confused in the head!?

I’m in a bit of a dilemma and I would love some advice on what I should do. I really like a certain guy and for about 6 weeks now I feel that there has been a kind of connection even though we don’t speak all that much (not the same friends). At first I wasn’t sure and thought perhaps I was imagining it but now I’m pretty sure that he likes me. I won’t go into detail about reasons for me thinking this but even my friend who hates him has said that she has seen that there is a connection between us. We have kissed and he told me about a month ago that he’d broken up with his girlfriend. One of my friends told me last night however that there is a rumour that he is seeing someone. I guess now, I’m just not sure how to act. I don’t know whether I should continue showing that I like him or whether I should stop. I don’t understand why he would continue all the signs to liking me for the past couple of weeks if he is seeing someone else. I would love some advice on what to do or from any guys who can give me an insight into what he may be thinking.
Thanks

Reply 1

Poica

14

Out of interest, where else in your body would you be confused except your head?
By the way, he's evil and using you. Use his broken body as a target for archery practice.

Reply 2

Madprof

12

The first thign to do is see if you can find out if these rumours are true. Could you find out through friends? It sounds like there is definately something between you, but whether it's love or just friends, I don't know. Hopefully the former: it certainly seems like it!

Reply 3

rachelrainbow32

2

oooooh poor you. Lol i shouldnt give you any advice at all because ive just messed-up a situation like that. Just i dont know, maybe you should say something, well i think you shoud 1. decide if ypu really like him. and then 2. maybe hint to him and then 3. see what he dus.

Reply 4

Madprof

The first thign to do is see if you can find out if these rumours are true. Could you find out through friends? It sounds like there is definately something between you, but whether it's love or just friends, I don't know. Hopefully the former: it certainly seems like it!

Thanks for the post. Yeah, one of his friends is in my seminar and we talk quite a lot. So I have thought about asking him whether this guy is seeing someone but then I just think well hang on do I want him to know that I really like his mate? And what if it backfires? I do think I'm not forward enough when it comes to a guy I like. I mean, with this guy the whole holding eye contact thing happens but I mean I don't really see him all that often so it's difficult to make it obvious that I like him. I just don't know whether I should risk inquiring through his mate...cos he WILL work out that I like his friend. When I was once talking to the guy I like, and this friend was there - he suddenly turned around and looked and said 'Get a room you two!'...all we were doing was talking! Does this mean the guy I like has said something to him? But then I still can't help but think what's he doing all this for if he's seeing someone else...

Reply 5

Poica

14

Anonymous

Thanks for the post. Yeah, one of his friends is in my seminar and we talk quite a lot. So I have thought about asking him whether this guy is seeing someone but then I just think well hang on do I want him to know that I really like his mate? And what if it backfires? I do think I'm not forward enough when it comes to a guy I like. I mean, with this guy the whole holding eye contact thing happens but I mean I don't really see him all that often so it's difficult to make it obvious that I like him. I just don't know whether I should risk inquiring through his mate...cos he WILL work out that I like his friend. When I was once talking to the guy I like, and this friend was there - he suddenly turned around and looked and said 'Get a room you two!'...all we were doing was talking! Does this mean the guy I like has said something to him? But then I still can't help but think what's he doing all this for if he's seeing someone else...

No, it means this friend thinks you're spending so much time together you must be going out. Guys don't sit down together and say "I really like her... :redface:

" like we girls do, they either talk to another girl about it or don't say anything.
Personally I wouldn't touch him with a bargepole, but then again I'm fairly down on relationships right now so don't take me overly seriously.

Reply 6

Madprof

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Anonymous

Thanks for the post. Yeah, one of his friends is in my seminar and we talk quite a lot. So I have thought about asking him whether this guy is seeing someone but then I just think well hang on do I want him to know that I really like his mate? And what if it backfires? I do think I'm not forward enough when it comes to a guy I like. I mean, with this guy the whole holding eye contact thing happens but I mean I don't really see him all that often so it's difficult to make it obvious that I like him. I just don't know whether I should risk inquiring through his mate...cos he WILL work out that I like his friend. When I was once talking to the guy I like, and this friend was there - he suddenly turned around and looked and said 'Get a room you two!'...all we were doing was talking! Does this mean the guy I like has said something to him? But then I still can't help but think what's he doing all this for if he's seeing someone else...

I think you've got to be brave and ask his mate! It sounds clear from what he said the mate thinks there is/was something going on between the two of you, so he wouldn't be too suprised if you asked him about the guy you like. Do it subtly though. I know you don't want to be in the situation where you like him and he doesn't like you back, but it's worth the risk!

If you really don't want to ask the mate, could you get one of your friends to ask his friend? A tad long-winded, (and smacks a tad of junior school!) but I guess it's a possibility.

Of course, you could always stalk him day and night and see if he meets up with a girlfriend ... :wink:

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