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Give up video games? waste of time?

Hey,

Just recently Ive been thinking about selling my xbox and giving up on gaming entirely.

I love gaming, im currently playing dark souls and its amazing and Im looking forward to MW3 and BF3, but I think its like my cryptonite. id rather stay in and play games than go clubbing or play football and it bores me and frustrates me these days.

Not only that but i keep thinking about what im missing out on, I dont have a girlfriend and I genuinely think that video games have contributed largely to that as Ive had plenty of opportunities. I used to do loads but recently i get up to little.

Ive tried limiting myself but it takes effort, and its too much of a hassle. Id rather have it and play it freely or not have it at all.

I dont want to be sitting at my tv playing games anymore but I also dont want to be taking drastic measures that I might regret.

Anyway I think Im going to give up on it as its not healthy for me, some people struggle with drugs, others with alchohol or cigaretter... for me i think its gaming.

What do you think? are video games a waste of time and should I give up? Does this apply to you too?

lemme know

:smile:

On a side note, read this hillarious blog I found.
http://kingpinlifestyle.com/how-to-quit-playing-video-games/
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Reply 1
As the girlfriend of a pretty hardcore gamer, pleaseee give it up! :wink: Aha.
Only you know what's gonna make you happy! I do also like to play video games but I know that I can limit myself, and that I will turn them off to do something in the real world.
There's more to life than video games, but they are good for a bit of fun & de-stress now and then. :smile: If you enjoy them I wouldn't cut them out completely..
It would be hard for me to give up completely. But if you want to increase you outdoor activities and time at the pub then go for it.
Reply 3
Sometimes trying to 'give up' completely often fails. Just as with diets. If you try to simply give up all fat food immediately and completely, it often fails. I remember when I had my addiction to an online mmorpg and clocked 250 days of gameplay on it. I tried many times to 'quit' completely by getting rid of all my online wealth and stuff but it never worked - having 'quit' something was far too hard. Instead, I just chose one day to not log on. And the next, and the next. I could still log on if I wanted to, but i just challenged myself each day not to. And eventually it worked and i was able to quit. I can say my life has got better since too, health wise, girlfriend wise and relationships wise. Then again, MMORPG is a different story to many other video games, and I still enjoy games of fifa with friends on my ps3.

Basically I would just suggest what worked for me me. Don't say to yourself 'i quit' and sell your xbox and all that. People who take radical approaches fail. Just try to challenge yourself each day not to log on. And eventually it will become less and less hard. You will see that you've not logged on for a week and the next week will become less hard, and the week after even less hard. But for some reason, actually knowing that I could log on but was chosing not to helped me. Instead of the mindset of 'i want to log on but i can't', i had 'i could log on, but i don't want to'

Hope this helps :smile:
Reply 4
Original post by Samz
As the girlfriend of a pretty hardcore gamer, pleaseee give it up! :wink: Aha.
Only you know what's gonna make you happy! I do also like to play video games but I know that I can limit myself, and that I will turn them off to do something in the real world.
There's more to life than video games, but they are good for a bit of fun & de-stress now and then. :smile: If you enjoy them I wouldn't cut them out completely..


I think your right! :smile: if you can limit yourself its worth it but im getting to old for them anyway.

And that sounds really funny, I bet your always like 'stop playing cod... we can have sex?'

'...yeah just after this game'

lol kiding :wink:.
Well, if you ever do get a girlfriend you'll have some pretty impressive finger skills after all of those years of gaming.

...I'm sure she'l be fond of that.
Reply 6
Original post by Just Josh
Sometimes trying to 'give up' completely often fails. Just as with diets. If you try to simply give up all fat food immediately and completely, it often fails. I remember when I had my addiction to an online mmorpg and clocked 250 days of gameplay on it. I tried many times to 'quit' completely by getting rid of all my online wealth and stuff but it never worked - having 'quit' something was far too hard. Instead, I just chose one day to not log on. And the next, and the next. I could still log on if I wanted to, but i just challenged myself each day not to. And eventually it worked and i was able to quit. I can say my life has got better since too, health wise, girlfriend wise and relationships wise. Then again, MMORPG is a different story to many other video games, and I still enjoy games of fifa with friends on my ps3.

Basically I would just suggest what worked for me me. Don't say to yourself 'i quit' and sell your xbox and all that. People who take radical approaches fail. Just try to challenge yourself each day not to log on. And eventually it will become less and less hard. You will see that you've not logged on for a week and the next week will become less hard, and the week after even less hard. But for some reason, actually knowing that I could log on but was chosing not to helped me. Instead of the mindset of 'i want to log on but i can't', i had 'i could log on, but i don't want to'

Hope this helps :smile:


absolutely, I can definetely see where your coming from. but did you not just have say a few hours off and then your sitting there in your room watching something terrible like 'homes under the hammer' and your PC staring at you saying 'PLAY ME! PLAY ME'?

did you have that at all/ and how did you cope with that lol.
Reply 7
Original post by Recon1424
absolutely, I can definetely see where your coming from. but did you not just have say a few hours off and then your sitting there in your room watching something terrible like 'homes under the hammer' and your PC staring at you saying 'PLAY ME! PLAY ME'?

did you have that at all/ and how did you cope with that lol.


So what your saying is did i find that I didn't have anything to fill my time once i quit? Well not really. I think you answered your question yourself in your original post - 'Not only that but i keep thinking about what im missing out on, I dont have a girlfriend' -

You will fill your time with the things that you keep thinking your missing out on, and getting that girl you always wanted. Maybe that book that's been on your shelf for the last year you never got round to. Or maybe cooking a meal for your family one evening. Anything, the world is your oyster :biggrin: !
Not having Xbox live helps.

Since i've been at uni, i haven't played Xbox as much as i would have done, if i was at home.
Reply 9
Original post by Just Josh
So what your saying is did i find that I didn't have anything to fill my time once i quit? Well not really. I think you answered your question yourself in your original post - 'Not only that but i keep thinking about what im missing out on, I dont have a girlfriend' -

You will fill your time with the things that you keep thinking your missing out on, and getting that girl you always wanted. Maybe that book that's been on your shelf for the last year you never got round to. Or maybe cooking a meal for your family one evening. Anything, the world is your oyster :biggrin: !


This is what Im thinking. If i dont have it to play i'l inevitably get bored, (and theres only so much internet surfing and tv watching someone can do) i will eventually start seeking out other things to do like sport and socialising.

Thanks for the help, out of interest, your not addicted to your PS3? do you still play your MMRPG?
Reply 10
Original post by Chicharito14
Not having Xbox live helps.

Since i've been at uni, i haven't played Xbox as much as i would have done, if i was at home.


Im at uni too. except I have live :/.
Solution: Find a girl that plays video games.
I wouldn't give up completely, there's nothing wrong with playing games in moderation, and I really don't think it matters how old you are. I like other peoples ideas that you challenge yourself not to log on and soon time will pass and you won't want to play anymore. However, if it's something you enjoy doing then you should do it. Could you perhaps limit yourself to only playing games once or twice a week? I was also wondering, why do you think that limiting how often you play games hasn't worked in the past?

As for coping with the free time and temptation, you should find some other way to spend your time, be it going out with friends, taking up a new interest, reading a book, drawing, learning an instrument, whatever you want to do really! Try a few different things and see what you enjoy the most.
On the days you aren't playing your xbox you could unplug it and keep it out of sight. I know that sometimes if I want to play a game but my consoles aren't plugged in I can't be bothered to set them up and I'll do something else instead! :biggrin:

I hope I've been useful, even just a little bit lol :smile: Good luck!
Reply 13
Original post by michaelhaych
Well, if you ever do get a girlfriend you'll have some pretty impressive finger skills after all of those years of gaming.

...I'm sure she'l be fond of that.


lol those years of Call of Duty games finally paying off. your a funny guy. :biggrin:
Ever since I reached University I haven't touched a game. Not have the urge or the time anymore.
Reply 15
Original post by Little Hobbit
I wouldn't give up completely, there's nothing wrong with playing games in moderation, and I really don't think it matters how old you are. I like other peoples ideas that you challenge yourself not to log on and soon time will pass and you won't want to play anymore. However, if it's something you enjoy doing then you should do it. Could you perhaps limit yourself to only playing games once or twice a week? I was also wondering, why do you think that limiting how often you play games hasn't worked in the past?

As for coping with the free time and temptation, you should find some other way to spend your time, be it going out with friends, taking up a new interest, reading a book, drawing, learning an instrument, whatever you want to do really! Try a few different things and see what you enjoy the most.
On the days you aren't playing your xbox you could unplug it and keep it out of sight. I know that sometimes if I want to play a game but my consoles aren't plugged in I can't be bothered to set them up and I'll do something else instead! :biggrin:

I hope I've been useful, even just a little bit lol :smile: Good luck!


I dont know why it hasnt worked in the past.

One time I unplugged, boxed and hid it all out of site and went a week without just fine, without to much bother. So this leads me to believe I could go forever.

If I leave it in its always there and on my mind if im bored.

If I take it out it will take effort to put it back like you say, and I may wean myself of it but then as soon as it goes back i'l just relapse into the same state. so maybe just ditch it altogether?

Do you have a games console? how often do you play?

And yes you have helped, every contribution helps :smile:
Reply 16
HEY EVERYONE I was just google-ing solutions and found this hillarious articlce... READ IT!. :wink:

http://kingpinlifestyle.com/how-to-quit-playing-video-games/
i think you are right.
You see it becomes a problem when you have to make threads on forums about whether you should give it up.

A normally social person should be able to say 'i think i'm gonna go out a bit more now' and just do it. So yeah I think you do need to stop, cut back at least.

I don't really know how you feel because I haven't been hooked on videogames since over 3 years ago and it was sort of fine cause everyone was (Call of Duty 4 :tongue:) so I wasn't missing out on much.
Reply 19
Original post by hassi94
You see it becomes a problem when you have to make threads on forums about whether you should give it up.

A normally social person should be able to say 'i think i'm gonna go out a bit more now' and just do it. So yeah I think you do need to stop, cut back at least.

I don't really know how you feel because I haven't been hooked on videogames since over 3 years ago and it was sort of fine cause everyone was (Call of Duty 4 :tongue:) so I wasn't missing out on much.


are you calling me socially retarded? :/ because i probably am lol.

Ive made my decision im gonna sell it all. thanks for the reply.

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