hoping for a miracle post that will absolve you of your will to kiss a boy? I don't think its going to come, have you thought that if you kiss a boy you might want to take it a step further? You obviously really want to do it but have made up your mind that you wont until you've broken up with your girlfriend.
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