Virgin b4 uni...bad thing? views...

Hi, me and a few of my mates are still virgins and are going off to uni in september, but is it really that much of a big deal to still be one then? When people go to uni, surely there are there still some virgins there, both guys and girls? I've just been waiting for the right guy, but something my 'experienced' mate said made me feel a bit stupid and worry about it! Lol I feel a little like Jim in american pie...got until september (just kidding), but yea, anyway, what are your views on it? :confused:

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Reply 1

username9303

i don't think you'll have a problem at all, you may find the man of your dreams at uni and be able to spend lots of time with him and take things slowly. Uni isn't totally about getting laid left, right and centre so you'll be fine :smile:

Reply 2

sexysax

It doesn't matter at all. There are loads of virgins I know at uni. Don't feel pressured, just wait until you have found the right person. :smile:

Reply 3

blondie_

If you want to wait for the right guy do that it will be a lot better if you jsut jump into bed with anyway jsut to lose your virginity! there are gonna be plenty of virgins at uni! its not a big deal unless you make it one! stick to being virgin till your happy enough to lose it :-)

Reply 4

TKR

its a very big deal

you should lose it now or you'll be a laughing stock

Reply 5

Itchynscratchy

statistically i think its about 1 in 4 people who are still a virgin when they turn 18 so there will be plenty of other people in the same situation, not that it is a bad thing anyway.

Reply 6

blondie_

ignore tkr lose it wen u feel ready and in a happy secure relationship :-)

Reply 7

Itchynscratchy

TKR

its a very big deal

you should lose it now or you'll be a laughing stock

lol, you really are cruel

Reply 8

oliviasmith05

My mate is 25, and her bf is 27 and theyr still virgins...no sex b4 marriage for them - but i wldnt worry!

Reply 9

spider from mars

Yeah I know quite a few (this was one of the first things we all knew about each other in our kitchen - be prepared!) and it's no big deal to anyone really.

Reply 10

Angelil

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin when you go off to uni, plenty of people are. Just take your sweet time. Uni is a huge learning curve and for many people losing their virginity is part of this.
I would say to you to be careful. There are a few third-years who will be out to FAF (**** a fresher) and while you think you'll be able to spot them a mile off, most of them are very charming and believe me, you won't see it. It happened to me and luckily I didn't sleep with him, but that was what he wanted and he left me for it, because he didn't get it. Just keep your eyes open and the right guy will come along. There's no hurry.

Reply 11

littlemisspain

i was virgin before uni, and half the people i met were aswell, some still are, some not anymore, doesnt really matter

Reply 12

Bexxxx

It wont matter, i know alot of people who havent had sex yet. Its no ones business anyway.

Reply 13

till.anna

Don't worry, you'll have plenty of time to find the right (lucky) guy etc..
Just relax about it... worrying just makes it a bigger problem than it really is..

Angelil

I would say to you to be careful. There are a few third-years who will be out to FAF (**** a fresher) and while you think you'll be able to spot them a mile off, most of them are very charming and believe me, you won't see it. It happened to me and luckily I didn't sleep with him, but that was what he wanted and he left me for it, because he didn't get it. Just keep your eyes open and the right guy will come along. There's no hurry.

nah... that's not just for 1st year of uni... that's for life.... :blueangel

Reply 14

Love_Hearts

yeah everyones different and people lose there virginties at different ages dependent on there own experiences etc. i have a friend at uni who is a lovely attractive girl...but annoyingly lets every1 she meets know shes a virgin. it is basically like " hi my name is *** and im a virgin"....going around lettin the whole world know ur a virgin isnt the best way. so just be yourself and enjoy the time you hae in uni. im sure your bound to be swept off your feet by some guy

Reply 15

glisten

It's no big deal if you are a virgin at uni, I was still a virgin when I started uni and it didn't effect me socially (just some of my flatmates didn't understand why I wasn't having 1 night stands and tried pressuring me to have one. I didn't want to loose my virginity to someone I didn't know and regret it afterwards). I ignored them and didn't tell them that I was a virgin.

I lost it quite recently though with my bf. There are loads of virgins still at uni so I wouldn't let it bother you. Wait until you meet the right person and only do it when you are ready. Its not a race.

Reply 16

bananas1234

It doesn't matter if you are a virgin...Don't rush into anything if you have been waiting for the right guy...

Reply 17

Exoskeletal

virginity only seems like a big deal if you're a virgin.
I am not, but i have friends of all ages, some are virgins, some are sexually active. I don't differentiate between them, and no one gets picked on. we are adults after all, it's not high school.
and if it makes u feel any better, i won't be having sex with anyone at uni. I don't think it's the giant orgy fest you perhaps assume it to be...

Reply 18

slk999

Hmm, I'll probably still be a virgin when i start Uni- but then maybe loose it while there as I haven't found anyone I would loose it to that i like enough. It has to be a personal decision. No one can tell you what to do. :wink: