Advice about a girl needed :)

I'd really appreciate what you think I should do about this situation.

On Thursday I met a girl when I was out. I was steaming but we talked for an hour then pulled twice.

We exchanged numbers and she told me not to 'disappoint' her by not texting back. I texted her on Friday to see if she was going out on Friday night (she told me she was) but she replied saying she had too much work/was too tired.
However, she came out and she made the first move to come up to me. I was sort of hit on the spot and my friend just buggered off so I didn't really say much. Anyway, I ended up plucking up the courage to go and speak to her and we went away and sat down a kissed/held hands/etc etc.

I was on the top of the world at this point until my best mate told me that he'd been speaking to someone very reliable who said that she's been pulling this guy since before Xmas but she doesn't know if she likes him. (The source told me that to my face). I was abseloutly gutted and if I'm honest, if I crashed my car driving home that night, I don't think I would have cared.

Anyway, I decided to text her and say to text me if she was going to a party on Saturday night. She never replied but I got the location of the party mixed up and she ended up going to this party and pulling that guy.

We got told this via a text from the 'source' at the party and decided it was best not to go. On Sunday morning she texted asking if I had had a good night but I said I didnt come because she was getting off with someone. She replied asking if I was joking but I said I wasn't joking, I was just silly.

I felt really bad about saying this but it was what my friends told me too text. I thought either she's messing me about or she only pulled that guy since she's been pulling him since Xmas.

My problem is I have never felt this way about a girl before and shes something different to all the other girls I've seen/liked. I want to text her to ask her where I stand because I can't get her out my mind and its really brought me down.

Is this a good or bad idea? I'd just like to hear some 'neutral' advice from someone else?

Thanks a lot :smile:

Reply 1

Devil Bunny

Awww

You should always know where you stand, i would txt her and find out cos you will kick yourself if you dont :top:

Good luck

Reply 2

turkish_delight

10

talk 2 her and find out
or u will regret it forever

Reply 3

annagruber

Knowing where you stand is always a lovely thing to know, but at the same time, as indu.mitra says, she *could* be one of those girls who likes the thrill of the chase and feels that when a guy shows interest, the game is over. personally, and with many of my friends, it's preferred if a guy shows interest.

Also try to avoid doing it all by text-it distances you from her, and is too easily ignorable. It's cute once in a while, but nothing beats a call/face to face.

hope it all works out

Reply 4

Indu.Mitra

sweetness, I'm sure u really like her but txting her saying you didnt come out cos she pulled someone else is being too clingy too soon!

The minute you start asking the her for a clarification of where you stand with her, you begin setting yourself back in the relationship. He who can stand the mystery the longest is strongest! Appearing care free, nonchalant, and slightly aloof about whether she likes you or not works magic when it comes to sparking and heightening her interest in you.

If you make it seem like your totally dependant on her liking you back it would put her off... you've got to make it seem like shes not the only noe for you, at least then she knows she has to work a bit for u.

I was told to text her saying that to let her know that I won't be *****ed about because I don't know many girls that ***** around with your head like that.

Im also not in a relationship with her. I need to find out if theres a chance before I move on.

Reply 5

Davie_Moyes

1

Is this text ok..

Hey...., hows it going? I need to know if you are seeing that guy and if not, is there any chance of something happening between us?

....x

Does that sound a bit crap or should I include I like her a lot?

Reply 6

Is this text ok..

Hey...., hows it going? I need to know if you are seeing that guy and if not, is there any chance of something happening between us?

....x

Does that sound a bit crap or should I include I like her a lot?

Reply 7

OneEightSeven

1

Anonymous

Is this text ok..

Hey...., hows it going? I need to know if you are seeing that guy and if not, is there any chance of something happening between us?

....x

Does that sound a bit crap or should I include I like her a lot?

No no no... dont put "i like you a lot", this sounds like a girl who likes the chase to me. (to quote one of the other people here). If you want a relationship with this girl, go ahead and write the message, but it will be make or break for you.

If it were me, I'd forget writing a message at all and would go out and find some other girls to meet. Plenty more fish yadda yadda. If what your friend is telling you about this "other fella", is in fact true, then your lady friend has got some excess baggage that SHE needs to worry about, not you. Just my $0.02

Reply 8

annagruber

Anonymous

Is this text ok..

Hey...., hows it going? I need to know if you are seeing that guy and if not, is there any chance of something happening between us?

....x

Does that sound a bit crap or should I include I like her a lot?

nooooooooo

something along the lines of 'Hi. Put me straight on a few things, like what you see me as and if you are going to continue that other guy.'

If she has any decency, she should be pretty straightforward in answer to that. but liek i said earlier, there are some things to do by text, and somethings not to do by text. this is one of them. you can only get truely straight answers if you're face to face. (although i understand that that can be difficult to arrange)

with writing stuff like that, you need to think it over, cos girls read into everything FAR to much. (guilty as charged)

Reply 9

username30638

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Anonymous

Is this text ok..

Hey...., hows it going? I need to know if you are seeing that guy and if not, is there any chance of something happening between us?

....x

Does that sound a bit crap or should I include I like her a lot?

How about saying it to her in person :confused:

I would hate it if someone used a text to ask me a question like that.

Reply 10

twinkledust

2

You weren't with this girl was you?? You can't really claim her as yours after one kiss. Just ask her, you've got nothing to lose. Just don't put i like u a lot. She could see it as far too much.

Reply 11

Lol, we pulled more than once. Twice on Thursday, all over each other on Friday.

I spoke to a really good friend and basically he said I shouldnt have sent what I did but she shouldnt have lead me on.

So I texted saying,

Hey..Im sorry I misunderstood blah blah. Can I ask if you are seeing someone. X

So donno.... :frown:

Never lucky though!!!

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